Jan 26, 2014 - 10:33 pm
Olga, thanks for asking about my husband. I'll post this as a new thread in case anyone is interested because I have some observations now as both a survivor and a caretaker.
Hubby has now had 15 of 38 radiation treatments for prostate cancer. He is 70 and this cancer will probably not kill him but like many of us, he may be on some sort of treatment (hormone deprivation therapy has already begun) for the rest of his life. My hope (and this is indeed a possibility) is that his PSA will be nil after radiation and a short course (?18 months) of hormone deprivation and he can go on with life. He is doing well both physically and emotionally, but as we all well know, side effects from radiation will likely increase and fatigue will sit in. For now, he is only mildly fatigued and says he feels like he has to pee or poop all the time. The hormone deprivation treatment, like the hormone deprivation treatments many of us are on, can lead to osteoporosis and stroke, not to mention the obvious. Oh, the lovely side effects of having cancer treatments!
I've learned a bit about prostate cancer now. I've also learned about being a caretaker, altho he's doing great. It is every bit as emotionally difficult to have someone you love go through cancer treatments and maybe even more so having been through them yourself because we know the fear and trepidation we all experience as cancer patients. I want to say all those things we hate to hear like "you'll be fine" (mostly because I believe he will be), but remember how much I hated such platitudes (and still do). I have to say I've learned to keep my mouth shut and show empathy and not sympathy (I hope). I have hated to sit by as he had his biopsy and then had to have marker seeds implanted into his prostate prior to radiation. It's just icky. He did fine. I was a mess.
That's the update. We'll get through this and go on with our lives.