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He fought the good fight!!!

KJones1969
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Quite a few of you know my husband's cancer history. Well he fought the good fight that ended about 10:12 last night. Please keep our family in your thoughts in the coming days and weeks.

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Texas_wedge
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He certainly did Karen and you, with him all the way.  I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear your sad news.  I know I'm speaking for all of us in saying we will be thinking of you and your family and wishing you peace and space to celebrate all the happy memories you will have to console you.

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rnayriv
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So sorry for your loss. May God bless you and comfort you at this time.

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alice124
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Karen,

I am so sorry for your loss. While I didn't personally know your husband (or know you except via this Board for that matter), it felt like I did and I feel a tremendous loss. We were in the fight together and John and I have been pulling for the two of you since your initial appearance on this Board. I remember the ups and downs and the hope and disappointment. But the one constant was your absolute love and devotion to him. No one could have done more than you did, and I'm sure he knew how fortunate he was to have such a compassionate, determined, loving advocate at his side throughout. Know my thoughts and prayers are just a breath away. While it sounds lame, if I can do anything. . .

 

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foxhd
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That hurts to hear. So sorry. Fox.

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roaddr23
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I spent quite awhile the other day reading your posts and learning about your husband and you...how lucky he was to have someone like you in his life...Prayers go up for him and out to you and your family as well as healing energy for your soul....It goes without saying that all of us here have your back and will be there for you...I just arrived not that long ago but feel I have been a part of this group forever...I know right now you are in a fog but I lost my Dad this past May 8 and my Mom 7 weeks later on July 1 and my beautiful Mother in Law on Sept 3. Most of us are blessed with wonderful friends but as individuals we all grieve differently...Several weeks after my Dad died several of my Mom's close friends were making her feel terrible because she hadn't boxed up his things...his glasses were still on the night table, his shoes by the bed...I know they meant well and were trying to get her to her to get back to life....My sister and I told her it was ok if his glasses were still there a year from now...and she shouldn't feel guilty or like there is a certain time frame in which she had to get over this tremendous loss...each of us has to deal with this in our way and our own time...do what you feel in your heart is right for you. My sister and I have packed up a most of parents house but the shoes my Mom wore all the time are still tucked under her nightstand where she left them and they will stay there until the house is sold.Your heart will tell you what is best for you and your husband, although not physically, will be right beside you whenever you need him.

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rae_rae
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When we lose someone on this forum, we lose a member of our family. I am deeply saddened and my heart aches for you. I cannot even begin to imagine. God Bless you and your family and may you find strength and peace during this time of deep sorrow.

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garym
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KJ,

Very sorry to hear the fight is over for your husband and wish there were words to help when I know there are none.

Thinking of you,

Gary

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Limelife50
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So Sorry the fight is over Karen,the news saddens my heart,i am proud your husband never alowed the cancer to take away his dignity.You and your family will be in my thoughts in these upcoming weeks,i hope maybe in the future you are able to come back to this board and revisit us since you are a part of us for the rest of our lives.

LKidd
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Joined: Feb 2013

I don't know your story, I have not been on here long. So sorry for your loss.

Leanne

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DMike
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Karen,

I'm so sorry. I'll be thinking of you and I wish you peace.

--David

ksaldivar1
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Karen,

I am so sorry for your loss.  Thoughts and prayers to you and your entire family.

 

Digger95
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Joined: Jun 2010

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, but please know that your husband's fight will serve to inspire others.

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angec
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Karen, cannot tell you how sad I am to hear this.  I will pray for all of you!  may bring give you comfort in hour time of need and always.  Xxoo 

KJones1969
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Joined: Mar 2012

When we started this journey on February 18th of last year with his diagnosis and nephroectomy on March 15th, 2012 I knew he was very sick but I thought we would continue to fight this journey for several years at the very least. Love you loved ones and spend as much time with them because you never know when this will happen to you. He was my husband, my best friend, love, soul mate and the person over the last year that I have been honored to spend every day with. I wouldn't trade that for anything in this world. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers as I know we will need them in the coming days and weeks.

i_love_my_dad
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I am so sorry for your loss. I am not good at comforting people in English, but I believe he is not far away and he will be with you whenever you need him. He must be enjoying the life in heaven now with no pains or sorrow. He would love to see you live happily as well. And after many years you can meet him there, and tell him your stories. We have an old saying in my country “When one day has passed in the heaven, one year has passed in the living world”, so he will not feel lonely for long. I will pray for you and your family. 

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toolman1
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Sorry, just isn't enough, as it is over shadowed by the tears of loss. I recently lost  a very good friend just last week, (not cancer related). I find reassurance in knowing he's in a much better place now.  RIP my friends. You will be missed.

saintmont
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I was sorry to hear about your loss.

KJones1969
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Thanks you very much! I have lots of people tell me that it will get better with time, I am just wondering when that time will be. He is not in pain and in a better place and that brings me a little peace but am I selfish to wish he were here with me pain and all?

KJones1969
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Thank you so much. I know he is in heaven rejoicing and not in pain anymore but it is hard as heck being here and feeling like I am all alone. I was fortunate enough to be able to spend the last 2 years with him everyday not working and I miss my husband, my best friend, my soulmate, my lover. I pray he is okay and not lonely. I am sure there were a lot of people there waiting for him. Thanks for your prayers and I'll be praying for your family as well.

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Eims
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Karen,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Eims x

 

KJones1969
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Thank you Eims. I really appreciate it. This is absolutely been the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. I can only imagine how bad it was for him.

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Texas_wedge
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Karen, it's good to see you still visit and I hope you draw some comfort from doing so and seeing that we all continue to feel for you.

KJones1969
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I am glad to see everyone doing well on here and to follow their progress. Thanks for all of your concern from everyone. You know I have grieved for over a year and didn't even realize it till after the funeral. There have been so many people that have been so good to me online and in our home town. It feels like I am in a bad dream and haven't woken up yet.

Karen

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cran1
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Sorry for your loss Karen. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

KJones1969
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Thanks Cran,

It has been a month on March 8th and seems like a nightmare that I haven't woken up from yet. I still don't understand how I lost him because he fougth the good fight. When he didn't feel like fighting it I founght it for him. :(

I am alive
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Karen,  just as you are sending prayers your husband's way I think he is helping to send grace your way. Sometimes you may feel it, sometimes you may not, but I believe it's all around you. It's an unalterable truth - half of you is missing, and you will always feel that loss. I don't think it ever goes away. But I think you do learn to live with it, just like you and your husband learned to live with cancer. You had really good days during that battle, days filled with hope and love and laughter. And you will again. Please let us know how you are doing as time rolls forward. Again, I am so saddened by your husband's passing.

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