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Megan M
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I think enough has been said and enough is still being said. Let it go!!! Please stop making new posts relating to what has been going on. We don't need that. For goodness sake, we are fighting for our lives, we don't need a discussion that got out of hand to keep being brought up over and over. Thank you!

New Flower
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Thanks Megan

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Anytime New Flower! :)

shy violet
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sorry if caps a prob...not on purpose...i don't have a computer and have to type everything from the tiniest buttons on my phone...trying to correct it sometimes more frustrating...and by the way your thread came up as flagged...

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Caps mean you are shouting in the cyber world online. So, most people do not type in caps unless they capitalize one word to make a point. Otherwise, it isn't necessary, in my opinion.

If my thread if flagged, I don't care. Greta will take care of it. All I ask if for the ones that are keeping the fire going to stop it please. There is no sense in it.

This board isn't about that, and, has no place here.

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The world we've all been forced into (thanks a lot, BC) is nasty enough without adding unwanted hostility.

Too many people running out of sleep, out of money, out of time, out of hope - who have done nothing whatsoever to deserve all this suffering. It's understandable that tempers will flare up. Cancer eff1ng sukks.

But it's still best, and often bravest, to walk away from something that offends you here. Because in the end, regardless of race, religion (or the absence thereof), political beliefs, sexual orientation, nationality, financial status, favorite soft drink, education, taste in music, gender, fashion sense, we are all in this fight together!

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How did you get so smart Mr. Aortus? Oh, I know, you are married to Moopy. hehe :)))))

Thanks!

Hugs, Megan

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If you talk about my little secret, everybody's going to know!

Marsha Mulvey
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Duh, I must have missed something. But whatever it was Megan, I agree with your sentiment. Thanks,
Marsha
P.S. Was it me?

Marsha Mulvey
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Duh, I must have missed something Megan, but whatever it was, I agree with your sentiment. Thanks, Marsha
P.S. It wasn't me, was it?

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Sorry Aortus that I let your secret out. LOL I will try and keep it hush hush from now on.

Glad you missed it Marsha. And no, it wasn't you. LOL Just hoping it is over now.

And, hoping Greta will be on tomorrow to take care of it.

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Aortus,
You are so right. I should not have posted what I did and I apologized both on the thread involved and in a personal email to John. When I reread it, it was thoughtless and inconsiderate although that wasn't my intent. But we all know where good intentions can lead us. I was just thinking back to long ago and the posers that drew us in. I cannot offer any excuse for sounding so accusatory.
I wished I had taken the high road and stayed the heck out of the whole thing.
It is about our journeys with cancer and personal attacks accomplish nothing.
And thank you for the kind words about Den. We are so happy. Maybe my stress over that issue just slide over into the other. Still, no excuse for bad behavior. I hope all on here know that this was just not me.
Stef

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You are right Aortus about the bravest walking away from something that offends you. Not sure if cake in my mouth works, but, duct tape on my fingers does. HA!

Duct tape anyone?

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I'm not sure if this post was meant for me, but I usually only use caps for title and I make new posts so that I don't drag out old ones. I apologize for upsetting anyone with my caps and if this was not for me, please disregard.

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No No No, it isn't you Thomas. I am sorry if you thought it was. There is a post on here that some got a little carried away with and things were said that shouldn't be on this bc discussion thread. And then, new posts were made in caps to sort of keep it going on, which are deleted now. I just thought enough was enough and just leave that post alone, so, the fighting would quit. It wasn't even about the original bc survivors intention when writing the post to go as far as it did. So sorry, it wasn't you.

Hugs, Megan

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I think CAPS are a 'military' thing for some. At least it is with Hubby (Retired USN Rigger). He is very bad about typing in all caps unless someone reminds him to 'quite yelling' as they had to type all reports/paperwork in CAPS - so even still - he slips back into CAPS only often.

Prayers for your family!

Susan

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It breaks my heart that you felt you needed to appologize to us. With everything you are dealing with, using a few caps would be so appropriate so please, please don't worry. You are in our prayers and my heart aches so much for you, your wife, and your children.

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holy internet-venting Batman! I had no idea what this was about because I've been so b usy feeling good & doing things with my fmaily that I haven't been online much the past few days! Thanks for posting this Megan, I'm sure the majority of us agree with just putting an end to all of that! And I'll follow the advice of Thumper's mom "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" :)
Peace & HUGS,
Heather

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My advice is to keep my mouth so full of cake that by the time I've swallowed I've forgotten what I was going to say. I just have to remember the other advice which is never talk with your mouth full. On second thought these don't apply to typing but if the fork is in the hand by the time it's empty I've probably forgotten anyway. I never could do two things at once so I can't eat and post at the same time.

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I love your advice. Cake yum! I am beyond jealous--now I can just taste cake--maybe wedding cake or chocolate or doberge??? Cake yum!

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Why in the world would someone flag Cynthia's post? Someone needs to get control. And, I wonder if whoever is flagging the posts realize that Greta knows who does it, and, will respond to you by email as to why you are flagging?

I so agree with you Megan and the others, it did get out of control and then someone was only trying to make it worse by posting more new posts about it. I am glad somehow those got taken off.

I, normally, don't even reply to posts that I don't agree with, rather than even give the faintest hint that I am saying that I am right or someone is wrong. I just avoid them and ignore them.

Fighting bc is hard, the hardest job I have ever had and this should be a place where we can have a difference of opinions without finger pointing or personal attacks.

So, thanks Megan for this post! I think you are so right and I hate the caps too.

Hugs, Kylez

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Since I am on anticancer diet (no sugar, no white flour) it is easy for me to walk away.

Seriously, i am really upset about what have been said and as much as I admire you Cynthia, I am shocked by your message to John.
I still think several members need to find courage apologizing to each other and to the board.

As for me, I am taking a break...
My dear pink sisters,
you have a question or want to know my opinion, please write me PM, I will be happy to answer and share my personal experience and views on cancer treatment.
I love you all,
New Flower

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Marcia,
That is a great idea and one which I will use before I put my foot (fork) in my mouth. I think that some levity is definitely needed and this was great. Oh, and I love the Got Milk. Did you say this was a tee shirt? If so, where did you get it?
Stef

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No, it's a platter. I bought it years ago. I can mail it to you? I think the idea is to make sure you have milk before you bite into dry cake- or look before you bite!

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Marcia,
That is so sweet of you but I will look around and go online and see what I can find with this on it. A platter would be simply be put in a cabinet and never used but the thought that you would send it to me means more than you can know. I am thinking that maybe cafepress will have a tee shirt with this or even the hostess site. I will look into it and if I find one I will remember the kindness of a dear friend every time I wear it. I'lll also remember to put cake in my mouth rather than my foot. LOL
Stef

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I stayed clear of the posts. Thanks Megan for this. I think we will all bond and be even closer than ever now.

I dislike caps, unless they are for just a few words to drive a point home. I remember someone once said their caps off key was gone. LOL Now, that was funny.

Hugs, Jan

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Yes, thanks for posting this Megan. I tried to ignore that other post, and, then saw the other posts going up and hoped someone would say something. It should be put to an end. Heather is right, if you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all.

Hugs, Diane

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wow im just wondering what part of the above comment needed flagging.

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right? what's going on around here?

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I think I missed something too. But I have to ask this, how can you tell if a comment is flagged? I don't think I know how to flag one either but I don't really need to, I am just showing how much I know about computers :o) God Bless
(((Hugs))) Janice

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i know it wasn't me, because i never even use caps. lol. not even for the beginning of a sentence. (it's my thing.) ;)

but, i agree, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.

what happened??

*hugs*

carrie :)

shy violet
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Oh for heaven sakes...what this post is from is because of me. I typed a message line in all caps...as do joke posts, recipie posts, and posts in general...for me I type from a cell phone with itty bitty buttons, deal with pain and numbness inhand and arm from surgeries, so sometimes not having to push buttons up and down is a relief. I don't type things to scream, just how they come out is how they come out, typos, punct errors, wrong spellngs and all
Point 2, the msg was not to keep the fire going but to try to figure out what to do...on other sites being flagged is serious and can get you barred from the sight. My msg was saying there was a problem with people including myself and others suddenly being flagged no matter where they post...as with viruses if someone can figure where the problem came from it can be fixed, if it was the inapprpriate action of someone else, fix that...
I don't hsve a lot of experience with this site and have no clue who greta is or how to contact her or how to solve problems like this. As with other issues, I was hoping that one of the sisters would say don't worry just do this, or flagging means this but not that...
Instead I saw Meagans post, realized it was not being taken the way I had hoped and deleted the thrthread. Instead of the issue going away, this thread is turning into something it never was...marines911 thought it was about him because he uses caps normally, others are joining together to ward off evil, which I am not...
So in closing just know that I intended no harm, deleted the post that caused concern and had no ulterior motives. Also I like to think we are all mature enough to realize caps don't mean screaming...seriously, do recipe sharing caps get in your face, or blonde jokes...no because people don't scream here...
sadly I have received some pms that some people are leaving the board because it has become so petty this week...i love yall but maybe they have the right idea...

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Thanks Megan for your words and Thanks Marcia for your wise words, and, funny too!

I totally am in agreement with you Megan and Aortus as to some taking words typed to the extreme. I was hoping also that it would finally come to an end. And, I am hoping that when Greta comes on, she will delete the posts that started the tension. And, I hope whomever is flagging just any post will stop it, as, there is no need for it.

I, like others have said, hate the CAPS! Occasionally, someone might use them, but, when they are always used, it is annoying.

This board is wonderful and always has been since I have been on. Occasionally though this sort of thing happens and we always get through it since it is just one or two posts and maybe one or two people adding fuel to the fire.

We will get past it as we always do. The true sisters in pink stay true to each other!

I thank you too Megan, Marcia and Aortus for all that you wrote. I truly agree!

Have a great weekend everyone and enjoy the beautiful fall weather.

Hugs, Debby

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Just want to say that I have always loved your picture Megan. It makes me smile everytime I see it.

Hugs, Kylez

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you have been nothing but sweet and positive! i love ya sister! i'm not sure why "buttons" are being pushed so bad about this. i'm not going anywhere. who cares if you type in caps? i know it means internet yelling, but if you're not saying anything rude, then who cares?

*hugs*

stop being so petty people!

carrie :)

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I think we all just need to breatheeeeeeeeeeee! I am hoping that by your post Megan and the posts that supported you that the end is here. I also never commented on the post that went too far. It was like my dog is bigger than your dog child game.

I admit, I hate caps too unless they are in a post where someone wants to make a point with that word. Most only use caps in the title to a thread once, not all of the time. It is like yelling or trying to really get attention.

Let's just use the site for what it is meant for and be grown up about it. I think 99% of the time it is.

So, let's all have a huge cyber hug and continue in our fight with the beast.

Lex♥

p.s. do you think tinkerbell will ever get through that keyhole? LOL

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if this was facebook i'd "like" this :)

HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Lex,
I have been watching that little pixie wiggle that cute little face and bottom for a long, long time and I will say that I truly admire her determination if not her intelligence. LOL right back at you. Let's all write something fun and full of humor here and hopefully that will reunite our little family here. We just need a little pixie dust, Lex. I sincerely hope no one leaves this board. We all know that families have disagreements and squabbles. Then they mend fences, kiss and make up. My humor is something about left overs being good. Beyond left over food, imagine if you had been in line to board the Titantic and they had no room left and you were one of the left overs. I know that is pretty lame but it's the best I can do on short notice.
Stef

New Flower
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actually taking a break as a result of this situation.
Hugs to everyone and the best of luck.
New Flower

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I think it's interesting that tinkerbell got her boobs through that keyhole, but the butt just won't go. Looks like she needs a 'buttectomy'.

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I am generally pretty astute, if I may say so myself~ but this time, I have no idea who is talking about what or whom! I realize that there is a poster who, due to her own cancer journey, is not very, shall we say, Pink friendly! She makes no bones about her stance, and she sometimes makes me wince, since I am stage 4 with mets. If this is the person in question, I am not sure. But I don't know who or what the CAPS is referring to.

I did send a PM to one of the Kindred Spirits, who was very concerned about the negativity this person was generating. I suggested that she flag the post as flags are anonymous in nature, and give the site administrator ( AKA Greta) the opportunity to read what any of us finds offensive, and take decisive action if needed.
Being flagged may seem drastic, but there is often no other way to alert Greta...it also doesn't mean that anyone will be automatically banned from the site. What I think is offensive you may not and vice versa! This simply gives Greta a heads up so that she can be made aware of anything potentially disruptive.

(I was going to say I didn't know anyone cared if I was wearing a cap while typing~ but I really need a shampoo and didn't have time today yet! To be on the safe side, I got rid of the cap and am moving on and am over having to hide my less than perfect coiffeur!! LOL)

The anonymity of the boards sometimes spills over into being almost without boundaries...as mentioned, we are fighting for our lives. Our emotions, including the frustration, fear, and freeness to vent can certainly color our posts now and again. But, by and large, we are indeed Kindred Spirits and hopefully we can separate the wheat from the chaff, so to speak.

Hugs,
Chen♥

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Chen,
I think a thread was put up and then removed but I didn't see it so I don't know. That is a good explanation of the flag. I never quite knew what it did or didn't do. And the cap while typing comment. Priceless. We need this humor right now. Time to turn things around. Anyone else have something humorous to share.
Stef

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Stef, I love what you wrote. And, I promise that I am spreading Pixie Dust all over the board and over each and everyone of you. Now, I am crossing my fingers and toes hoping that it works. I think it will! ( wink, wink )

I even get a giggle watching my own avatar. Is that nuts? Maybeeeeeeeeee lol But, when I first saw this a long time ago, I just knew I had to have her as my pic on here.

I used to sign my name Tinkerbell Lex. Perhaps, I should go back to that.

I hate that I am not on the board a lot anymore, but, I am just too busy living my life and loving every minute of it.

You know what..I think I need a cigarette now. OOPS..I don't smoke. lol

But, I could have an imaginary cyber one, now couldn't I?

Lex♥

P.S. Awwwwwwwwwwww..that was good for me, was it for you? hehe

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Lex,
I was sitting here at my computer, thinking happy thoughts and I guess the pixie dust must be working because next thing you know I was flying all over the room. I have always loved Tink. I have a jammie top that reads Tink, Not your ordinary pixie. It is so old and worn but I still wear it. I think Tinkerbell Lex is great and I love that you are so busy living life and loving it. Just drop in every so often so I can get a Tink fix and so we can know what's up with you. One thing I know that I love and I am sure any newbies do to is to hear how there is life after cancer and a good happy one at that. I understand that cyber cigs are okay although I don't care for them much, too strong. LOL
Stef

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YEH! It worked! I thought the pixie dust might be too old, but, guess not! I will give you your Tink fix whenever you need it Stef!

And, cyber cigs aren't bad, not bad at all. LOL

Tinker Lex♥

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The flagging or reporting offensive on here is anonymous except to Greta, who is part of the staff here that over sees this site. And, she will respond to you as someone wrote, either a thank you or why did you flag that response in an email. And, that is good, so no one can abuse that right on here. Not sure what they do if you do abuse it.

Lex♥

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AMEN! I know exactly what messages you are talking about. I don't think anyone meant to be offensive it just got to the point that posts were going back and forth and it started to become very personal. Those who were involved know who they are. I just sat back and kept reading them without comment. Yes, it is time to take a deep breath and remember why we're all here and that this is a place where we go for information, encouragement and yes, sometimes to vent. BUT, not at each other! Wishing all a happy weekend.
{{hugs}} Char

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Yes, Amen Megan! And, thank you! We all needed this post!

Sisters in pink forever we are!

Hugs, Leeza

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I agree with you Megan and thanks for saying it the best, just let it go. Sometimes I think the anger that "might" come out on the board is part of the anger that is hidden deep inside someone which may have nothing even to do with the subject. Bc is a difficult journey with many turns and bends in the road. And, I think it is only normal and human to be angry at the fact that we have it and that we have to fight so hard to save our lives. Our minds and bodies are put in overdrive and we are expected by so many to just keep that smile on and say "I'm great". So, at times, if something might light a spark under our rear, we might carry it too far as the anger and the struggle to get as far as we have has not been easy.

Let's all try to remember that, we are all in this together, sisters united in a way that no one else, unless they been on this journey, can possibly understand.

The bond between us can not be broken!

So, have a great weekend!

Love all of you,

Angie

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I certainly never meant to spark such a horrible thing as what happened when I answered Lighthouse. I am truly horrified by it all. I thought if I quit responding it would stop but it just kept going and going. I would like to apologize to Lighthouse and to everyone. I want to thank those of you who came to my defense.

I did not see the other posts everyone is talking about and I'm glad.

But I am sick at heart to think so many of you are leaving the board because of me. You have been together for so long and this board can be such a salvation. So New Flower please don't leave. I will do the leaving, I have loved you all and you have helped me thru many difficult times. While I won't be posting any longer, I will drop by and lurk occasionally and be praying for you all and hoping to read good news about so many of you with such a difficult journey ahead.

Again, I'm very sorry for all of the upset and pain I have caused so many.

Judy

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Dear Skeezie, you do not have to leave no no no...several of us have said enough but the posts just keep coming. This other post that has everyone so riled up was mine...this is the last time I am going to post about it or explain about it...not that it matters...people just want to keep asking and I guess they are not reading what I am writing...
after the insurance posting, I noticed that a number of us suddenly were getting flagged...no matter what we posted or where...have a good day types of posts were being flagged...i put up a post that said serious problem on the board...well people got on their high horse because I used caps and they were offended...then people decided I was trying to keep the fires going from the insurance post, which I was not, I was simply trying to give folks a head up that there may be an unknown problem causing people to be flagged no matter what...if people remember I simply asked someone to be a little kinder and more compassionate...so why people felt I was starting more trouble is beyond me...so up goes the post fro megan and 40 odd people have since gotten their feathers all afluff over use of caps in a post and saying people are causing trouble when they are in fact trying to get help to solve it...so this mysterious offensive post which was neither was deleted by me since everyone even people who hadn't seen it were so upset...i have explained this before...i will not do it again...
I have thought about leaving and tried to start over, but it really bothers me watching so many jumping in the opinion pool when you yourdelf state you have no clue what it is about...it is in fact about nothing...and as to caps being so offensive then all 40 plus of you should address that to the people who try to cheer you up with jokes, and recipe sharing, etc,,,,and in closing I have to say I am not offended by caps, I am offended by poverty, and homeless families with children, and people going without food, and our sisters going without dx or tx because of insurance problems...that is what I think offensive...and as far as jumping onn the bandwagon it is no better than not voting but having a bowl full of mush to say about what is wrong and what you don't like...i told you before that people would leave....i don't think anyone should have to leave...but if what this board has become is grammar police and gossip sheep, then this board has truly lost it's way...i know you all as beautiful caring people...we all have a right to be here, we all have a right to feel pain or happy, boredom or mad...we don't need to become pompous judgemental individuals...i really am tired of megans post, I am tired of the insurance post, I am tired of people having to explain themselves...this is a free speech country...i am tired of people not feeling welcome anymore, I am tired of people leaving...just stop reaaly enough kaput fini

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