Feb 08, 2013 - 10:46 pm
My Grandmother was diagnosed with cancer in 2009, since then, she had surgery to remove part of the liver after it metastized, she has undergone every type of chemo that treats colon cancer, and even with all that, the cancer has just grown. It is now in her lungs, liver, and stomach. It was decided in August to stop all treatment and hospice came in. Since then we have ridden an awful roller coaster. She will be ok one day and vomiting and on the verge of dying the next. They switched her from morphine to methadone. We have had 5 months since treatments were stopped. I have read so much about the signs of dying, the stages of dying when the end is near, but we just never really know what is going on! She forces herself to eat because I come to visit everyday for lunch, we have celebrated 104 lunches together! The hospice nurse is really no help, every time she gets real sick, they simply increase the methodone and tell my aunt to give her more adavan.
Has anyone been through this, any advice? This roller coaster is so hard and I have tried to be a rock for both my Grandma and my aunt who is her caregiver. I love my Grandmother so very much!