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jen2012
jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member

i can't believe we are here but my husband started hospice today.  I'm just so sad ... For him, for me, for our kids.  Not fair.

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  • janderson1964
    janderson1964 Member Posts: 2,215 Member
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    Jen I am so so very sorry to

    Jen I am so so very sorry to hear that.

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,796 Member
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    Oh Jen!

    No words can express my sorrow. 

    My heart hurts for you all. If only I could reach through this computer and hug you. 

    Sue

  • JanJan63
    JanJan63 Member Posts: 2,478 Member
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    I am so very sorry. May you

    I am so very sorry. May you somehow find peace and strength.

    Jan

  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111 Member
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    Jen:

    I am so very sorry for you and your family and what you are facing.  You have been a wonderful caregiver caring for your husband while managing a household with three children.   Yes, it is not fair and the coming days will be so sad for you.  You have been strong through this journey with cancer and that strength will carry you forward.  I know how very difficult the coming days will be for you and your children and family, it is so very heartbreaking.   May your husband be comforted by your love and be pain free and feel peace.

    Love to you and your entire family.

    Tina

  • wolfen
    wolfen Member Posts: 1,324 Member
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    geotina said:

    Jen:

    I am so very sorry for you and your family and what you are facing.  You have been a wonderful caregiver caring for your husband while managing a household with three children.   Yes, it is not fair and the coming days will be so sad for you.  You have been strong through this journey with cancer and that strength will carry you forward.  I know how very difficult the coming days will be for you and your children and family, it is so very heartbreaking.   May your husband be comforted by your love and be pain free and feel peace.

    Love to you and your entire family.

    Tina

    Heartbroken

    Jen,

    My heart is breaking for you, your incredibly brave man, and your children.

    Wolfen

  • DD3
    DD3 Member Posts: 136 Member
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    Words

    cannot begin to convey my deepest sympathy for you and your family.  I'm so very sorry....

  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827 Member
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    DD3 said:

    Words

    cannot begin to convey my deepest sympathy for you and your family.  I'm so very sorry....

     Oh, Jen, my heart is sore

     Oh, Jen, my heart is sore for you and your family. So much is not fair. You are in my heart and prayer.

     I so wish there was something more concrete I could do for you. 

     Hugs,

     CM

  • lizard44
    lizard44 Member Posts: 409 Member
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    So Sorry

    Jen, I'm so sorry.

    Grace/Lizard44

     

  • beaumontdave
    beaumontdave Member Posts: 1,280 Member
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     I'm sorry as well Jen, that

     I'm sorry as well Jen, that you and yours have to go through this. It was a painful, numbing time for me, a year ago with my wife. I wish you strength.....................................Dave

  • Daisy13
    Daisy13 Member Posts: 43 Member
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    Sending loving thoughts your way ...

    as you and your family enter this stage of your journey together.  

    It has been almost three years since my husband passed.  The hospice care we received at the end of his life was loving, kind, and supportive.  My heart aches for you and your children.  The time approaches that your loving husband will be free of suffering and although not with you in form will remain with you always in heart.  

    Peace, courage and comfort.

  • Kazenmax
    Kazenmax Member Posts: 463 Member
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    My heart is with you and your

    My heart is with you and your family during this teriible time. Sending you strength to face whatever comes. Take care of yourself.

    K

  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
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    Difficult time

    I am so sorry to hear that this is where you and your dear husband are at this point.

    I hope that your Hospice group is able to help you both through this difficult time.

    Prayers for your husband, you and your children.

    Hugs,

    Marie who loves kitties

  • LindaK.
    LindaK. Member Posts: 506 Member
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    Just plain sucks

    Jen, I am so sorry to read this.  I was in your shoes in September 2014.  It is the most devastating news after a long battle with cancer.    I can only echo the kind words of others here.  My husband was on home hospice for about 3 weeks and then I had to move him to a hospice facility for his last 11 days.  The facility was a peaceful, loving place for my husband and my family.  I was able to just be his wife there, no longer the medical caregiver.  My husband did not suffer once he got on the pain pump.  The hospice facility also provided counseling for me, our daughters and grandsons.  Take advantage of anything they may offer you and your children.

    Peace and love, Linda

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
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    Thank you all.  Seems like a

    Thank you all.  Seems like a really bad joke that we got this news on April fools day.  He was doing so well

    on chemo.  Cea went from 1100 to 64 in three treatments.  Then before chemo last Monday it was in 200s on Friday 2600 and liver function tests were bad.  Just so hard to believe.  

    Hospice came Saturday and I sent them away.  Young nurse doing what I call learning the sympathy face.  And asking so many questions I didn't want to answer.  Especially after two hours sleep.

    He wanted to come home but Doctor pushed for him staying here.  I don't think I could do it at home.  The kids and I have moved into his hospital room and it's just better this way.  And they have the most caring nurses who treat us like family.  They've cried with me, played with our 4 year old, brought us donuts on their way in and bring us coffee , muffins and cereal in the morning.  Amazing Angels.

    weve been blessed in many ways through this ordeal , including the support of you guys here.  So sad how many are gone.  I want Craig to answer my post with some words of wisdom and comfort :(

     

  • GSP2
    GSP2 Member Posts: 103 Member
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    jen2012 said:

    Thank you all.  Seems like a

    Thank you all.  Seems like a really bad joke that we got this news on April fools day.  He was doing so well

    on chemo.  Cea went from 1100 to 64 in three treatments.  Then before chemo last Monday it was in 200s on Friday 2600 and liver function tests were bad.  Just so hard to believe.  

    Hospice came Saturday and I sent them away.  Young nurse doing what I call learning the sympathy face.  And asking so many questions I didn't want to answer.  Especially after two hours sleep.

    He wanted to come home but Doctor pushed for him staying here.  I don't think I could do it at home.  The kids and I have moved into his hospital room and it's just better this way.  And they have the most caring nurses who treat us like family.  They've cried with me, played with our 4 year old, brought us donuts on their way in and bring us coffee , muffins and cereal in the morning.  Amazing Angels.

    weve been blessed in many ways through this ordeal , including the support of you guys here.  So sad how many are gone.  I want Craig to answer my post with some words of wisdom and comfort :(

     

    wishing you strength and the good fortune to have sensitive, caring staff at the hospital.

    Hope that his transition is painless.

     

    Steve

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,796 Member
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    jen2012 said:

    Thank you all.  Seems like a

    Thank you all.  Seems like a really bad joke that we got this news on April fools day.  He was doing so well

    on chemo.  Cea went from 1100 to 64 in three treatments.  Then before chemo last Monday it was in 200s on Friday 2600 and liver function tests were bad.  Just so hard to believe.  

    Hospice came Saturday and I sent them away.  Young nurse doing what I call learning the sympathy face.  And asking so many questions I didn't want to answer.  Especially after two hours sleep.

    He wanted to come home but Doctor pushed for him staying here.  I don't think I could do it at home.  The kids and I have moved into his hospital room and it's just better this way.  And they have the most caring nurses who treat us like family.  They've cried with me, played with our 4 year old, brought us donuts on their way in and bring us coffee , muffins and cereal in the morning.  Amazing Angels.

    weve been blessed in many ways through this ordeal , including the support of you guys here.  So sad how many are gone.  I want Craig to answer my post with some words of wisdom and comfort :(

     

    D*** Cancer!

    That is the sad face of Caner. It can turn on a dime. Get your hopes up and then dash them to pieces in a heartbeat. 

    I am happy to hear that you are all being taken care of. Good nurses and staff are worth their weight in gold. 

    Sit peacefully when you can. You will hear Craig's voice. Even if it is an old post, with advice from the past, it will be for you. 

    Blessings! 

    Trubrit

  • marbleotis
    marbleotis Member Posts: 720 Member
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    jen2012 said:

    Thank you all.  Seems like a

    Thank you all.  Seems like a really bad joke that we got this news on April fools day.  He was doing so well

    on chemo.  Cea went from 1100 to 64 in three treatments.  Then before chemo last Monday it was in 200s on Friday 2600 and liver function tests were bad.  Just so hard to believe.  

    Hospice came Saturday and I sent them away.  Young nurse doing what I call learning the sympathy face.  And asking so many questions I didn't want to answer.  Especially after two hours sleep.

    He wanted to come home but Doctor pushed for him staying here.  I don't think I could do it at home.  The kids and I have moved into his hospital room and it's just better this way.  And they have the most caring nurses who treat us like family.  They've cried with me, played with our 4 year old, brought us donuts on their way in and bring us coffee , muffins and cereal in the morning.  Amazing Angels.

    weve been blessed in many ways through this ordeal , including the support of you guys here.  So sad how many are gone.  I want Craig to answer my post with some words of wisdom and comfort :(

     

    Sending My Best Thoughts

    This makes me so sad to read.  I send my best thoughts to you and your family.

  • danker
    danker Member Posts: 1,276 Member
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    jen2012 said:

    Thank you all.  Seems like a

    Thank you all.  Seems like a really bad joke that we got this news on April fools day.  He was doing so well

    on chemo.  Cea went from 1100 to 64 in three treatments.  Then before chemo last Monday it was in 200s on Friday 2600 and liver function tests were bad.  Just so hard to believe.  

    Hospice came Saturday and I sent them away.  Young nurse doing what I call learning the sympathy face.  And asking so many questions I didn't want to answer.  Especially after two hours sleep.

    He wanted to come home but Doctor pushed for him staying here.  I don't think I could do it at home.  The kids and I have moved into his hospital room and it's just better this way.  And they have the most caring nurses who treat us like family.  They've cried with me, played with our 4 year old, brought us donuts on their way in and bring us coffee , muffins and cereal in the morning.  Amazing Angels.

    weve been blessed in many ways through this ordeal , including the support of you guys here.  So sad how many are gone.  I want Craig to answer my post with some words of wisdom and comfort :(

     

    HOSPICE

    I know that putting our spouse in hospice realy hurts!!!  My sympathy to you all.

  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827 Member
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      Dear Jen,
         Just want

      Dear Jen,

         Just want you to know that you and your family are in my every prayer.  Hospice is wonderful for many people but not for everyone...it was not for my family. after a hospice try, we chose the hospital route, too, and it was right for us. There is not just one way to do this. You know what is best for those you love.

         We are with you.

         Hugs, CM

  • MS2014
    MS2014 Member Posts: 58
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    So sorry to hear such bad news

    Please be strong.