Did you ever wonder?

natly15 said:

I wonder about many things,
I wonder about many things, stress, chemicals, environment, hormones, food, etc. This breast cancer is affecting so many, young, old, women and men, that it seems it has become a part of the certain life style that most of us have and live. I do wonder but the doc told me I didnt cause this, so I'm trying to deal with it the best I can although I do wonder from time to time. It is what it is!!

chenheart said:

You know,wondering about
You know,wondering about this is one thing that hasn't plagued me...I lived a pretty stress-free life. I came from a loving, nurturing, large family, I was in a long term marriage (27 years) involved in my faith, a non smoker, healthy eater, and was physically active. My husband, his mom and sister are all in the healthcare profession~ we all took good care of ourselves. I was and am known as the peacemaker in the family; my sister calls me Switzerland! Not that I am neutral, per se, but can't stand drama!

I had ended my marriage about a year before I was diagnosed, but I didn't even gain "outlaws" with the divorce~my former sister in law and her husband vacationed with me and my new guy, I lived with and was the caregiver for my former mother-in-law.

I have one "troubled" sister who smokes incessantly, drinks too much, is always on the verge of poverty, has been to jail half a dozen times,has had CPS intervene in the lives of her children, etc etc etc...the law of stress and averages should land with her getting Cancer instead of me! Thankfully, I don't assign blame or think ANYONE should get this disease. It just is what it is....

Hugs,
Chen♥

aysemari said:

Never ask why, right?
At least that's what kept me sane. But I am a logical person who likes to understand things
and all this, be positive, stay positive.. made me think if I wasn't positive enough in the
past. But reading your post made me understand there's really no rhyme or reason it
seems on who gets effected. I wonder what it is we have in common.

And it blows my mind that we still don't have a cure but conquered space = }
I find it very disturbing that so many women and younger and younger in age are
getting effected. I want to get involved and bring more awareness to them. If you
leave it to main stream media they won't get a mammo till they are 50. Does
anyone here participate in awareness programs?

Ayse

pinkkari09 said:

You know I have found myself
You know I have found myself wondering, and it brings me to a bad place. I think, did I smoke too much, did I party to hard in my day, boy I was a big drinker once upon a time, did all those processed foods I ate do it, was it all the warm bottles of water in my car that I drank, was it my extremely stressful lifestyle, was it all the vitamins I took.....I could go on and on and on with all the things I put my body through that in my mind I could blame the cancer on but all in all we have no answer, we have no cure, we just have good doctors and great treatment programs. I'm anxious to change my lifestyle drastically. First I have to get through this battle. I really want to join a gym, any advice on how to cover your bald sweaty head in a gym, I sweat really bad and I'm looking into a gym with a sauna, hot tub, pool, etc. Do they make something that will stay on our heads? Just wondering? See how this crazy chemo has ran me from talking about what may have caused my cancer to joining a gym, I'm all over the map lol!! Good morning all and have a blessed weekend
~Kari

tat2granny said:

The think positive
Is driving me Crazy! I am always hearing that! But you know I can't always think positive! There are times when all I want to do is go to bed and pull the covers over my head and cry. If I hear one more person tell me "Now Denise, you have to think positive" I am gonna ring there neck! Why do some people think that, if you have a bad day and just want to sit on your pitty pot, you aren't fighting?

mariam_11_09 said:

This is my take on is that

This is my take on is that cancer is such a personal thing, really personal.

I have always been conscious of what I ate and excercise regularly etc when I told my brother I had bc he was utterly shocked! I said when one looks at diet and diet is not a problem, it is good to look deep within at the emotional and spiritual. Over the last 3 months since my diagnosis it has become increasing clear as to what is at the heart of this cancer. It is a certain energetic pattern of behaviour that I subscribe to that leaves me feeling like a pack horse, putting other people first and feeling like I don't count which results in an intense depression (lasting sometimes only minutes) and anger such that I feel my only way out is death. How convenient to get cancer!

The night I came out of surgery I was put in a room with a woman who hollered and screamed for the nurse when she wasn't there and cried and begged for the my nurse to help her when my nurse was taking care of me (the whole night). It was here that it became so clear how I had been surrounded by very demanding women in my family, where I just gave in to all of them and on some level just disassociated.

For me, this is a spiritual journey, in a way a relief because I get that I need to change this dynamic and pattern otherwise I will be dealing with bc for the rest of my life. And even if it doesn't cure the cancer at least I have dealt with something that cripples me in other ways.


I admit I don't like the glib abd superficial statements like bad diet causes cancer or stress causes cancer or anger causes cancer or whatever because I do feel it is very personal, the cause is well .... maybe it is about feeling okay with not really knowing.

Lastly, what I have found that helps me is not seeing cancer as good or bad because that seems to colour my experience. If I just see it as something I need to deal with then I deal with it and any emotions that arise when they do.