Jan 28, 2010 - 5:22 am
Over Zealous? I hope I do not hit a nerve; however I am pretty sure I am going to, but hey this board is supposed to be for open minds and understanding so here goes. If those of us who are believers have found a home here, a comfort level here, if we have found a place where we can openly discuss our illness on the many cancer boards that are provided for that purpose why would we also feel the need to perhaps be over zealous in our response to others. Recently I read a post from a newcomer who was expressing fear and asking for answers, answers regarding cancer, answers that could perhaps soothe her for the moment. The first two responses were from believers and they strongly stated how God would help this person, how God would be there for them and aide them in their cancer walk if they only believed. I have a strong faith and consider myself a born again Christian; however those responses irritated the dickens out of me even though they were heartfelt responses. Here was someone asking for answers to a very serious problem they have suddenly found themselves dealing with and what they got was hard core Christian wisdom. I do not wish to sound like a non believer because I most certainly am not, however I do know that when someone comes here looking for cancer help that is what they should get, being told God will help them does not help them to deal with how afraid they are, it does not answer the questions and concerns that they have and it very well may scare them away from a site that has so much to offer. God does help, that is true but we still die and no amount of faith will change that (unless of course we are alive come Armageddon) so I try to answer these folks with cancer knowledge that I have gotten from my cancer walk and figure if they are looking for religious answers or faith based answers they can always visit this board. If witnessing is on the agenda one can always get to know someone more personally via the email system CSN provides and that way if they are open to your faith it can be comfortably shared without accidentally chasing off those in need. Again please do not be offended, it is an observation I have made and I decided to write about it when someone else made a somewhat similar observation to me the other day. I would hate if my faith chased off people in need and/or those people who could help those in need, that is not what my faith is about. Sorry for the ranting but had to get this off my chest.