Mastectomy this Tuesday

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Treecy1106
Treecy1106 Member Posts: 144
edited April 2011 in Breast Cancer #1
I am usually so strong.
Was a single parent raised 2 boys.....had a very difficult job and managed to excel in it.
I am a musician performed in front of many people and mostly for charity.
Was in the WTC on 9-11
I am 52 and going through my changes
and now BC....

I don't know how to gather the strength to get me to the hospital on Tuesday to get this operation.
I certainly don't know how to be able to overcome my never ending fear of the unknown even after the surgery.

When I wake up in the morning (when I sleep) my head just gets flooded and I wish I could say with all happy thoughts.

Help...
Thank you and God Bless you girls for good health and for your spirit and kindness!

Patrice
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  • csr771
    csr771 Member Posts: 117
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    Be of Good Courage
    You have been through so much. Many of us have been where you are going--maybe not with the same diagnosis or treatment, but we have all been there. I was in your place in January (skin sparring mastectomy of the left breast and immediate DIEP flap reconstruction.) How do we get through it? One step at a time! I read your post again and know that "grace" covers you. You probably have heard of the poem "Footprints in the Sand." When we are weakest, it is then that we are carried. I was so angry that Cancer had come into my life. I couldn't pray about my situation. I cried, was angry, reclusive, depressed, you name it--. I know that it was the prayers and well wishes of others that paved the way for me because I could not do it for myself. So it is for you. If you want to send me an email, please do so. You are not alone. Blessings.
  • CypressCynthia
    CypressCynthia Member Posts: 4,014 Member
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    Hang in there! It will get
    Hang in there! It will get better. I was just 33 when I had my mastectomy, radiation, chemo and tamoxifen. I am now 58 and still going strong. You are in shock and this is so hard. Give yourself time and, if things get too tough, talk with your physician because breast cancer patients are at increased risk of anxiety and depression. Your physician knows this and will help. You are in my prayers.
  • skipper54
    skipper54 Member Posts: 936 Member
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    Fear of the unknown is always tough
    Sending prayers your way for courage and strength! You'll make it through. I was pretty apprehensive too when I had my mastectomy 3 days before Christmas but I wanted to do everything I could to beat the beast. You've already proven that you're strong. You've been through a lot and you'll get through this too.
  • cavediver
    cavediver Member Posts: 607
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    Hugs sent to you......
    this is a time of shock but you will find the strength to get through this journey, I am certain. It is scarey and none of us ever wanted to have to deal with it. But you will find the strength deep within to overcome. We are all here for you.....we will be there on Tuesday with you, offering positive thoughts, encouragement, and many many hugs. It is almost a year since I had my mastectomy but I still remember with complete clarity every moment of that time. Yes, cancer sucks..........but you will win this battle and we are all here to help you.....keep us posted......ask questions........whatever you need.
    Hugs
  • sbmly53
    sbmly53 Member Posts: 1,522
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    Patrice,
    You are a very strong woman and, come Tuesday, you will once again rely on the inner strength that you possess. We will all be there with you, so don't be alarmed as you hear whispers and feel gentle caresses.

    There will be more positive energy, prayers and good wishes coming your way that you can imagine.

    Gentle hugs,

    Sue
  • Texasgirl10
    Texasgirl10 Member Posts: 668
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    sbmly53 said:

    Patrice,
    You are a very strong woman and, come Tuesday, you will once again rely on the inner strength that you possess. We will all be there with you, so don't be alarmed as you hear whispers and feel gentle caresses.

    There will be more positive energy, prayers and good wishes coming your way that you can imagine.

    Gentle hugs,

    Sue

    Me Too
    Patrice, I understand how you are feeling. I am also having a bilteral mascetomy this Tuesday april 26. I am also scared and VERY sad. I like you and all of our other pink sisters who have gone through this before us, don't want this surgery. But we want to live and right now the only way that we are going to do that is by having these surgeries. So I'll make a deal with you, I'll hold your hand if you'll hold mine. Together we can do this and enjoy our lives for many,many years to come. And we are not alone, we have everyone on this board fighting with us and cheering us on. I will be praying for you.

    Hugs and God Bless You,

    Dawne
  • Lynn Smith
    Lynn Smith Member Posts: 1,264 Member
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    Texasgirl10 said:

    Me Too
    Patrice, I understand how you are feeling. I am also having a bilteral mascetomy this Tuesday april 26. I am also scared and VERY sad. I like you and all of our other pink sisters who have gone through this before us, don't want this surgery. But we want to live and right now the only way that we are going to do that is by having these surgeries. So I'll make a deal with you, I'll hold your hand if you'll hold mine. Together we can do this and enjoy our lives for many,many years to come. And we are not alone, we have everyone on this board fighting with us and cheering us on. I will be praying for you.

    Hugs and God Bless You,

    Dawne

    Prayers to both of you
    Prayers to both of you having surgery the same day.We all will be thinking of you.Post as soon as you are able.

    I also wake in the morning and so many thoughts go through my mind.I lay there trying to comprehend them all.Then finally get the strength to get up and start my day.Going to bed and saying a prayer is easy.I fall asleep fast but it is getting up and starting the day off. A whirlwind of thoughts are racing in my head.

    Lynn Smith
  • laughs_a_lot
    laughs_a_lot Member Posts: 1,368 Member
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    Prayers
    You are on the prayer list.
  • Chickadee1955
    Chickadee1955 Member Posts: 355 Member
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    laughs_a_lot said:

    Prayers
    You are on the prayer list.

    Treecy & Texas,
    You are
    Treecy & Texas,

    You are facing one of the most difficult things a woman can face. You will do it!! We are all here pulling for you, praying for you and reaching out with positive thoughts and encouragement. My surgery was 4/29/2010, bilateral mastectomy. Not an easy road but I made it through and I am here. The dear souls on this board were here for me through each day. This time next year you will be encouraging another woman facing this journey. Be kind to yourself and know we're here for you.

    Chickadee
  • Miss Murphy
    Miss Murphy Member Posts: 302
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    Patrice and Dawne
    My heart goes out to both of you and you will both be in my thoughts and prayers this coming week. I had a masectomy three years ago last month so I understand so well what you both are facing and going thru. My surgery was easy - very little pain. The worst was the drain but that was only for a week. You will get thru this. If either of you has any other questions, I'd be happy to help and you can PM me.

    Hugs, Sally
  • New Flower
    New Flower Member Posts: 4,294
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    Miss Murphy said:

    Patrice and Dawne
    My heart goes out to both of you and you will both be in my thoughts and prayers this coming week. I had a masectomy three years ago last month so I understand so well what you both are facing and going thru. My surgery was easy - very little pain. The worst was the drain but that was only for a week. You will get thru this. If either of you has any other questions, I'd be happy to help and you can PM me.

    Hugs, Sally

    Good luck
    Sorry that you have go through mastectomy. I had a mastectomy 3 years ago. It is a major surgery, no joke. My advice keep yourself busy and occupied. You need to prepare and plan for after-surgery time. You need believing in medical necessity of your surgery to beat cancer.
    Prayer could help too.
    Hugs
  • BioAdoptMom
    BioAdoptMom Member Posts: 358
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    I am so glad you found us
    I am so glad you found us Patrice! This is a very supportive group of breast cancer survivors! You are the same age as me! I was diagnosed in January, had a lumpectomy and re-excision and am starting chemo this coming Friday.

    I had the same fears as you going into surgery and I was only having a lumpectomy. The unknown is very scary, but know that we will be here for you and we will hold your hand in cyber space on Tuesday, as the angels surround you and wrap their loving arms around you. We will be waiting for an update from you as soon as you are able. (((HUGS))) and prayers!

    Nancy
  • ladyg
    ladyg Member Posts: 1,577
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    Patrice and Dawne
    We have all had the same fear of the unknown so you are not alone. We will all be there with you both as you have your surgery on Tuesday.
    I will keep you both in my thoughts and send you lots of positive energy.

    Hugs,
    Georgia
  • sea60
    sea60 Member Posts: 2,613
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    It's okay to NOT feel strong...
    especially going through this. Cancer is the ultimate challenge! It takes every ounce of strength you have to fight this. But you will. You'll do what you have to do and you'll get through it. Just take ONE day at a time. I know you have to plan a course of action for your treatment, but tackle it one day at a time. It helps.

    We're all here for you as we have all walked the same walk. The awesome thing about this place is that we're holding one another's hands as we walk. All the people here are such a blessing.

    Keep us posted on your treatment Patrice.

    Hugs,

    Sylvia
  • survivorbc09
    survivorbc09 Member Posts: 4,374 Member
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    Miss Murphy said:

    Patrice and Dawne
    My heart goes out to both of you and you will both be in my thoughts and prayers this coming week. I had a masectomy three years ago last month so I understand so well what you both are facing and going thru. My surgery was easy - very little pain. The worst was the drain but that was only for a week. You will get thru this. If either of you has any other questions, I'd be happy to help and you can PM me.

    Hugs, Sally

    Wishing you good luck this
    Wishing you good luck this Tuesday and sending prayers and hugs.


    Jan
  • Angie2U
    Angie2U Member Posts: 2,991
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    ladyg said:

    Patrice and Dawne
    We have all had the same fear of the unknown so you are not alone. We will all be there with you both as you have your surgery on Tuesday.
    I will keep you both in my thoughts and send you lots of positive energy.

    Hugs,
    Georgia

    Sending prayers and hugs to
    Sending prayers and hugs to you Patrice!


    Hugs, Angie
  • susie09
    susie09 Member Posts: 2,930
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    cavediver said:

    Hugs sent to you......
    this is a time of shock but you will find the strength to get through this journey, I am certain. It is scarey and none of us ever wanted to have to deal with it. But you will find the strength deep within to overcome. We are all here for you.....we will be there on Tuesday with you, offering positive thoughts, encouragement, and many many hugs. It is almost a year since I had my mastectomy but I still remember with complete clarity every moment of that time. Yes, cancer sucks..........but you will win this battle and we are all here to help you.....keep us posted......ask questions........whatever you need.
    Hugs

    Praying for you and sending
    Praying for you and sending positive thoughts for Tuesday!
  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
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    @Patrice
    so hard when we are always strong....if we crumble most dont' know what to do...we handle it all...sometimes it's nice to be able to let our strong part go...

    I still hide my concerns while in my car alone...

    I went to therapy years ago about other issues and found out...there is: NO super woman nor perfect person no matter how hard we try...I read some good books...one was:

    Disease to please! I read others but their titles slip my mind right now..

    Denise..

    IF I THINK of other names i'll repost...but very helpful..to me..


    ALSO: I have learned over the years...if someone offers help TAKWE IT>>>it was very hard for me...but I do not take people up on their offers.

    if someone offers I say to them: "dont' say it if you don't mean it" "I WILL take you up on it">>>>>>>
  • jnl
    jnl Member Posts: 3,869 Member
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    Texasgirl10 said:

    Me Too
    Patrice, I understand how you are feeling. I am also having a bilteral mascetomy this Tuesday april 26. I am also scared and VERY sad. I like you and all of our other pink sisters who have gone through this before us, don't want this surgery. But we want to live and right now the only way that we are going to do that is by having these surgeries. So I'll make a deal with you, I'll hold your hand if you'll hold mine. Together we can do this and enjoy our lives for many,many years to come. And we are not alone, we have everyone on this board fighting with us and cheering us on. I will be praying for you.

    Hugs and God Bless You,

    Dawne

    I am sending prayers and
    I am sending prayers and lots of hugs to you Patrice and you too Dawne!


    Hugs, Leeza
  • Annette 11
    Annette 11 Member Posts: 380
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    You have courage!
    Patrice, You have been through alot. I wish you would find that courage that always pulled you through. BC is so scary but try not to over-think about the surgery tomorrow and the unknown after the surgery. We have all been there and we know what you are feeling. For me the bilatteral mast. wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. The drains were a real nuisance but in time they came out. Good luck tomorrow.
    Keep us posted.
    Hugs,
    Annette

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