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CherieLW
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So as some of you may know... dad's only has one day left of treatment after today.  His birthday is Friday- the day after ending treatment.  He keeps telling me "nah, don't get me nothing...I don't want you to," etc...

I need your help.  I'm having troubles trying to figure out something special he can enjoy right now.  He can't eat- so anything food related is out of the question (I think that was obvious, but in case for those who didn't know yet).  He is so hard to buy for!  I was going to rent a pontoon and take him out bc he loves to fish, but can't really enjoy any of that right now as he is quite uncomfortable and it is so hot/humid here (heat index making it feel like over 100 degrees!) and I know it wouldn't be fun trying to keep out of the sun.  Does anyone have any suggestions? Any ideas?  I know he will be feeling under the weather still for awhile, but did anything help keep your mind off things?

I went over last Saturday and got him watching a funny movie, but I know if I bought him movies he wouldn't watch them without me making him lol.  I just want to get him something special because he means the world to me and I just want to show how appreciative I am to have a father like him. I'm really feeling stuck on what to get him.

One funny thing I got him as kind of a gag is a variety pack of stick on mustaches.  This is the first time I've ever seen my dad without a mustache in 30 years so I just thought he would giggle over it if I could get him to try on a couple (and I'll wear one too!) and take pics! ;)

Seriously though, does anyone have any ideas of things I could get him that he could enjoy now?

Thanks in advance if you have ideas! I'm racking my brain and so far... nothing!

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Not sure of all is limitations, but...

A massage maybe..., or some kind of man spa..., LOL... Though if he's like me, that might not go over well...

How about a day trip..., some old places that hold special memories for you both.... Always fun to jog down memory lane.

Visit some family or friends of his that haven't been able to make it around much...

Just a few to get you started...

JG

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Thanks John,

Those are some good ideas! Dad's just more or less, resting the majority of the time, but getting some of his friends together may not be a bad idea!

Cherie :)

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I know when I was at your Dad's point I was doing everything sitting up, especially sleeping.  My wife bought me one of those bed chairs that are soft and comfy while giving the back a ton of support.  Anyway, it really made me comfortable for the weeks when the mucous was really bad and I couldn't lay down.

Just an idea.

J.

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Thanks J! That's a good idea, I'm not sure how long the mucous will keep up though... how long did you battle that? 

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During treatment, Marcia and I stayed in Baltimore at Hope Lodge. We were away from home and our cat Socrates all week. we only saw him on the weekends before we had to go back. We missed him and ot was obvious he missed us even though we had someone stay at our place during the week. 

On the weekends and after I came home, he has been my constant companion and a very soothing influence on me. Maybe a pet to keep him company and bring smiles to his face?

"T"

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T,

That's a great idea! I just don't know how thrilled dad would be if I surprised him with somethign like that LOL.  Esp, with getting new carpets in the new house and getting ready to move soon.  He may kill me! haha jk

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Mine got zapped at the airport on my trip, so Amazon replaced it with the Kindle 8.9....you can watch movies, read books, watch TV, play games.....all from the comfort of your easy chair on a screen almost the size of an Ipad.  I got the $35 bluetooth keyboard to go with it, and little earbuds, too, so I can do anything I want wherever I sit.

How does he feel about a pet?  I got Lola when I still had 6 weeks of treatment.  Lots of older pets in the shelter who are over their baby stages need homes....and they really DO offer comfort.....plus it's a chance to do something for another creature on a daily basis....feed and water....go for a little walk and get out of the house.

p

 

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Phrannie,

Just another reason he's soo difficult to buy for... although that's another great idea, I just don't think dad would use it. I thought about a tablet, but he just isn't into it. 

Pets would be a great idea, but since his dog of 16+ years passed not too long ago and they are moving into a new house with new carpets soon- not sure he would be crazy about me surprising him with that. 

Thanks for all the ideas everyone! I'm racking my brain still...

He really enjoys fishing, but he has a million diff types of lures and things. At the new place he has a small pond... Any ideas fishermen of something I can get besides lures? I wouldn't even know where to start although I love fishing with him!

Thanks again,

Cherie

p.s. Us women aren't nearly as difficult! Someone could buy me some nail polish and I'd be tickled!

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you, dear, are one heck of a great daughter.  I'm not much help, but I'm always needing an up-graded tackle box.  Dependent on what I'm fishing for, small tackle boxes are so handy.  He may care for this.  Bless you, Kiddo.

Larry

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Awww thanks Larry! What can I say? Mom and Dad raised me right :) He loves fishing... I was looking at stuff online and since he isn't supposed to be in the sun... I actually am thinking about getting him one of those chairs  with a canopy type thing.  We shall see! Unless you all give me better ideas lol.

KTeacher
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I love my chair with the shade.  Shade moves so I think that he can cast and then put the shade where he needs it.  Lots of pockets for 'stuff' (water, SPF, bug spray, lip stuff. kleenex . . .)

zaac23
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sounds like you are doing what i thought was wonderful. giving of your time and love and making him feel he has a friend. I think having friends or relatives over to talk to would be a great idea as he might share more with them than you. keep him a little busy(what he can stand).some people shy away from cancer for many reasons ,try and reassure them he is ok and would love to see them

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make it a grill out n the back yard if hes up 2 it.  that would be fun.  let us know what u decide.

dj

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Debbie,

I wish, but he can't eat :(  I bought him and mom a new grill last year but... that's out of the question.  thanks for the suggestions though!  I'll keep you all posted! :)

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cherie, i forgot.  i'm so sorry.  Cry 

dj

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Debbie,

No worries at all dear! I'm not offended, I know its impossible to keep up with everyone! I try to remember as much as I can but I have what I call a "goldfish brain" I forget things every five seconds! lol.

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thanks cherie.

dj

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Debbie,

No worries at all dear! I'm not offended, I know its impossible to keep up with everyone! I try to remember as much as I can but I have what I call a "goldfish brain" I forget things every five seconds! lol.

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It may not be in time for his birthday but Marcia had a custom coffee mug made with a cool image of a medal and the word "Champion" on it for getting through the treatment. I drink my coffee from it every day :) It really has a special meaning. 

"T"

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great idea, t!

dj

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T,

That's a great idea!  Dad would probably use something like that too since he is quite the coffee drinker!  Do you know where she did this? 

 

I thought about getting him one of those mugs with the mustache on it. Lol, I can't wait til he gets his famous tache' back!

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Marcia got my mug at http://www.cafepress.com/   It had a design in front and back. They have lots of other stuff too!

"T"

 

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Thanks T! We have a place that does customizing, but I didn't know if they would do somethign like that or not.  It's at Easton Town Centre in Columbus, Ohio.  I will check out that site! Thanks again.

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Hopefully he will be able to go out fishing, how about SPF shirt and hat.  Sports Authority as well as on line places.  I don't know about others but winter was so cold, hard on me.  A gaitor (neck wrap) and or ear muffs, gloves.  I lost so much weight this time and sizes.  This sounds silly, but I didn't feel like going out and shopping, comfortable outfit or even p.j.'s that fit and underwear (I couldn't believe it would be so hard to find undies in my new size).

I also vote for the chair pillow and a massage sounds so good.

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I was just thinking how great an SPF hat would be and you beat me to the post :-) Not only could it be worn for fishing but any outdoor event. I have one that is SPF 50 and rolls up for travel. I think they make them for men with a flap to cover the neck too. My radiologist said to be extra careful in the sun for the first year so your Dad would get some use from it and it shows that you put allot of thought into it.

Having a daughter like you is quite a gift in itself!

If your Dad is like the rest of us, he won't be going anywhere for awhile without a water bottle. Maybe a special one with his favorite sport team or Bass Pro logo. My fav is a simple Rubbermaid one that I got at the grocery store.

Candi

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Candi,

Thanks! That's a great idea, I didn't even think of the water bottle thing... I may be able to find a special one as he is a busy bee typically. 

Thanks for the compliment as well :)

Cherie

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That's a good idea, I never knew they made SPF shirts and hats.  Sports stores carry those? Or do you order special online?

Thanks for the info!

KTeacher
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I have found the shirts at Big 5 and Sports Authority.  I am sure REI,Cabala and Bass Pro must have some.  Hats online at Sunday Afternoon, I have wide brimmed hats for summer and a wool one for winter, there are also shirts and neck wraps on the Sunday Afternoon site.  I have been very happy with my shirt, long sleeve, and I love my hats.

I also wear scarves and ear  muffs in the winter.

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Thank you, we just got a Cabella's here not long ago! Maybe I might have to stop in there later!

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Thank you, we just got a Cabella's here not long ago! Maybe I might have to stop in there later!

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Hi.  How about some UV protection clothes/neck wrap.  My first outings were to the golf course and I was really worried about the sun.  I bought a "neck gator" which wraps around the neck so that I could golf without worrying about the sun.  I have also purchased some shirts for extra protection.  I needed to feel like I could still do things that I loved so this really gave me the extra confidence that I needed to enjoy my outside activities.  Maybe you could buy this and then take him out to fish!

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Where can I get a neck gator? Any tips? That's a good idea as he has been putting cut up shirts and wrapping them around him when he goes outside.

 

Thanks!

KTeacher
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Sunday Afternoons, sundayafternoons.com

Cabela's. Bass Pro, REI

I also purchased  something called a buff, very multifunctional headwear, lightweight (buffusa.com).  I purchased mine at Stanford Cancer Gift Shop.

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Thanks so much! I wouldn't have had a clue if you didnt' tell me. Lol.  Appreciate the info!

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a fishing hat (one with great SPF and sun protection), a tackle box and you can put a gift card inside for lures and such?  That way you can give him a little present AND the gift card can be used when you take him shopping to get some things he likes.  You can even put a little sunscreen in there too :)

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Good ideas Tracy! I actually looked online and saw that some site makes "fishing baskets" kind of like easter baskets, only filled with all kinds of goodies! You all are giving me great advice!

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Material things at a time like this just don't have the same meaning as a personal message or expression how you feel about someone. It certainly is no secret how you feel about Dad and I think the best present would be just tell him and show him how much you care and appreciate the fight he just fought so he will be around for many years to come. Make your own personal card to express your thoughts. The card will last far longer than a gift certificate. he can keep it and pull it out at anytime read it and be proud of his daughter that stood beside him during his battle. Were with a gift certificate he buys something and then it's gone or a shirt that he wears for a year or two and wears it out. I have little things that were given to me during and after my battle that mean the world to me. Your Dad will remember this battle the rest of his life, especially that he ended his treatments the day before his birthday. Give him something that he won't neccessarly use just something he can look at and smile because it has a special meaning only to him and something nobody else has.

I have confidence you will come up with something that Dad will remember forever. But in the event you get him an ugly tie and he disowns you, I am always open to adopt another daughter. LOL come on you know I can't always be serious.

In hopes Dad and your whole family enjoy this special day.

      Jeff

 

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Jeff,

Lol, that last comment about the ugly tie made me laugh.  Thanks, I will think of something!  I'm so used to making him a german chocolate cake with coconut pecan icing! Not this year...:(

I just hope he's not too miserable on his bday!

Thanks for the ideas as always :)

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Have been following but had no good suggestion until Jeff's post then it hit me that that is where I am too. forget the "stuff" and do something personal. As a graphics/web person I was thinking of composting an image of some favorite location such as his favorite fishing hole then overlay that with an image of you and he sitting/standeing together and placing that over a corner so it looks like you are there. Something really memorable to look forward to once up and going again. If you are handy with crafts or kintting, anything smasll but personal would be a lot more meaningful, IMHO. don

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Thanks Don,

I'm racking my brain! Good ideas!

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But next year a fishing trip to Idaho .....  LOL  :)

 

Tim

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