Cancer Survivors Network

my husband was just diagnosed with bladder cancer on March 2010. He went through the surgery to remove most of the tumor. Now we just found out that is was indeed cancer and am waiting for a bone scan and ct scan to see if it did spread or not. That is schedule for May 5th. Then our follow up is May 13th. Why is such a waiting period between? How does one cope with this. He has his good days and his bad day with depression, anxiety, he gets mad at everything little thing then blames himself for the mess he is in. The doctor says if it did spread then he will probably end up doing kemo or radiation but if it didn't spread they will remove the bladder and make a new one out of his intestates.I am trying to keep positive outlook but he is not making it any easier for me. Can anyone help me and let me know what I can do to help him out!