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Well - dad has passed away..

seg2426
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My brother and I went to the game, after speaking w/dad nurse who said go, he'll be fine for a cpl days at least, maybe cpl weeks.

As soon as we got to our seats, got the phone call he was rushed to ICU, pressure bottomed and H&H too. They transfused 2 more units in ICU.

My brother and I ran out down the stadium ramps, flagged down a cop and had a police escort form stadium to our car a mile and a half away. From where we were, my dad was another 2 hours away.

We made it though. He passed away at 4:15am.

I guess his tumor hemorrhaged, massively. He struggled towards the end which was so hard to see. I just felt so helpless for him. But ultimately we were by his side as we said goodbye.

He was diagnosed 8/19/11 and died 1/15/12.

Now we know why he could eat better the past couple of days.

I am a mess.

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chemosmoker
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My heart and my families hearts go out to you to in your time of loss. PLEASE don't blame yourself for having gone to the game as that is what Dad had wanted for you, and you made it by his side before he passed thankfully.

We wish you all the love an support in your time of loss and I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. I am am sure he is no longer in pain and no longer has to suffer.

We are here for you should you need ANYTHING.

May God bless your dad and take good care of him now that they are together.

Eric

ifalk
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I am so so so sorry to hear this. I am fairly new here and I read your post from earlier. Glad you were able to be with him. Stay strong prayers are with you and your family.

Ida

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TerryV
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Parents are special breed. They are so important to us, their children. Thank God for the role a good parent plays in our lives.

Please hold your memories close and "take them out" as needed to bring a smile. That's what your dad would want, I believe.

Condolences,

Terry

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sandy1943
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Praying for God's comfort in the day's to come. Don't have regret's for having gone to the game. You were where he wanted you to be.
Sandra

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Daisylin
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I'm so sorry for you loss. What a devastating disease. I am so glad you were able to be with dad when he passed, and I know how helpless and terrifying it is to watch someone you love so much slip away, with nothing you can do to help. I'm glad you were able to hold him and help him transition to his next phase in his journey. May you find comfort in all of your memories in the days to come.

Chantal

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paul61
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I am glad you were able to be with your Dad at the end. He is now beyond the pain and suffering of cancer. May God provide you and your family with peace and support during this difficult time.

With my deepest condolences,

Paul Adams
McCormick, South Carolina

BMGky
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It is sad to hear about your Dad. Glad you tried to go to the game. It seemed like that's what he wanted you to do, and I'm glad you got back in time. Prayers for your family. Your Dad is in comfort now. BMGky

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fredswilma
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May you and your family find comfort and peace in the coming days and weeks, so glad that you were able to be at his side, it would have been a great comfort to him.
Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Ann

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MissusB
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This is so difficult, I know. We've lost so many the past weeks and months. Praying for you and your family and that God wrap his arms around you in the coming days.

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ritawaite13
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray that wonderful memories will bring you some comfort. Eric is right, don't feel badly about going to a game. Only God knows when someones time on earth is over and there's no way anyone could have predicted this. The upside for your dad is that he's no longer suffering. He's still with you in spirit so make him very proud! Weap when you need to and smile when you can.
Hugs and prayers to you,
Rita

annalan
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I send my deepest sympathies to you and your brother. Dad is at peace now and out of pain. You are bound to be "a mess" you must be in shock and who wouldn't be. Only time can heal. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Ann (2)
wife of Alan T3N1M0

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Donna70
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So sorry for your loss. Glad you were able to get to be with him at the end. You would even be more devastated if you had not made it back in time. My thoughts and prayers are with you, this is one ugly disease and so sorry your Dad went thru so much with it.
Donna70

sangora
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For you I am so sorry for the loss of your dad, but for him we all know that he is now at peace and comfortable. You and your family have my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time of loss. You will have many difficult moments over the coming months but always try to remember the good times you had with your dad. Sam StageIV

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cher76
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I am so saddened to hear of your loss. My husband, Rickie, passed away on January 3rd, so I understand how difficult this is. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Cheryl, wife of Rickie, dx stage IV EC, Oct. 2010
Mets to bones and brain

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Ginny_B
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May dad rest in God's peace and may you find comfort during this difficult and sad time.

froggerjen
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I am so sad to hear this, and prayers are with you during this very difficult time.

Jen

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JReed
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We are so sorry to read this news. May God wrap His loving arms around each of you and provide comfort and peace during this very difficult time.

Peace,
Judy & Don

PMT
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I am very sorry for your loss..I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I know how you feel.
Paula
sister to Teresa
dx 4/16/2011
stage IV EC

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rose20
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Of course you are in a mess. Like William stated, "but when our loved ones pass on, it always leaves us "in a mess." We never want to let them go."

This is so very true, we NEVER want to let them go.

Prayers for you and family.

rose

Freida
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I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. As others have said, don't feel guilty about going to the game - your dad wanted you to and I am sure your going made him happy. I have seen this with Bill - he feels guilty that his illness is affecting the things i do (which of course he shouldn't), but he really wants me to continue with certain things (that are less important to me since this has happened) and i can tell that it is very important to him that I do continue with them. I am sure your dad felt the same way and that he felt great happiness at the thought that you were getting to go to the game.

I am so glad you made it back in time to see him. Hugs to you and your family.

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Raleighdon
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I am so sorry for your loss. I guess I was relatively young when I was dianosed last summer, and so far am recovering pretty well. It was pretty touch and go for a few weeks, though and I could never have made it through without the love and attention I received from my wife and especially my two grown sons who really came through for us. I would wake up in the middle of the night and there was Josiah (son #1 - 33 y.o.) sitting by my bedside. It was such a huge relief to have that support, even though they couldn't be there all the time. Your dad wanted you to go to the game. He knew that life has to go on and if he was anything like me, he wanted you to try to keep living life. It doesn't make the sadness of losing your loved one any less. My deepest sympathies to your family at this very painful time.

Rick0311
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I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Rick Watson

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unclaw2002
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I am so sorry for your loss. And it is okay to feel like a mess - it will be that way for awhile give yourself permission to miss your dad. Then you will begin to have days you feel a little better and can smile when you think about him --- and then wack you will be a mess again. But we were both so lucky to be there for our dad's and to have been there after they got sick and I am sure your dad knew how much you loved him and so lucky to have dad's in our lives. Hang onto that during the coming days.

Hugs,
Cindy

seg2426
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Thank you everyone

I am just so raw and overwhelmed. I mean I knew it was going to happen, and expected it for the most part. But I am completely raw right now. My emotions shift by the hour..

Services are settled, some of his bills have been canceled, meeting with lawyer next week, have started cleaning out his home..

But it's hard for me to want to do anything but lie in my bed wrapped in one of his favorite blankets and hugging one of his shirts. I'm 35 years old... and I miss my Daddy. So so much.

We would talk every day, throughout the day. I don't have that now. I miss him and I want him back. But I know he's no longer suffering. I don't know what I will do without him. I'm crying as I'm typing this. My heart hurts so much, like there is a large hole..can't breathe, it just hurts.

Thank you for everything. My thoughts are with all of you as well since you all have to deal with this horrible illness in some way as well.

Freida
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I am so sorry. Of course you are hurting right now. It sounds like you had a wonderful relationship with your Dad. In time, I hope those precious memories of the time you spent together will be a comfort to you Hugs.
Freida

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Proactive Daughter
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How terrible. I feel for you. My heart is aching for you during this difficult time. BIG HUGS to you :(

Jennifer

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ABC321
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Very sorry to hear this. Your dad is in a better place.
Love from our family.
Steve

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