Patrick Kapper update

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dianetavegia
dianetavegia Member Posts: 1,942 Member
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Patrick is on hospice. The cancer is progressing too quickly and he has other concerns. The update is here:

Care Page Patrick
He doesn't want anyone to think he's a quitter. This is what he said: The chemo is not going to cure anything, it's only going to prolong things and not for a long period of time, my cancer is too agressive. I've been fighting this for two years and nothing has worked for me, the cancer won't give in. I'm tired of being in pain, I'm tired of surgeries and procedures, I'm tired of being poked and prodded on, I'm tired of being sick all the time. I want to enjoy whatever time I have left with my family and friends. I don't want anyone to look at it like I'm just giving up. I did what I could and I just can't take it anymore.

Carrie and Patrick, I'm so very sorry to hear your news. Patrick is no quitter. He's done all he can and I admire him for that.

God bless,
Diane

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  • sheri22
    sheri22 Member Posts: 273
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    Carrie and Patrick
    I am so sorry to here your news No you are not a quitter You do have the right to enjoy your life we are always here for you and your family
    God bless
    Sheri22
  • lcarper2
    lcarper2 Member Posts: 635 Member
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    sheri22 said:

    Carrie and Patrick
    I am so sorry to here your news No you are not a quitter You do have the right to enjoy your life we are always here for you and your family
    God bless
    Sheri22

    Carrie and Patrick
    I am sorry to hear this news but at the same time I admire you for the choice you have made just being with your family and friends and enjoying life is wonderful and we pray you love every min. of it..
  • Shayenne
    Shayenne Member Posts: 2,342
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    lcarper2 said:

    Carrie and Patrick
    I am sorry to hear this news but at the same time I admire you for the choice you have made just being with your family and friends and enjoying life is wonderful and we pray you love every min. of it..

    No Way
    Are you a quitter Pat! I never think anyone loses the battle, I think of it more as winning over them, just getting over that cancer, and leaving it in the hands of our guide. We love you both very much, and hope you come on to still chat abit. I know the feeling of being sick of hospitals, appts, sicknesses and all, where you just want to stop already, your body and mind can only take so much, and the last thing we are, are quitters when we want things stopped. You survived, and like everyone else who has cancer or not, are going to go, and that's not quitting. You're just doing whatever you need to do to feel normal for a change! You are all in my thoughts, and positive vibes come your way!!

    Hugeeee Hugsssssssssss!
    ~Donna
    XOXOX
  • coloCan
    coloCan Member Posts: 1,944 Member
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    Shayenne said:

    No Way
    Are you a quitter Pat! I never think anyone loses the battle, I think of it more as winning over them, just getting over that cancer, and leaving it in the hands of our guide. We love you both very much, and hope you come on to still chat abit. I know the feeling of being sick of hospitals, appts, sicknesses and all, where you just want to stop already, your body and mind can only take so much, and the last thing we are, are quitters when we want things stopped. You survived, and like everyone else who has cancer or not, are going to go, and that's not quitting. You're just doing whatever you need to do to feel normal for a change! You are all in my thoughts, and positive vibes come your way!!

    Hugeeee Hugsssssssssss!
    ~Donna
    XOXOX

    Being with those you love now Pat, will do you more good
    than all the chemo in the world....You're mind is strong, you're not a quitter you're doing what needs to be done......steve
  • thready
    thready Member Posts: 474
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    Not a quitter
    Patrick,
    You are not a quitter, you are a hero for the fight you have lead. I am so sorry about the way things have progressed, but will hope for more comfortable days ahead
    Take care special friend
    Jan
  • AnneCan
    AnneCan Member Posts: 3,673 Member
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    Patrick & Carrie,
    My
    Patrick & Carrie,

    My thoughts are with you; in fact I went to Patrick's caring bridge site yesterday because I had not seen any updates on here for a little while. You are both an inspiration to me. I hope you enjoy much good family time. Don't even use the "Q" word, it shouldn't even be in your vocabulary - you are a fighter.
  • lisa42
    lisa42 Member Posts: 3,625 Member
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    not a quitter
    Thanks, Diane, for posting this here. I read about Pat on his caring bridge site yesterday. No way is he a quiiter!

    Pat and Carrie- My thoughts and prayers are with you!
    You are courageous- never think anyone's going to think you are a quitter!
    Enjoy your loved ones and enjoy the beauty of life around you.

    God bless,
    Lisa
  • Aud
    Aud Member Posts: 479 Member
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    Carrie and Patrick
    I'm so sorry to hear this news. And Patrick, I don't see you as a quitter at all. Cancer is a horrible disease. And you are Brave and Wonderful. Holding you and your family in the Light.

    and Diane, thank you for posting.
    Aud
  • karguy
    karguy Member Posts: 1,020 Member
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    No quitter
    Patrick is no quitter,I hope you get to spend some good time with your family.I will pray for you.
  • just4Brooks
    just4Brooks Member Posts: 980 Member
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    Enjoy
    You just enjoy the time you have left. Smell the flowers and feel the sun on your back.

    Love ya
    Brooks
  • mom_2_3
    mom_2_3 Member Posts: 953 Member
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    Carrie and Patrick
    I send you prayers and thoughts at this time. Patrick, you are a true fighter.
  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 Member Posts: 2,342 Member
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    Patrick and Carrie
    Thinking about the two of you and your whole family. I pray that you have some wonderful time together. Patrick, you are a great guy and you deserve some good pain free days. You're in my prayers.

    Aloha,
    Kathleen
  • luv3jay
    luv3jay Member Posts: 533 Member
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    No one thinks he's a
    No one thinks he's a quitter. He is doing what is best for him. A decision we all have to make regarding our treatment plan. They will be in my prayers for peace, comfort and guidance.

    -Sheri
  • sfmarie
    sfmarie Member Posts: 602
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    Carrie and Patrick
    I am saddened by this news. I understand what he must be feeling wanting all of this suffering to end. I no he is no quitter and that sometimes this disease can just take over. You are all in my prayers. I pray your family creates more wonderful memories with Patrick.
    Marie
  • eric38
    eric38 Member Posts: 583
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    sfmarie said:

    Carrie and Patrick
    I am saddened by this news. I understand what he must be feeling wanting all of this suffering to end. I no he is no quitter and that sometimes this disease can just take over. You are all in my prayers. I pray your family creates more wonderful memories with Patrick.
    Marie

    Patrick
    I always write posts about never giving up and how there is always hope which there is for people who need it and alternatives for people seeking them but there is also being a realist and we fight the good fight and hopefully somewhere along the way we find a solution or some way to beat the odds and if that doesn`t happen you have to know when to accept your situation and focus more on your quality of life than your length of life. Patrick - you fought hard and were a good soldier but its time to lay down the uniform and retire. Nooone thinks you are a quitter. Just a soldier who fought the good fight and now needs a rest. I hope the rest of your life is filled with peace and joy and good memories.

    Your friend,
    Eric
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
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    "Big Time Fighter!"
    Dear Pat

    I have nothing but admiration for what you've done and been through. I remember the day "I lit a fire" in you on your post and you got back up and went so hard after it. Your response that day made me feel so good.

    I had felt a "connection" with you, something I can't put my hands on, but I just felt it and thought I could help you keep the fight going in your mind, so you could withstand what you were having to deal with.

    Hearing that spirit in your voice that day, made me feel so good. I thought ol' Pat is going to be ok - can't wait to hear the good news etc.

    I guess I had no idea of how things really were, Pat. I don't know if you got it or not, but I did send you an email to your address from your CaringBridge site...looks like it was your personal email I sent it too. I still mean what I said.

    Your wife, Carrie, had gotten a PM many weeks ago, and she told me she read it to you and that you smiled. Made me smile too - was important to me that we made a connection. Carrie seemed to think we would get along so well - I thought the same thing too. There was such a personal and friendly way about you, Pat. It resonated inside me and I thought this is a man whom I would like to meet in my lifetime - and his loving wife, Carrie too.

    My wife and I talked about you - I told her that STL was not that far away, and that perhaps we could take a trip in the car and go see my new Amigo, when he felt better. I wanted to sit out on that porch with you and talk about Life and our experiences.

    This may not happen now - but you know ol'Craig is still holding out hope that one day it will.

    I totally respect your decision to stop the fight and have some quality days ahead of you. I've always talked about Quality of Life - but now it's Pat, who's showing me in person, how to do just that.

    And as others have echoed, you are not a quitter in mine or anyone else's books - you fought this stuff "tooth and nail" and gave it everything that you had to give and more.

    I won't bore you with any more speeches from me, but I'll close with a line that I left you with on our "FIRE POST"....

    "Patrick Kapper is a BIG TIME FIGHTER!"

    Love ya', Pat!

    -Craig
  • greybeard64
    greybeard64 Member Posts: 254
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    Not quitting!!!
    I doubt there is anyone who has gone through this that would call you a quitter. Quality of life is a huge issue and a very personal decision. You have every right to feel the way you do and to make the decision you have made. I wish you joy and hope you are surrounded by love throughout. Dont let this steal what you have left, as that would be the real shame. You are not quitting my friend, you have merely switched the fight. Now it is the struggle to believe in yourself, your decision, and to make the most of what you consider the blessings in your life. I am certainly sorry to hear this news, and I hope you find peace and support in all the days ahead.
    greybeard
  • greybeard64
    greybeard64 Member Posts: 254
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    live near STL
    I didnt realize you were near STL. I live just across the river, about 40 minutes from BJC and the Siteman center (CAM) building, in Glen Carbon, IL. I dont know if I could be of any help but if there is something either of you need, I would certainly oblige if I can.
    keeping you in thoughts and prayers
    Chris
    greybeard
  • HollyID
    HollyID Member Posts: 946 Member
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    Patrick and Carrie...
    You're both in our prayers here. You're doing what you think is right for you and your family. No shame in that and it takes a helluva lot of courage to even think of it. I remember when my dad said enough was enough. God Bless you both!

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