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fishmanpa
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Hey folks,

Tomorrow is the benefit and silent auction planned and put together by my friend and singing partner. We've dubbed it Mark "T"'s Beat the Beast Benefit and Silent Auction. We're doing this to help offset my living expenses for the next few months until I can get back to work. 

There are dozens of donated items from businesses and friends. Marcia made handmade purses and wool caps and a couple of her paintings. I believe there are over 20 musicians, groups that will be performing as well. It's being held at a restaurant where my music career was re-born in January 2009. I started playing an open mic there on Sunday evenings and the next thing you know I'm out gigging again. I performed over 110 shows a year over the last two years as a solo performer and duo. 

My partner was just here and picked up the t-shirts I had made and we went over a few details. It looks like it's going to be an awesome turn out. My sister and my son are driving down tomorrow from NJ to visit and go to the benefit for a while. 

The last time I opened my mouth to sing was December 5th. It was the last gig I had booked for the year. Obviously, with everything going on, I haven't booked anything in 2013. In fact, I've had to cancel several dates. 

When I perform solo I go by Mark "T" and when I perform with my partner we're 'Sweet T' :)  Con is an amazng vocalist. She comes from a similar professional background having performed nationally with well known acts. Together there is something very special that only happens once in a great while. Two different voices that come together as one in harmony that is unique, much in the way a Crosby and Nash or Simon and Garfunkel come together.  

We are going to do a set and I was just going to play and let her sing but once I picked up my guitar and we started playing I just had to try and sing despite my throat still being very sore and severe nerve pain in my head and neck. I haven't attempted to sing since beofre my first tonsillectomy on Dec. 21st. 

Well...I can sing! I don't have the strength I normally have but I have the control and timbre. I just have to be more "breathy" is all. It sounds wonderful! Best of all, for that 20 or minutes we practiced, I felt great!

So I plan on getting as much rest as I can between now and tomorrow evening. I'm looking forward to being on stage as it will be the last time before treatment starts and perhaps the last time for the foreseeable future. I'm truly blessed and humbled by the support of my family, friends and fans. I just hope I can hold it together emotionally...

Here's to music and here's to singing!

"T" 

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T,

So very excited for you! That must be an great feeling. And remember live in the moment and I bet the emotions will keep, when my son got married, I had been so emotional with no place to dump it.. and prayed I'd keep it together for the wedding... and the surprise was for me - those emotions I feared didn't even surface.. We had so much fun at the wedding, and nothing but smiles. I hope you get the same..

And should you "you tube" anything.. we'd like the link!

Kari :)

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I am SO happy that you gave singing a try, and it turned out so well.  It gives me goose bumps hearing about all the support you have around you.....that is so so wonderful!  I know you'll do great tomorrow night....and it sounds like the benefit is going to be a true success....you must be feeling a deep sense of awe, seeing all these lives that you have touched....just by being yourself, and letting the "who" of you shine thru.  Can hardly wait to hear how the benefit went.

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We are not even near this part of my hubby's journey yet, but I've been following your treatments and progress and recent "fun" time in the hospital. It makes my throat sore just reading it and that you have the willpower to talk, much less sing just blows me away. I hope all goes really well at the benefit. Please, just don't overdo it.

Luv,

Wolfen

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So glad you have your voice at this time T, when I was told I had laryngeal cancer I envisioned never being able to talk again let alone sing. I have spent a large portion of my life on stage and have warbled a lot. Before treatment I could only whisper, magically my voice started returning midway through treatment. At the end of treatment the onco said he had scheduled me for speech therapy but I did not need it so he cancelled. A few weeks later my talking voice was back to normal (and I still had my British accent), the singing part was still gruff, I still cannot hit the high notes and certainly the falsetto has gone, so I stick just to messing around with my bass. Great you are doing a gig, I too love harmonies, and spent along time in a band that had all four of us singing, we did dome awesome harmonies. Good luck T, would love to see you and your partner perform.

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Man I'd love to be able to come and celebrate with you and listen to you jam.  Best of luck my friend, have a great night.

Joe Cortney

Dallas, TX

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T-Man

Even though we can't be there in person to hear you sing, we will all be there in spirit.

(Or we will all be in Phrannie's pocket)

And YOU BET you will kick Jack's butt....you will be an old-timer around here soon enough.

 

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T,

Best to you with your performance tomorrow. Glad you still have the singing under control and hope you also are able to enjoy the company that will surround you.  

Wish we could hear you....but know that all your warriors are with you in spirit.

God Bless,

~C 

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T,

 

Darn, I already have plans for tomorrow.  You got to give me more notice and being a silent auction I would fit right in.

 

Best of luck, you will do fine and have lots of fun.  Remember you already picked out food for your H&N dinner, you should have invited us.

 

Harmony and happiness,

 

Matt

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I am so happy for you! That is amazing that you will be able to sing at your own fundraiser, I love it! I wish we could all be there to hear it and support you.
Please come back afterwards and give us all the details!
Billie

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T

 

I am very happy for you. The beast is always threatening to take away, it is always a victory when you can beat it back to regain something you once had. Have a great time you deserve it.

 

 

Enjoy the day

      Jeff

lorig01
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Singing is a wonderful gift!  Wish I could be there.

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My son (a 51 year old throat cancer patient who has attained NED status) listened to music almost every waking moment during rad/chemo ... his last treatment was in Sept. 2012...and he has made a remarkably good recovery.  I think the music was good medicine and in many ways responsible for his positive mindset and will to survive and thrive and probably contributed to a healing response in ways that we may not fully understand.  Even when you are not feeling well enough to sing or play your guitar, it may help to just simply listen to whatever music moves you in happy, positive ways.  Sending wishes for Good Vibes, "T"...   in all the ways they can be found to make your heart sing.

 

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that your vocal cords are strong enough to sing is remarkable. I hope the benefit went well, what a great bunch of friends you  have to do this for you~~~ I hope you videoed it or at the least can share some pictures....many prayers as your treatment begins..you can do this!!

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How did you do with the singing and how was the event ?

hope you had a chance to feel somewhat normal again when you sang.

 

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Hi Ingrid,

What an amazing evening! The turn out was phenominal! I'm truly humbled and thankful. The love and support was over the top. I performed and was able to sing. I was hurting pretty bad but the coolest thing was that the pain practically went away while I was playing. Several people commented how I came alive when I was playing. Once we go through all the pics and videos, I'll post some links. Several  people were recording the evening. 

I got very little sleep last night as we had to be up early to hit the road to Baltimore for appointments. We just got in a little while ago and I'm going to get a bite to eat, take my meds and go to bed. I'm going back to work in the morning come hell or high water, even if it's for a half a day ;)

"T"

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Ingrid K
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wow, that is great !     Good for you being able to be such a big part of the festivities.  You are a strong warrior for sure.  I could not imagine being up for that when I was in your shoes.  So you certainly know how to push through it.  That will serve you well in the upcoming weeks as you start with your treatments.

Saw in another post that the mask making was no big deal for you.  It had me freaked out, but it ended up not being a huge problem.

So stay strong...one day at a time. Sending you and Marcia my best.

 

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Do Do Do...

Awesome news T.

Sing it loud, sing it clear...

JG

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Sorry I missed the post to wish you success, but glad it went well all the same.  Remarkable that you can keep control of those vocals ...

You should post a youtube of the event if you recorded it .... :)

 

Best,

Tim

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Marcia put together this compilation of photos of the performers from the benefit. The music is the title cut from my CD "A Child of Lir"

It's actually a fitting song. I wrote it in 2010. It was about feeling like I was coming out of the Valley I had been walking in for so long.

The title comes from an Irish Myth about the Children of Lir. King Lir had four children. They all had mystical powers. Their mother, the King's wife, passed away. The King didn't want the children to grow up without a mother so he married his wife's sister. The sister became very jealous of the King's love for his children and one day she went down to the lake where they were swimming and cast a spell/curse upon them that turned them into swans. For the next 600 years they were cast to the 4 corners of the earth seperated from each other. Once a year they would be pernitted to be together in the lake of their home. The only way the spell could be broken was to hear the words of the new Lord. After 600 years passed, while they were together at the lake, a man by the name of St. Patrick came upon them. He shared the Good News of the New Lord with them and they believed. The spell was broken and they became human again to live out the rest of their lives together in the castle of Lir by the lake. 

'A Child of Lir" came from my faith that God will bring me through the Valley. He's done it before and there's no reason to think He won't do so again...

Here's the link :)  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9BsL3GwwRpI&feature=share

"T"

 

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Ingrid K
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lovely music.  you have a ton of talent and you have lots of talented friends !

 

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T & Marcia,

 

Very nice.

 

Best of luck

 

Matt

katenorwood
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Hey T,

Watched the video.  Lot's of talent and lot's of love was flowing through the entire room.  I think with this type of support system and your strong beliefs.....Jack aint got a chance in he** of sticking around.  You are truely blessed my friend !    Katie

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fishmanpa
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Here are links to my set at the benefit. Con and I took the stage for a 5 song set. I can hear I'm a tad off and my S's are a little slurred but overall it's not bad considering I was 6 days out of emergency surgery :) It's a true joy to perform with Con. She's a pro (toured with Bill Emerson and Sweet Dixie for years) and has a gorgeous voice... think Emmylou Harris and Alison Krauss rolled into one (in my opinion). My goal is to be singing again in full voice by the end of the Summer. They're not going to touch my laryngnx during treatment so hopefully my voice won't be affected too much. 

Strong Enough - Sheryl Crow  http://youtu.be/d409ergI_yg

Landslide - Fleetwood Mac  http://youtu.be/fyx567JoHsM

World Spins Madly On - The Weepies  http://youtu.be/qUqs-5EFeRs

Forget About It - Alison Krauss  http://youtu.be/jOxBa05PDrY

Amazing Grace - Traditional  http://youtu.be/6hLLOTuOWhA

"T"

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alligatorpointer
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You also made my heart sing.   So much joy and hope here.  Thank you for sharing it with us.

 

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Grandmax4
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it's only 8:23am and you've already got the tears flowing...looking at the faces, the love for you radiating out~~I would have loved to been there, my type folks and music...Forget about it,love that song.....

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