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Heatherbelle
Heatherbelle Member Posts: 1,226 Member
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Well today my mom had her lumpectomy. We were a bit disappointed to find out that during her sentinal node biopsy they did find cancer in some nodes. So now she will have to have chemo included in her treatment. She's handling it better than I expected, and again I have to say I'm grateful that I'm going through everything right before her, so that it's not so scary for her, and that I can help her through it. My husband says I'm going to be mom's "Cancer Coach". Tomorrow morning I'm going back up to the hospital, and I'm taking her home while my dad's at work & me & my girls are going to take care of her until dad gets home. I'll know more about where we're going from here as far as her treatment, tomorrow when we see the Dr.
I know firsthand that chemo is good and will help her get better, I was just so happy at the idea of my mom, who's in a pretty fragile physical state anyways, not having to go through chemo..it is hard, and I don't want to see her in more pain, or uncomfortable. But, if it helps keep her healthy & around for many many more years, then she's going to get through it just like I am. We actually have the same oncologist, I'm going to see if they can get our treatments on the same schedule so that she can come with me - the cancer center our Onc is at is across town, mom doesn't drive anymore, so it would be so much easier. And if not, I'll just go along with her on her days.
Thanks for letting me share this, I know I've been posting about my mom's situation ever since I took her to her follow up mammogram.
*hugs*
Heather

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  • Marsha Mulvey
    Marsha Mulvey Member Posts: 597 Member
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    Glad
    Glad you're letting us know how she's doing! Heather, now it's time for you to be your mom's ROCK as she has already instilled in you the strength you possess. FULL CIRCLE!

    Blessings to both of you and your family.

    Marsha
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
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    Marsha Mulvey said:

    Glad
    Glad you're letting us know how she's doing! Heather, now it's time for you to be your mom's ROCK as she has already instilled in you the strength you possess. FULL CIRCLE!

    Blessings to both of you and your family.

    Marsha

    thanks for the update. I
    thanks for the update. I wish it had been better news but your mom is lucky she has a true gem for a daughter and you will get her through this. Prayers for you both.
    Stef
  • carkris
    carkris Member Posts: 4,553 Member
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    your mom is so lucky to have
    your mom is so lucky to have a wonderful caring and strong daughter like you. How kind you are in the midst af treatment and your family responsibilities to be thinking of her. Let us know how we can support you and her and you supporting her. (if that makes sense) You will get through it together. (and sorry about the nodes that stinks)
  • New Flower
    New Flower Member Posts: 4,294
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    carkris said:

    your mom is so lucky to have
    your mom is so lucky to have a wonderful caring and strong daughter like you. How kind you are in the midst af treatment and your family responsibilities to be thinking of her. Let us know how we can support you and her and you supporting her. (if that makes sense) You will get through it together. (and sorry about the nodes that stinks)

    Very sorry
    for this new development. Sending positive thoughts to you and your Mom. You can do it and help your Mom go through treatments. She can be put on weekly regimen, which lighter version on every three weeks
    Hugs
  • smalldoggroomer
    smalldoggroomer Member Posts: 1,184
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    Heather you are truly a
    Heather you are truly a great daughter. God bless you for taking care of your Mom. With everything you have been through you are still a care giver. You are a very special person Heather. I know you and your Mom will pull through this and have a long happy life. My prayers are with you and your Mom. Take care Kay.
  • cavediver
    cavediver Member Posts: 607
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    keeping you and your Mom in our thoughts
    thanks for updating us on your Mom. I know you will both find the strength to get through this....... glad you have each other! Be strong, take care, and know we are thinking of you and sending positive thoughts your way.
  • anaumann
    anaumann Member Posts: 60 Member
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    smalldoggroomer said:

    Heather you are truly a
    Heather you are truly a great daughter. God bless you for taking care of your Mom. With everything you have been through you are still a care giver. You are a very special person Heather. I know you and your Mom will pull through this and have a long happy life. My prayers are with you and your Mom. Take care Kay.

    Good luck to you both. ann

    Good luck to you both. ann
  • Jean 0609
    Jean 0609 Member Posts: 2,462
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    Hi Heather,
    I am so sorry to hear that your Mom has to do chemo. I know you were really hoping that she didn't. I'll keep her in my prayers. You are definitely a great daughter and your Mom is lucky to have you. Hugs, Jean
  • MomMichelle
    MomMichelle Member Posts: 93
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    Heather, Sorry to hear that
    Heather,

    Sorry to hear that they found cancer in your mom's lymph nodes. Nothing like those little surprises after surgery. You have been such a great daughter through all this and I am sure she loves having your support. You are also probably such an inspiration to her watching you bravely go through everything you have been through as well. Keep your head up and know that thoughts and prayers are coming your way for you and your family.

    Michelle
  • Heatherbelle
    Heatherbelle Member Posts: 1,226 Member
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    thank you. i love you all.
    Thank you...so much. I guess I don't know much about what it means to have lymph node involvement because I didn't. The Dr did tell my dad that her survival rate is still 85-90%, so to me, that's still promising. One thing through my own cancer journey is, although I consider myself extremely educated on the subject, my education is tailored to my experience. My nodes were negative for cancer, so I don't know much about positive nodes. I had 3 removed for the sentinel node biopsy, so although lymphedyma (sp?) was discussed, i dont know much about preventing it other than no sticks, blood pressure, and to be careful with avoiding cuts & scratches on that arm.
    Thanks again for your support and encouragement, I'm lucky enough to have a great support system of friends and family, but when it comes to talking about things actually cancer and treatment related, you guys take the cake :)
    And on an unrelated note -God bless our service men and women who have, and who are currently, serving our country. And the police officers, and firefighters -those people who actually CHOOSE to spend their lives saving other's lives. I don't know why 9-11 has always seemed so personal to me, I don't have a personal connection to the tragedy. I just remember how devastated I felt while it was happening. 4 years ago I was in New York City on the September 11th for the weekend, and the way the city pulled together was something I will never forget. That day, EVERYONE was a New Yorker. There were no tourists. It truly felt like waking around a huge city with thousands of family menbers.
    *hugs hugs hugs*
    Heatherth
  • missingtexas
    missingtexas Member Posts: 146
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    Prayers!
    Heather, I think it's awesome that you are there to help her through this. :) I'll be thinking about you both!
    Dana
  • missrenee
    missrenee Member Posts: 2,136 Member
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    missingtexas said:

    Prayers!
    Heather, I think it's awesome that you are there to help her through this. :) I'll be thinking about you both!
    Dana

    Positive energy and good wishes being sent
    to you and your mom, Heather. Being able to help her will help you as well. Sometimes, for me, focusing on someone else is so therapeutic. It is wonderful that you both have each other to lean on, cry with, talk with and laugh with.

    I share in your tribute to the wonderful heros of 9/11 and thank you for bringing it to our attention today.

    Hugs, Renee
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
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    missrenee said:

    Positive energy and good wishes being sent
    to you and your mom, Heather. Being able to help her will help you as well. Sometimes, for me, focusing on someone else is so therapeutic. It is wonderful that you both have each other to lean on, cry with, talk with and laugh with.

    I share in your tribute to the wonderful heros of 9/11 and thank you for bringing it to our attention today.

    Hugs, Renee

    Strength and Courage for both you and Mom
    I'm sorry that Mom has to endure chemo .. You both are survivors, screw the survival percentages! Same Onc -- it would be awesome if the doctor's office could coordinate - chemo drips.

    Here hoping for brighter days for you and Mom!


    Cyber Hugs,

    Vicki Sam
  • TraciInLA
    TraciInLA Member Posts: 1,994 Member
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    VickiSam said:

    Strength and Courage for both you and Mom
    I'm sorry that Mom has to endure chemo .. You both are survivors, screw the survival percentages! Same Onc -- it would be awesome if the doctor's office could coordinate - chemo drips.

    Here hoping for brighter days for you and Mom!


    Cyber Hugs,

    Vicki Sam

    Heather,
    You're truly a blessing for your mom -- having you to not only love and care for her, but also to really know and understand what she's going through.

    But the thought of seeing a mother and daughter together in a chemo room, both in treatment at the same time for breast cancer -- it just makes me so angry and sad that this could even happen.

    And what a good mom YOU are, too, teaching your girls about caring for others. I think it's great that they're going to help take care of grandma -- without a doubt, they'll grow up to be just as loving daughters as you are!

    Traci
  • cahjah75
    cahjah75 Member Posts: 2,631
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    Heather
    sorry about the news your mother got. You are such a tremendous warrior for your mom. I didn't have any lymph node involvement either. My sister had lumpectomy and 7 lymph nodes involved. She had chemo TAC and rads. She has some lymphodema. Hoping that you mom gets through treatment without many side effects.
    {{hugs}} Char
  • Megan M
    Megan M Member Posts: 3,000
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    Marsha Mulvey said:

    Glad
    Glad you're letting us know how she's doing! Heather, now it's time for you to be your mom's ROCK as she has already instilled in you the strength you possess. FULL CIRCLE!

    Blessings to both of you and your family.

    Marsha

    Thanks Heather for the
    Thanks Heather for the update on your Mom! We are all here for you and for her!


    I am saying prayers for both of you!


    Hugs, Megan

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