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Caught with my pants down

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baldnomore
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I had already found the lump on my shoulder, that would turn out to be non-Hodgkins lymphoma. As a physician I knew that lymphoma was on the list of possibilities for the upcoming excisional biopsy. I went on line and searched on "lymphoma". I found the web site of a guy who found a lump in his groin that turned out to be lymphoma.

I had not checked my inguinal region for any enlarged lymph nodes. I stood in front of the computer and dropped my trousers and started palpating. That is when I realized that my 16 year old son was not out of the house as I thought but had just walked into the room and was standing behind me. He was not aware of an impending medical problem as we didn't want to make him anxious if this turned out to be nothing. I pulled up my pants and asked if he would give me a few moments alone. He left and closed the door.

I had a dilemma. Did I tell him I was going to have a biopsy that could show cancer, or let him think his dad was a dirty old man. The latter seemed to be the best option at the time. I came out of the room and asked him to please just forget what he saw. "no problem dad. It is forgotten already," was his response.

When I had the diagnosis about 10 days later we told all the kids what was going on. My wife asked if I told our 16 year old son what had really happened in front of the computer. I had not. When I did he laughed and said "gee dad, I thought you had one up on me." It was the only really humorous event of having cancer and chemo. We still laugh about dad getting caught with his pants down, standing in front of a computer. Things are not always what they seem.

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dixiegirl
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Oh how funny! I can't imagine what all was going on through your head for few minutes. LOL, or his for that matter!

I hope you're doing well and I also try to see the humor in life and cancer can be funny.

Take care,

Beth

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Hondo
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My brother had lymphoma so I know where you are coming from there. I enjoyed your story, it is funny how our kids choose to just open our doors and walk in our room at anytime.

When my daughter was only 5 we thought she was sleeping till she came in our room and asked mama why is daddy laying on top of you like that….. The answer was daddy is sick and mama is making him feel better…..

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JustRenay
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Humor is great for the soul...and I love this story...I am new to CSN, but wanted to also share that a close friend of mine is 14 years out from his NHL diagnosis and life is great for him...and I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Keep laughing!! Renay

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Hondo
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Laughter is a great healing tool for our broken bodies, welcome to CSN

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JustRenay
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Joined: Oct 2010

It surely is...and as for CSN, I've already found so much information and encouragement. I can't wait to meet everyone, and share what we're all going through/have gone through. I look forward to it.

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