Mar 22, 2013 - 8:28 am
Steve and I recently spent time talking to a nurse practitioner while waiting for Steve's Thrombosis doctor. We updated her with regards to the recent spontaneous hematoma and the extremely difficult and lengthy hospital stay. We told her how Steve who is normally very pleasant, friendly and positive was grumpy, rude and difficult. Very snippy with me. Just not himself while in hospital. Was coming off Decadron, in a lot of pain with the leg, on Dilaudid etc etc.... Many factors at play. None the less, he did not cope well. We were both worn down. Snippy with each other in front of nursing staff etc.... Not our most graceful hospital stay. The nurse practitioner told us that we both should be going for counseling with a professional who specializes in dealing with people who are coping with cancer. Would I benefit from counseling? No doubt. Unfortunately, I don't have time to go to the dentist or get my hair done. My schedule revolves around Steves appointments. I have put my own needs on the back burner. I'm sure other care givers can relate. I have to miss a lot of work in able to attend Steves's appointments. I don't want to miss work unless I have to. The question is would Steve benefit from talking to a professional? Since diagnosis, two years ago, he has seemingly coped well. Engrossed himself in his hobbies and activities and got on with his life. Has always seemed to have a good balance between understanding the severity of his situation and yet also having a positive attitude. Friends, family, neighbors etc.. have commented that they would strive to conduct themselves like Steve if faced with a serious diagnosis. I think these comments have been very reinforcing for him. Since the hospital stay he has not quite been himself. I don't think he's clinically depressed, but maybe a bit sad. Not sure why. He seems very worn down by the fight. I guess it's easier to stay strong mentally and have that fighter attitude when you feel good physically. (he is still recovering from the leg problem). Does anyone here go for therapy? Do you find it helpful? How has it helped? Do you think it would help Steve? He has so many appointments. Counseling would involve an hours drive. I don't want his life to become all about the cancer. Maybe counseling would help him and would be worth the time? He is not against the idea. He seems to leave these decisions to me. Likely a topic that may come up during counseling. Lol. I realize many may not want to comment on such a private matter. Any input is appreciated. Thanks.