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I felt so bad today

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I was at the local grocery store today and was explaining about why I was being fussy about how much to put in each bag. I explained I had breast cancer and the surgery messed things up from the rib cage to the neck. The lady at the register, smiled and nodded. I knew she either knew someone with cancer or had it herself. So I asked if she knew anyone with breast cancer and she said she did. I was so excited to have her tell them about the free cut and style at Jc Penney's this month.

Then the awful question came..."Is it for other cancers, too?" Then I felt all the wind out of my sails and then some. I knew what was coming when I said, no. She said, I had two types of cancer and I get nothing.

I felt so bad. Nothing like inadvertently kicking someone who had two types of cancer down.

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The fact is you had compassion for the employee and that is what counts. Freebee's for any disease exclude people. It is not your fault. I don't know where you live or if you are financially even able to, but maybe you could get her a gift certificate to get her hair done. I love to pay it forward when I can, but not everyone can and I understand that. I'm sorry she made you feel bad, she was maybe having a bad day herself. You were still nice to offer.


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feel bad. You had no way of knowing that she had other types of cancer. You were trying to do a good thing and that is what counts.


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I never realized it before. I guess Breast Cancer does get the spotlight over the other cancers. I wish there were something that could be done for your cashier. You were kind to pass on the info to her. I wonder if she knows about the other discussion boards here? Maybe a little comfort that way would help...


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