Sep 21, 2011 - 1:55 pm
Hi everyone. It's been a long time since I posted here. My mom was diagnosed with kidney cancer 2 years ago and had a radical neph. At the time the doctor said they got everything they could see and he sounded pretty encouraging even though he said her cancer was much more aggressive than what they had anticipated. In the 3-4 weeks it took from her seeing the doctor until the surgery the mass grew considerably.
Last year when she went for her 1 year follow up they found she had a hernia and blamed it mainly on the infection she got after her surgery. She had hernia surgery last December and has been doing well except she does think she may have another hernia.
She is due for her 2 year checkup (next week) and as of today she still hasn't made the appointment. She has a lot of back pain and is very over weight so I'm not assuming the pain is cancer related or anything but she's frustrating me because even though she tells me she is going to make the appointment she doesn't and yet I see her in pain from her back (and do worry somewhat about cancer since I know that is one of may symptoms of kidney cancer). I realize she's probably afraid of having to have another hernia surgery because she always has a rough time after surgery with her bladder waking up the way it should. She isn't married to my father anymore and my sister lives 2 hours away so during the week I'm usually the one she relies on for help with whatever. I want to be there and help her but I also want her to take care of herself and follow up with her appointments.
I don't want to make my mom mad but I do want her to take care of herself.