Cancer Survivors Network

i am so sorry patty.. i kept checking to see when you would post again.. i wish i could take your pain away.. i wish i knew what to say to you.. i feel like i should know what to say i lost my mother in aug and i never could figure out why all the people around me never said anything.. no i know.. i have been crying all morning. not really sure why but your story really have been on my mind alot latly.. my heart truely goes out to you.. i know how numb you feel.. i remember not knowing what to do when my mother was not there for me to take care of anymore... i pray for you to have peace.. if ever you want to talk to me i am almost always here... if there is anything i can do for you just say the word

thinking of you
Heather

Patty,
I am sorry for your loss. You will hear those words often in the days ahead. I certainly have. The dying may have been hard, but the living is even harder. I always considered my husband to be my rock, the strength in our family, but during our fight with cancer I learned that I had strength, too. I know you have shown great strength throughout this time as well. Now you will find the strength to move forward. Know that many of us have followed your story and continue to hold you in our prayers. If it's any consolation, I have lived here in this same house for 33 years. I have friends and family nearby, but I still feel alone much of the time. Take time before deciding where to go from here. Blessings and hugs. Fay

Thank you for sharing with us out here. I know your feeling and will lean on you and others when I am in the same situation. By then you will be stronger. Stay strong and believe that you will make it. It is hard I know. I posted some things on your "sedated" post and hope you take some time to listen to them.

God Bless you and know that me and others have you in our prayers.

Patty
I am so sorry for your loss. Its probably going to get harder before it gets easier so do take care of yourself and remember we are here if you need us.

Patty,

Please know that you will be in my prayers.

Just try to float along. You will wash up on a shore soon and start to adapt to the new life.

Fatima

Patty,
I don't believe we have "spoken" before but as a caregiver, I have been following Jack's story. I want you to know how sorry I am for you....my heart aches for you. My husband is battling stage iv esophageal cancer and I am terrified I will be in your shoes one day. You have shown such strength. I know you didn't have a lot of time with Jack but I hope you let all your good memories get you through this difficult time. I am praying for you.
Jane

I am so sorry. you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Denise

My heart goes out to you. Each day I too have followed your life with Jack and know that one day I too will be having to walk in your shoes. My husband has stage IV esophageal cancer and is also 49 years of age. Treasure the great memories you had with Jack and this will get you through the rough road ahead. My thoughts and prayers are with you each and every day.

Sherri

Patty- I am sorry to hear the sad news about Jack. He is at peace now and no more pain. Just remember how much he loved you, he will always be in your heart. Hugs and prayers to you.

I am new to the board but have been following your story. I am so sorry for your loss. Jack was very lucky to have such a wonderful, caring, strong woman like you at his side. I'm sure he felt peace having you there. There will be dark days ahead for you but one day, the sun will shine again for you. My husband is fighting Stage IV colon cancer and our journey is new but if the day comes I only hope I can be as strong as you. May you find peace and one day when you look at Jack's picture, a smile will come and the tears lessen. The next few weeks and months will be very difficult so please remember to take care of yourself, I'm sure Jack would have wanted that.

Patty, I'm so sorry for your sadness at this time.

Your time with Jack was short but so very special.

You will carry Jack with you always.

His heart and his spirit are now a part of who you are,you and him were so connected and will forever remain that way. You have something so special...not everyone experiences true love in their lives...you and Jack were so blessed.

I will pray for you to have a peaceful heart,
Trish