NED is Cheating on me
I know you hate to read as much as I hate to write about NED who left me after 4 years of pretty serious relationships.
I had my PET on Monday, the date he left without notice and we have learnt about his behavior today. both my oncologist and my very supportive husband are very optimistic, because it is "just bones, ribs and pelvic". I want to vomit every minute when I realize what NED just did. I miss my NED very deeply, while it has been only less than a day. I plan to go to work tomorrow and be my normal me.
I am flying out to San Francisco on Saturday and will have additional tests and biopsy next week.
New Flower
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You still have us
We didn't leave you, and never will. NED does seem to have his own mind as others here have witnessed. He is so wonderful to have and often returns with great joy! While NED is away will you let us hold you close?
Gentle hugs my sister,
Rebecca0 -
Stable Boy
Dear New Flower,
There is a lot of living after NED leaves you. You could meet up with NED again. I did the first time around.
Remember NED isn't the only one in this awful game, the stable boy is nice to have around too. In fact, he is very, very good to know too.
Wishing you the best as you go through the first time around without NED.
Doris0 -
NED...SIROD said:Stable Boy
Dear New Flower,
There is a lot of living after NED leaves you. You could meet up with NED again. I did the first time around.
Remember NED isn't the only one in this awful game, the stable boy is nice to have around too. In fact, he is very, very good to know too.
Wishing you the best as you go through the first time around without NED.
Doris
NED is elusive to many of us.....he was with me just 19 months...Until "it" showed up in my lymph nodes 1 year ago this month...so it's back on the treadmill of chemo every 2 weeks...it sucks but it is what it is, stage IV....
I wish you the best...keep us posted, we care..
Big hugs, Nancy0 -
Дорогая Олгаsalls41 said:Hoping to meet him
I am still hoping to meet NED.But I know I will never be completely trusting of him! I hate that he left you ~ hopefully he just went for a brief time. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sandy
Дорогая Олга,
Yes, I really, really do hate to read this, and wish I could give NED a good slap in the face. He may be a suave gentleman to many of the other ladies here, but he's being an insensitive jerk to you now.
Please, please be gentle with yourself right now -- this is tough news for anyone to take. If you need to take a day or two off of work, do it -- don't try to commute and work after a night of no sleep. And enjoy your trip to San Francisco, and your time with Mariam -- if you blow off a session or two at the conference to enjoy the beautiful city, so what?
YOU are what's important right now, no matter what NED thinks.
Traci0 -
No, no, no, noTraciInLA said:Дорогая Олга
Дорогая Олга,
Yes, I really, really do hate to read this, and wish I could give NED a good slap in the face. He may be a suave gentleman to many of the other ladies here, but he's being an insensitive jerk to you now.
Please, please be gentle with yourself right now -- this is tough news for anyone to take. If you need to take a day or two off of work, do it -- don't try to commute and work after a night of no sleep. And enjoy your trip to San Francisco, and your time with Mariam -- if you blow off a session or two at the conference to enjoy the beautiful city, so what?
YOU are what's important right now, no matter what NED thinks.
Traci
and more no. Some foot stomping, crying, head shaking, fist pumping.
New Flower, I truly did hate reading your post this morning. I'm so sorry to learn about this. BUT, I've met you so I know you are a healthy intelligent vibrant woman and you will pick yourself up and get going with whatever protocols the doctors recommend and you will fight and show NED that you are the boss of you.
We most definitely are here for you.
Biggest cyber hug I can imagine is going out to you.
xoxo
Victoria0 -
Stinkin' NEDaisling8 said:No, no, no, no
and more no. Some foot stomping, crying, head shaking, fist pumping.
New Flower, I truly did hate reading your post this morning. I'm so sorry to learn about this. BUT, I've met you so I know you are a healthy intelligent vibrant woman and you will pick yourself up and get going with whatever protocols the doctors recommend and you will fight and show NED that you are the boss of you.
We most definitely are here for you.
Biggest cyber hug I can imagine is going out to you.
xoxo
Victoria
I'm mad at him too right now. I know what a jolt this is, New Flower. In some ways, the bone mets were harder to take for me than my initial diagnosis. So many hopes are dashed--but I'm trying to let that be temporary and get that strong hope and determination back. I really hate hearing that you're going through this now too.
You will soon be on a treatment to stamp down this beast once again. I wish you faith, hope, determination and courage on your journey.
Triple hugs for you today, Renee0 -
Awww, CRAP...
Mr. NED is fickle, to put it mildly. Maybe even a bit psychotic - multiple personalities, bi-polar? We love him when he's nearby - hate him when he's not. Am really, really pissed off that he's left you, Olga... Whatta jerk. (deep, deep sigh)
I'll HOPE, with all my heart, that he'll return to your side - knowing you'd gladly welcome him back. If not, Doris is correct - Mr. Stable Boy is a good alternative.
To spite Mr. NED for his nasty transgression, please enjoy your weekend getaway to the utmost.
Sending the biggest, warmest cyber(((HUG))) I can possibly manage - while making wishes & waving my magic wand in your direction, westward from here.
Kindest regards, Susan0 -
Thank you for supportChristmas Girl said:Awww, CRAP...
Mr. NED is fickle, to put it mildly. Maybe even a bit psychotic - multiple personalities, bi-polar? We love him when he's nearby - hate him when he's not. Am really, really pissed off that he's left you, Olga... Whatta jerk. (deep, deep sigh)
I'll HOPE, with all my heart, that he'll return to your side - knowing you'd gladly welcome him back. If not, Doris is correct - Mr. Stable Boy is a good alternative.
To spite Mr. NED for his nasty transgression, please enjoy your weekend getaway to the utmost.
Sending the biggest, warmest cyber(((HUG))) I can possibly manage - while making wishes & waving my magic wand in your direction, westward from here.
Kindest regards, Susan
Thank you guys for your support. I do not used to date underage people. I guess I need to reconsider it. Celebrities usually are big on boys so whatever we are celebrities too.
I trying to focus at work right now , and is scheduled for hair cut today
Higs0 -
New Flower, I am so sorry to
New Flower, I am so sorry to be reading this. I know the feeling when Ned decides to move on, and it is not a very good one. Enjoy San Francisco in spite of him. You can't do anything else until they have your plan in place anyways! But do take the time now to be good to yourself.
Hugs,
Carol0 -
Ahhh nooo
My heart is heavy and weeps for you. It is true, NED is fickle and unreliable at times. I am so mad at NED for leading you on and then going away like a coward. That is no way to treat a wonderful and kind woman like you, dear Olga.
Take heart in knowing your Sisters in Pink will be here for you and will lift you up in prayer and send positive thoughts your way. You are a tough cookie and have been through some difficult periods. I know you will be carry on and continue moving forward, no matter what.
Have a terrific time in San Francisco with Mariam. You picked a wonderful place to meet and enjoy each others company.
Big hugs to you.0 -
Olga,Bella Luna said:Ahhh nooo
My heart is heavy and weeps for you. It is true, NED is fickle and unreliable at times. I am so mad at NED for leading you on and then going away like a coward. That is no way to treat a wonderful and kind woman like you, dear Olga.
Take heart in knowing your Sisters in Pink will be here for you and will lift you up in prayer and send positive thoughts your way. You are a tough cookie and have been through some difficult periods. I know you will be carry on and continue moving forward, no matter what.
Have a terrific time in San Francisco with Mariam. You picked a wonderful place to meet and enjoy each others company.
Big hugs to you.
My heart aches for you sweet sister, but you showed that nasty beast that you were a true fighter before and I am sure you will be a much stronger one now. Feel our energy surrounding you, and may you take comfort in knowing that so many people care about you. I've got my pink gloves on standby.... Let's kick some NED booty. Stay strong sweetie...
Lorrie0 -
oh, No!butterflylvr said:Olga,
My heart aches for you sweet sister, but you showed that nasty beast that you were a true fighter before and I am sure you will be a much stronger one now. Feel our energy surrounding you, and may you take comfort in knowing that so many people care about you. I've got my pink gloves on standby.... Let's kick some NED booty. Stay strong sweetie...
Lorrie
Dear Olga-
My heart is breaking, too. I know you will deal with this latest challenge with grace. As Doris says, you now will take up with the stable boy instead, and we'll be happy to allow him to take care of so many of our sisters.
Sending many prayers and hugs. Wish I could meet you in SF Sunday.
Love,
Suzanne0 -
Oh Boy
Cancer is like an azz ... It can reel up and kick you in the head when you're not looking... I just made that one up.
You are so truly inspirational for me. I know you will find NED and dance with him again. How do I know this??? You fight like a girl!!! YUP!
Stay on top of it and have faith. I feel like I am sitting right next to you and we are doing rock scissors to see who will get to dance with NED first. Keep that in your mind. It brings smiles to my face.
When life throws you lemons, throw them back and ask for chocolate (just sayin)
xoxo
Mary0 -
Thank you very much to all for your supportMsGebby said:Oh Boy
Cancer is like an azz ... It can reel up and kick you in the head when you're not looking... I just made that one up.
You are so truly inspirational for me. I know you will find NED and dance with him again. How do I know this??? You fight like a girl!!! YUP!
Stay on top of it and have faith. I feel like I am sitting right next to you and we are doing rock scissors to see who will get to dance with NED first. Keep that in your mind. It brings smiles to my face.
When life throws you lemons, throw them back and ask for chocolate (just sayin)
xoxo
Mary
It is hard to be cheated, especially as I tried my best
I think I overestimate my strengths. I just finished to read my PET scan report. It sucks for sure. I cannot even pack my suite case, However I printed boarding pass.
Have a nice weekend everyone
New Flower0 -
The ChapelNew Flower said:Thank you very much to all for your support
It is hard to be cheated, especially as I tried my best
I think I overestimate my strengths. I just finished to read my PET scan report. It sucks for sure. I cannot even pack my suite case, However I printed boarding pass.
Have a nice weekend everyone
New Flower
The Poor Clare Monastary here in Cleveland has an open chapel all day where people come and just pray. I go there to find peace and pray for the different needs to the only One who can help. My tears were falling WITH you and FOR you there. And for MsGebby too, and for Poetrywife. The presence of God was sweet there.
Gentlest hugs my sister.
ps: With NED it was just a physical attraction anyway. There is so much more for you.0 -
Olga, I do not have the words ...rallendorfer said:The Chapel
The Poor Clare Monastary here in Cleveland has an open chapel all day where people come and just pray. I go there to find peace and pray for the different needs to the only One who can help. My tears were falling WITH you and FOR you there. And for MsGebby too, and for Poetrywife. The presence of God was sweet there.
Gentlest hugs my sister.
ps: With NED it was just a physical attraction anyway. There is so much more for you.
sorrow and anger fills my mind and soul. I hate that this happens to any Sister,
as it is just another reminder to all of us, that our world can change within
minutes.
I know you have the grace, strength and power to fight the beast, again -- and
come out VICTORIOUS.
As our cherished ChenHeart states, "we do what we have to, in order to do
what we want to".
I am here for you -- day, or night my gentle, sweet, kind Friend.
Vicki Sam0 -
Damn, I hate reading this!
Damn, I hate reading this!
Hugs,
Linda0 -
Oh Cuss Words!!!!
My sweet friend i have been out of town and away from the internet and did not see this until just now, my heart is aching for you because I know what it feels like to have NED step away from you as he has done the same to me twice, however he has returned and he very well may do the same for you. Do not lose HOPE, I am here for you I love you my friend you are a true Survivor!
GIGANTIC GENTLE HUGS,
RE0 -
Unbelievable!!
I really can't imagine the utter shock of being hit in the gut with another diagnosis. I hurt for you dear lady. I imagine the numbness and just going through the motions are a friend to you right now. It's too much to deal with it AND feel it all at once. God bless you. One foot in front of the other.0
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