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Don't Tell Me...

Don't tell me that you understand, don't tell me that you know,

Don't tell me that I will survive, how I will surely grow.

Don't tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed,

That I am chosen for this task, apart from all the rest.

Don't come at me with answers that can only come from me,

Don't tell me how my grief will pass, that I will soon be free.

Don't stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie,

Don't tell me how to suffer, don't tell me how to cry.

My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see,

But I need you, I need your love, unconditionally.

Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share,

Just hold my hand and let me cry, and say,

"My friend, I really do care."

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I have posted this within one of my posts before on the LC and Caregivers site...

Now that I have lost my mother it holds new meaning and I wanted to share with this group.

Much love, be good to yourselves......Elysia

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Hi Hope, I lost my mum on 30 July this year, the pain is unbearable. On reading the poem you posted its all so true, everyline I was reading and nodding my head in agreement. I know this is a journey I have to do by myself, no one can help, I have to deal with not having my wonderful mum around. I do find myself being a bit nasty lately, my mum was 61 when she passed away, I find myself looking at older people, well older than my mum and I think how can you still be here and my mum cant be. My mum went into hospital 25th June, she was diagnoised with Ovarian cancer two and half weeks after going into hospital and she passed away 2 and half weeks after that. My mum did not even get the chance to fight the tumour which grew so big in such a short time, the tumour must have weighed about 8 stone in the end and you could physically see it grow day by day. It hurts me so much that Mum did not stand a chance and she is not here, the poem sums up a lot thank you Elysia

love Kris xxx

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Just wanted to bump this up to the top......

May need some reassurance during this season that no one else holds our healing and answered in there hands. We all go through it differently and at different rates....


<---My Angel, My Mom

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Couldn't agree more.

We all walk our own walks. You are right.

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Thank you Hope - the poem and your words (along with the other posts in this thread) is the exact words I needed to hear today... (and every day).

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I needed this bumped up. Today I need to remember to be gentle with myself. I am missing my mom and was feeling a little hostile towards everyone today, including me.

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Be good to yourselves.............

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Hope0310, thank you for sharing, i wont forget the meaning and truth held within a very impressionable poem

hope0310's picture
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I love this, and wanted to bring it back to the top for some members going through losses recently.

Be good to yourselves, take time to heal....


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I had read you posting of this poem before, before my love died. True words, to a true feeling! Thank you for having shared this.


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