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Ginny_B
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It is with a broken heart that I tell you my mom is gone. She slipped into a coma 9 days ago and left me at 2:30 this afternoon. My brother stopped by to visit and I think that's all mom needed - her two children together with her. I was holding her and talking to her. She never regained consciousness. She took two breaths and the Lord took her into His arms.

This is the darkest day of my life. I am so happy for my mom's peace and comfort, but words cannot describe my pain. Everything was beautiful. I will cherish this for the rest of my days.

There are no words to describe the loss of my mother. The pain and emptiness is overwhelming. I had some alone moments with mom. I love you mom and will forever miss you.

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stephikindred
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Oh Ginny, I am so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you had your moments with her and were able to communicate and even at the point when she could not respond I'm glad you kept talking and holding her hand and just sharing the quiet moments together. I hope the lifetime of memories of your mom will help ease your pain and comfort you. She'll always be with you...now she's with you in spirit.

With deepest sympathy,
Stephanie

Freida
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Joined: Nov 2011

Ginny, I am so sorry you have lost your beloved Mom. You are a wonderful daughter and did such a wonderful job of taking care of her. I know you are going to miss her dearly. Hugs. Freida.

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jgwright
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Ginny, take time to grieve, and then take stock of her life and yours. You've been a truly great daughter, and you know your mom loves you. And so do we all.

--Jerry

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AngieD
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Ginny, I'm so glad you and your brother were with your mother this afternoon and that she is at peace. I'm praying for strength for you and all the family in the days to come. Just know that you were a wonderful caretaker for your mom and showed her how much you loved her. I know she is smiling down on you with love and pride.
Angie

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TerryV
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Your mom put up a hard fight. She truly was a woman of great spirit and determination. It's not difficult to see where you get your spunk from :)

You have been an excellent caregiver for your mom. And think of the special times, the alone moments, the "heart" moments, that you and your mom shared during this time. I believe you both learned a lot about each other.

You've made some wonderful memories. Thank you for sharing your mom with us.

With love & hugs,

Terry

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ritawaite13
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Joined: Aug 2011

I think Terry said it best...thank you for sharing your mom with us. I think I know how incredibly hard this was on you. You poured your heart out to us and we all embraced you. Your love for you mom was evident in every post. You were an amazing caretaker and my heart aches for you. This awful cancer has been so hard on so many of us.
I pray that wonderful healthy memories of your mom will bring you some comfort over the coming days and weeks. Saying goodbye to someone we love so much is the hardest thing we'll ever endure. I'm glad she was comfortable and pain free and you were able to be right there with her. I'm also so glad you had that magical moment when she got mad. As difficult as it was for you to be her principal caregiver, you'll never regret doing that for her - and for yourself. May God wrap his arms around you and give you some peace and rest.
Love Rita

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cher76
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Ginny, I am so very sorry to hear of your mom's passing. You have been a loving and devoted daughter. Know that you did everything you could for her, as I am sure she knew that as well. May you find comfort knowing she is now without pain, and let the love that held you both so close continue to bring you comfort and strength. This disease is just so heartbreakingly cruel. Everyday it is robbing us of our loved ones way too soon. I pray for peace for you and your family and for an end to the pain and suffering that EC causes.
Love,
Cheryl
"Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.". Eskimo proverb

annalan
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Joined: Jul 2011

So very sorry to hear about your mum. You were with her every step of her horrible EC journey, you couldn't have done more. Please take comfort in the fact that she is now at peace, no more suffering for her and walk down memory lane with all your lovely memories. Big hugs to you and your brother.

Ann
Wife of Alan, who departed this life January 31st.

bingbing2009
Posts: 179
Joined: Feb 2011

Ginny, we are so sorry to hear this news. Just take things one day at a time. Time truly does help heal the pain.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Melinda and Vaughn

sangora
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Joined: Mar 2011

Ginny your mom was a special lady who raised a special daughter. The time you and she spent together these last few months will sustain you thru these dark days. Know that she is in a happier place and free of this disease. Sam

BMGky
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Joined: May 2010

So sorry to hear of your loss. Our deepest condolences. BMGky

Guigna
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Joined: Feb 2012

Sounds like she fought a tough battle. With you at her side.

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Tina Blondek
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Hi Ginny
I am sending you my deepest sympahties to you and your family on the loss of your mom. I lost my dad to esophageal cancer in March 2010. Your story sounds familiar to ours. My brother lives in NJ we live in Va. My brother made the trip to Va the day my dad passed.
My dad was surrounded by his family when he passed. He went peacefully, like your mom.

It is a wonderful memory for us to have. They are not longer suffering, no longer in pain, no longer battling cancer. May God grant you and your family the strength and peace you all need at this difficult time. Keep in touch. I do, it has been two years, I come here often. It helps me to help others.
Tina in Va

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JaneO
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Joined: Dec 2011

So sorry to hear your mom has passed due to this awful disease. I think losing your mom is one of the hardest thing to deal with. I was very close to my mom also and it doesn't matter how old you get, you still think of yourself as their daughter. Hold onto the memories and be proud of the care you gave her. She is now in heaven looking over you and smiling.
Jane

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MissusB
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I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I know you will be forever grateful that you were able to be there with her the last few moments of her life. I do understand what you mean when you say there are no words to describe what you are feeling. I loved seeing a picture of you and your Mom in better times on Facebook. You both looked so happy! I will keep you close in my thoughts and prayers. Love to you - Kim

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captdave
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Ginny, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. As you said your mother is at peace and pain free now. my deepest sympathies and condolences to you and your family.

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birdiequeen
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Ginny,

What a full picture you have painted here on CSN of your mother. I wish I could have known her in person. I feel for your loss. It is hard for me to fathom the loss of a parent. Take time to find your feet again. You have an angle on your journey with you.

Godspeed,
Lee Ann

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unclaw2002
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Joined: Jan 2010

Ginny,

The next few days will be a blur. Take things a day at a time and remember to take care of yourself too. I know how difficult this is --- I still have an empty place in my heart since my dad left us but I think he is looking out for us. But it doesn't make it easier when I want to pick up the phone and hear his voice.

Love and hugs,
Cindy

prettywoman513
Posts: 23
Joined: May 2010

My heart breaks for your sorrow. I can feel it in your words. I am truly sorry for the loss of you mama. I know the pain you are feeling. It does ease a little with time and you will, one day, be able to smile at the memories.

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Heeran
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Joined: Aug 2011

I can only imagine the devastation you feel. Sounds like you two had a very special bond. I'm glad that you had special time with her and I'm sure your mom felt very loved by you. I'm very sorry for your loss.

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mardigras
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My heart breaks for you Ginny.
You have been so brave and so strong for so long that now
I know your precious Mum will feel it is your time to
grieve. May the lord hold you and keep you all whilst you
try to cope with this awful time and soon bring a time
when you can look back at your wonderful memories with
happiness and no pain.
We all care a great deal about you Ginny and will be with
you every step of the way.
You have been a wonderful daughter and a smashing person.
God Bless you.
Love and hugs
Marci x

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Luvs24
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Joined: Oct 2011

I am so sorry Ginny. My thoughts and prayers go out to you. My God be with you and give strength.

Beth

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Ginny_B
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Even though I have to go in search of Kleenex reading your kind words, I come here to read and take comfort. Today, my brother and I are going to mom's house to start a daunting task. Mom's things are being donated to a battered women's shelter. Mom would like that!

monica_sss
Posts: 57
Joined: Dec 2011

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom. This disease is somewhat of a marathon, and it sounds like your Mom ran hard. Best wishes to you and your brother as you heal and cope. Hugs.

Rick0311
Posts: 38
Joined: Jan 2012

Ginnny, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

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