Thinking ahead to Mother's Day

I like matching mother/daughter rings or earrings...
I got matching rings for my daughter-in-law, granddaughter, and myself,...nothing terribly expensive, but 'nice'. If your mother's ears are pierced, that may be a better mother/daughter matching gift if she is losing weight and her ring size could change.

Funny you mention gifting. I am one who buys things whenever I see the perfect gift for someone and hangs onto it for months until a gift occasion arises, and old habits die hard. I spent this morning organizing all of the gifts I've picked up since Christmas for my family and friends, boxing them up and tucking in a gift card that shows who each gift is for. I won't freak out my husband by wrapping them, in case he thinks that means I don't believe I'll be here at Christmas. (& I am torn myself because I don't have something for everyone on my list or anything "complete" like that.) But I do feel better to have everything completely tidy in case I am suddenly no longer here.

I take comfort in that: a little wierd I guess to some people. I re-did my will and began succession planning of my business as soon as I had my 1st recurrence, with the idea that then I can just concentrate on LIVING. I'm actualy thinking of pre-planning my funeral 'on the sly' just so my family won't have to do that, but haven't done anything about that yet except think of little things I'd like to do with that. Sorry for the drift 'off topic'...

kellyh33 said:

Cake
Thanks Lisa for your reply. I was also thinking of a cake but i don't know what to put on it. A pedicure could be a nice idea if we went together. Mom's feet are a bit of a mess. I really want to do something to give her the wow factor.
Funny that i am thinking of this today when i cannot make myself call her Everyone says well it's okay to give yourself a break but mom/dad don't get to have a break from it...
Don't get me wrong i usually call her or see her everyday but today i don't know i just haven't. I guess i will do that now.

They need to come up with a
They need to come up with a definitive list of "do not's" for chemo patients. I wore my earrings all thru chemo. I also had mani/pedi's and I've since heard that some doctors don't allow them. (I know my doctor knew, because he always said, "How are your fingers and toes?" and I responded, right after a pedi with flowers and glued on bling, "See....I have pretty toes.")

My doctor said no tattoos (like that was an issue) and no invasive dental work. I had to postpone a root canal for six months.

If your mom loves jewelry, maybe a Mizpah piece. It means, "The Lord watch between thee and me when we are absent, one from the other."

Carlene

BrittanyC said:

Jewelry... It is forever.
I
Jewelry... It is forever.

I have my mom's Hawaiian pendant that has my middle name on it.. she used to wear it all of the time and now it is mine to wear.

I agree, Brittany. I wear
I agree, Brittany. I wear an heirloom diamond engagement ring that belonged to my grandmother's sister. She married in 1925 and had no children. My mom wore it until just days before she died.

My mom loved jewelry, too, and I was her only daughter, so I have all of hers plus gifts from three husbands. LOL....I have a LOT of jewelry. My girlfriend calls it "Texas gauche." It's true....we Texas girls love our bling!

Carlene

kellyh33 said:

Cake
Thanks Lisa for your reply. I was also thinking of a cake but i don't know what to put on it. A pedicure could be a nice idea if we went together. Mom's feet are a bit of a mess. I really want to do something to give her the wow factor.
Funny that i am thinking of this today when i cannot make myself call her Everyone says well it's okay to give yourself a break but mom/dad don't get to have a break from it...
Don't get me wrong i usually call her or see her everyday but today i don't know i just haven't. I guess i will do that now.

Cake AND BREAKS!!!!!!!!!!
Kelly,

ITS REALLY IMPORTANT TO TAKE A BREAK!!! I AM HOME NOW FOR THE FIRST TIME IN 4 WEEKS AND I NEEDED IT...MY SISTER AND I HAVE STARTED TO SWITCH OFF AND EVEN MOM UNDERSTANDS WE NEED TO GET AWAY FOR AWHILE...ITS EXHAUSTING........WHAT CITY DO YOU LIVE IN? I'LL LOOK FOR A CAKE PERSON....WHAT DOES YOUR MOTHER LIKE TO DO? WHAT ARE HER FAVORITE THINGS? THATS WHAT YOU PUT ON THE CAKE....MY MOTHER LOVES PEPSI AND JIM BEAM....WE PUT THOSE ON THE CAKE AS WELL AS EACH OF HER GRANDKIDS DOING SOMETHING THEY LOVE.....THE BOYS ALL HAD TENNIS RACKETS, MY BROTHER DRUMS, I AHD A CAMERA, AND THE GIRLS WERE ALL TALKING ON CELL PHONES....IT WAS AWESOME...LOVE, FANG FISH (I HAVE DECIDED THAT;S MY NEW NAME)

anicca said:

I like the cake and ring
I like the cake and ring ideas, but if your mom enjoys massage, you could hire a massage therapist to come to her house for a relaxing massage either before or after the party.

DB

Quote Book
I don't know if you could pull this off or if it is too much to undertake something like a Quote Book. I published such a book (more of a booklet) for my Dad's 80th birthday that was a compilation of quotes and anecdotes about Dad--contributed by his children and other family members. My dad is an immigrant and so the booklet had some sayings from "the old country" that he would tell us.

I used software in MicroSoft Word which allowed the inclusion of photos/graphics. It was easy to have the booklet published at Kinkos and I made copies for everyone.

Maybe your mom has hobbies or is known for some special recipes. I am sure you would know how to personalize the booklet to make it appropriate for her. I imagine you could put in funny stories, baby photos and maybe even a story about how your mom and dad met. Call the booklet what you like.

My mom is 78 and she is full of original quotes so I maybe I should work on a booklet for her as her health is not as good my dad's health--I don't know if she is gonna make it to 80. Here's an original one: "It's always difficult to live with another person even if that other person is Jesus."