Irishwhispers

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tjhay
tjhay Member Posts: 655
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
It is with a heavy heart that I come to you, my sisters, today. There are many here that have not had the joy or honor of meeting our Irishwhispers. Sadly they never will. Trish (Irishwhispers) Bonn died last night, after a long and vicious battle against the beast.
I met Trish here on CSN in the chat room and we quickly became good friends, and sisters. We were diagnosed around the same time and went through treatment together. Then after treatment instead of drifting apart we started making plans to get together. Than shortly after her one year anniversary of completion the beast returned as mets to the liver.
I want to tell you a little about my friend so that you to will know the spirit, the strength the courage, the wisdom of this woman. Trish ended all her chats and her posts with i love you more my luggage, I would respond to that with I love you more then my diet pepsi. Many of us were recipients of her peanut butter hugs and chocolate kisses.
My friend was a woman of JOY, laughter was her key to life. She was always ready listen, discuss, and help you see the true picture. It was Trish that encouraged me to post on the boards instead of just hanging out in the chat here at CSN. She believed I had something to contribute. I spent many hours listening to story's of the the piratical jokes that she had pulled on her children, of the weekends she spent with her grandchildren, and the joy she found in painting. Trish could make you smile no matter how down you were. She truly believed that laughter was the best medicine, and worked at spreading as much as possible. You never ended a conversation with her without having at least smiled once.
The last thing that Trish would want is for us to mourn her passing. She would want us to celebrate her life, her accomplishments. If Trish were to arrange her own funeral she would ban black, she would insist on bright colors, laughter. She would want the memory of saying the final good bye to be a joyful thing.
So my heart is heavy, but today and every day I will celebrate having had the honor and the joy of known this wise, courageous, beautiful spirit. Though I be on the verge of tears, I will think of all the laughter I shared with her.
Tonight and every night for the next week I will light a candle at sunset for her so that she will know that I am remembering her with joy, with laughter, with light. Because she lighted up this board with the brilliance of her spirit. She lighted up my life, by just being her.
Forever more I will hear the echoing in my head and my heart of her sending me peanut butter hugs and chocolate kisses, and her telling me she loved me more then her luggage.
Trish my friend, my sister. I will miss you, your wisdom, your humor, but most of all I will miss always knowing that I could turn to you any time and you would be there. Your still there you will forever live in my heart as so much more then a memory
Love you more then my diet pepsi Trish, rest well.
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  • Kat11
    Kat11 Member Posts: 1,931 Member
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    Beautiful
    Sorry TJ. I don't think she was on the boards to much when I started. However, it really does not matter. It's hard to lose anyone who fights this battle. My prayers go out to you and her family.
  • mimivac
    mimivac Member Posts: 2,143 Member
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    What to say for such a tremendous loss? Trish's spirit came through in every post. I greatly admired her sense of humor and spunk. She will be sorely missed. My condolences to her friends and family, whom she so loved. Thank you, Tj for letting us know. I have a heavy heart today as well.

    Mimi
  • MyTurnNow
    MyTurnNow Member Posts: 2,686 Member
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    So sorry to read this sad
    So sorry to read this sad news. I did not know Trish but I can see the love in your heart, TJ, for having known such a beautiful person. I'll celebrate her life with you as having been a courageous and loving spirit. Rest in peach Trish!
  • Skeezie
    Skeezie Member Posts: 586 Member
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    MyTurnNow said:

    So sorry to read this sad
    So sorry to read this sad news. I did not know Trish but I can see the love in your heart, TJ, for having known such a beautiful person. I'll celebrate her life with you as having been a courageous and loving spirit. Rest in peach Trish!

    I'm so sorry...
    I remember reading some of her posts and was fascinated with her closing line of "I love you more than my luggage". I heard someone else say it on TV a few months ago and instantly thought of Trish. I read her bio last nite and she was certainly quite a woman.

    She's at peace now and she will never be forgotten.. I too will celebrate her life with you.

    Judy
  • Christmas Girl
    Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
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    Our uniquely special IrishWhispers...
    Will be sorely missed, but - never, ever forgotten by so many. Your tribute, dear TJ, is beautiful and appropriate. And quite obviously written from deep within your heart and soul.

    Trish titled her "Expressions" page here: I Will Not Be Broken. Those five simple words made an immediate and everlasting impact on me the very first time I read them - seems so long ago now. Ever since, and always will - during my not-so-good days - I've repeated those words to myself, and silently thanked Trish for them. She knew this.

    With broken heart, Susan
  • Jean 0609
    Jean 0609 Member Posts: 2,462
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    R.I.P. Trish
    Even though I didn't know Trish, I know that she was truly a wonderful woman, after reading all the posts about her. My thoughts & prayers go our to all her family & friends.
  • mmontero38
    mmontero38 Member Posts: 1,510
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    Thanks TJ for posting what
    Thanks TJ for posting what most of us feel for our dear IrishWhispers. She was like no other. Could make a joke out of the most inundane thing. Dan used to call her Trish the Dish, because she truly knew how to dish out as well as take. I met her after I had finished my treatment, and she was just starting hers. The first time she came in the chat room I knew she was a spirit to be reckoned with. So many things happened, yet she didn't let her spirit down. But her witty sense of humor was what most captivated me of her. God needed our angel to watch over us and she will always look down from heaven at us. Good bye dear Trish until we meet again. Watch over us...Sending you peanut butter hugs and chocolate kisses. Love you more than my luggage, Lili
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
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    Thanks TJ for posting what
    Thanks TJ for posting what most of us feel for our dear IrishWhispers. She was like no other. Could make a joke out of the most inundane thing. Dan used to call her Trish the Dish, because she truly knew how to dish out as well as take. I met her after I had finished my treatment, and she was just starting hers. The first time she came in the chat room I knew she was a spirit to be reckoned with. So many things happened, yet she didn't let her spirit down. But her witty sense of humor was what most captivated me of her. God needed our angel to watch over us and she will always look down from heaven at us. Good bye dear Trish until we meet again. Watch over us...Sending you peanut butter hugs and chocolate kisses. Love you more than my luggage, Lili

    Thank you for the update and posting of Trish, I did
    not know her, however your loving and kinds words give me insight to a very special spirit - a Warrior fighting Breast Cancer to the end.

    Vicki Sam
  • Marcia527
    Marcia527 Member Posts: 2,729
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    So sad from our view point
    So sad from our view point and we will miss her. She is in no pain now. TJ you said it all. I will light my special candle for her also.
  • missrenee
    missrenee Member Posts: 2,136 Member
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    Marcia527 said:

    So sad from our view point
    So sad from our view point and we will miss her. She is in no pain now. TJ you said it all. I will light my special candle for her also.

    Thank you, TJ
    It sounds as if you were BOTH so lucky to know each other. I'm sure everything you got from her, she got from you as well. Those who knew her can only live in courage and strength to honor her memory.

    I did not know her, but your story about her inspired me to be strong and positive.

    Hugs, Renee
  • carkris
    carkris Member Posts: 4,553 Member
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    missrenee said:

    Thank you, TJ
    It sounds as if you were BOTH so lucky to know each other. I'm sure everything you got from her, she got from you as well. Those who knew her can only live in courage and strength to honor her memory.

    I did not know her, but your story about her inspired me to be strong and positive.

    Hugs, Renee

    Trish was not here as much
    Trish was not here as much when I started either, but even then I heard whispers of her and she was a force for sure. I want to expressmy sympathy to all her friends and family, her love goes on through you. God Bless
  • kjrpcb
    kjrpcb Member Posts: 41
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    HATE
    I don't use this word often because it's not a nice word. However, I HATE BREAST CANCER. I HATE the fact that this disease takes our best and brightest. Our wives, mothers, daughters, aunts and yes,some men. I HATE chemotherapy,surgery, feeling tired and losing my hair. I am not satified with 1 in 8 and will not be satified until the words breast cancer are deleted from our vocabulary and we no longer talk in terms of diagnosis, pathology and treatment. I did not know Trish but I feel really bad that such a good friend to so many is no longer with us. My heart goes out to you and her family. My best to all.
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
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    TJ,
    You summed Trish up

    TJ,
    You summed Trish up beautifully. I remember reading a book (The Little Prince I think) that all the stars in heaven are those we have lost and that the twinkling we see is their laughter. I am sure that her star will be twinkling the brightest of all. Farewell dear heart, you will be missed.
    Stef
  • Aortus
    Aortus Member Posts: 967
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    fauxma said:

    TJ,
    You summed Trish up

    TJ,
    You summed Trish up beautifully. I remember reading a book (The Little Prince I think) that all the stars in heaven are those we have lost and that the twinkling we see is their laughter. I am sure that her star will be twinkling the brightest of all. Farewell dear heart, you will be missed.
    Stef

    Beautiful tribute, TJ
    I never really got the chance to know Trish at all, but now I completely understand what a blessing her life has been, and what a loss her passing is. Thank you for sharing your gifts with us, TJ, to create this beautiful tribute to a wonderful woman.

    Joe
  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member
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    TJ
    your heart is beautiful and so are your words. Thank you for letting us know about Trish, I always loved her posts and she will be missed.
    Not much else I can say right now.
    Cat
  • roseyposey333
    roseyposey333 Member Posts: 68
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    cats_toy said:

    TJ
    your heart is beautiful and so are your words. Thank you for letting us know about Trish, I always loved her posts and she will be missed.
    Not much else I can say right now.
    Cat

    she has touched many
    wow, TJ, I didn't know her either but she has touched me too. It sounds like she was here with open arms to bring joy and laughter to such a serious topic as Breast Cancer. I love that you told her story and shared her with us.
    We are all sisters/brothers in this disease and it is a gift to get to know the best of the best here.

    Thank you, R
  • greyhoundluvr
    greyhoundluvr Member Posts: 402
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    TJ
    I wish that I had had a chance to know her - she sounds like one of those amazing people who makes an impact on your life. I wish her joy and peace after her long battle.
  • Ritzy
    Ritzy Member Posts: 4,381 Member
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    cats_toy said:

    TJ
    your heart is beautiful and so are your words. Thank you for letting us know about Trish, I always loved her posts and she will be missed.
    Not much else I can say right now.
    Cat

    I didn't know her, and, I
    I didn't know her, and, I feel that is my loss. Offering my sincerest sympathy for her to you, her family and to every one that knew her.

    Sue :(
  • Kylez
    Kylez Member Posts: 3,761 Member
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    VickiSam said:

    Thank you for the update and posting of Trish, I did
    not know her, however your loving and kinds words give me insight to a very special spirit - a Warrior fighting Breast Cancer to the end.

    Vicki Sam

    I am so sorry. Sending my
    I am so sorry. Sending my sympathy and prayers.
  • Cat64
    Cat64 Member Posts: 1,192
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    TJ
    What a beautiful description you gave of Trish. I read her profile and feel a great loss in not having the honor of knowing her. For those that did, and to her family, I'm sending my deepest sympathy and prayers.
    ♥ Cat