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pattynonews
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Joined: Aug 2009
November 2, 2009 - 7:06pm

Well we had to sedate Jack heavyly so most likely he will not wake up again he woke up in the worst pain and fear in his eyes and I never want to see that again, so they have him on hydromorphone pump that runs all the time, the patches, and methodone, he is only taking 1-2 breaths a minute but his heart is so strong so it is making up for everything, They say at the end the cancer pain gets so bad and he has so much swelling in his head so we decided to let him go peacefully it was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but I never want to see that fear and pain and holpelessness in Jacks eyes We are not sure how long is body will stay like this , but he needs to go home and be at peace, it is breaking my heart I go in there every hours hold his hand and tell him I love that is all I can do for him now,

Patty

abmb
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Joined: Sep 2009
November 2, 2009 - 8:54pm

I am sorry that I never logged in to this part of the site. I want to say I am so sorry to hear about Jack and I pray your prayers are answered. You must be a very strong and supportive caregiver. I will pray for you to help you get through this very difficult time for you and pray that Jack is not suffering. God Bless and take care. Margaret

sue Siwek
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Joined: Jun 2009
November 2, 2009 - 8:59pm

peace is the most important thing. i only hope should my husband come to this that he will go peacefully. be thankful for that. a broken heart will take time. know that you have done all that anyone can do and he will somehow know you were there till the end.

bailey1459
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Joined: Jul 2009
November 2, 2009 - 9:20pm

Patty,

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Everyone says that it is harder for the caregiver then it is for the patient. I do believe this. Words cannot express the sorrow I feel for what you are going through. My husband is stage IV and someday I will be in your shoes and hopefully I will have your strength to get through this. All I can say is to remember to take care of yourself, I am sure that is what Jack wants. Keep posting, it will give you the support you need knowing that there are many of us out there that are in or will be in the same boat as you. May God Bless you and your family.

Sherri

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grandmafay
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November 2, 2009 - 9:43pm

Patty, I am so sorry. One of the hardest things I did was pray for a quick peaceful passing and tell him that it was ok to let go and go toward the light. These end of life decisions are so painful for us caregivers. My prayers and thoughts are with you. Fay

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pipwe1
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November 2, 2009 - 11:57pm

My thoughts are with you both, I know where you are right now Patty and I send you my love

Wendy

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trish07
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November 3, 2009 - 3:45am

Patty...your heart must be breaking...I'm so very sorry for the sadness you are enduring.

You are such a loving and caring angel to Jack.

I will pray that Jack be free of all his pain and find peacefulness of Spirit.

Jack will forever live in your heart,

Trish

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SonSon
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Joined: Jul 2009
November 3, 2009 - 11:44am

Patty,
I am really sorry to hear about the end... it brings back memories.
I wish that we could all be there for you - but I will light a candle and incense for you here...
Those last days, hours, moments seem to drag on forever, like nails on a chalkboard.
We are here for you. Thanks for opening the window to your life to us...
Fatima

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mrsgeb
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Joined: Oct 2009
November 3, 2009 - 12:06pm

Patti,

I'm so proud of your strength in making such a diffucult decision to sedate Jack. What a truely unselfish, loving decision you made. I am praying for both of you and for Jack's peaceful passage home.

Sherry

mr steve
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November 3, 2009 - 12:23pm

Patty,

Thank you for being so strong. I hope I can learn from you and be half as strong. You and Jack are both in our prayers.

Steve

HAWVET
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Joined: Apr 2006
November 3, 2009 - 3:04pm

Patty,

Please do not take my comments to be negative. I have experienced the lost of close relatives to cancer and was there at the time that the man had taken them away. My thoughts are that individuals will endure the pain to hang around for their loved ones. It is difficult for the immediate family. This work both ways. The immediate family does not want to let go. I believe now is the time for you to have some deep thoughts. Maybe your husband is waiting for your final thoughts of love, that you will eventually meet him up there and that you understand and that the time has come to let go. I believe that in those final moments, the person can hear and when hearing from their loved one(s), they will go and rest in peace. God bless and my prayers are with you.

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allackey
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Joined: Oct 2009
November 3, 2009 - 7:19pm

I listen to the songs below sometimes and hold them at bay until the time when it is time for my wife to pass. The words are dear to me as I know we have victory over all that this world sends our way; yes, even cancer. We have victory over this that tries to rob us of our loved ones.

Please cut and paste each clip below and listen. Just a bit of hope still and perhaps comfort and thought for you.

Your husband will be in a glorious place and he will be fortunate. I pray for you and him; I pray for your strength to continue; I pray for Jack's peace and rejoice with him, for his passing will make the angels rejoice as he is received with open arms and in God's comfort.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDNeABuwlQ0

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B0nUmrj2-A0

Beckymarie
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Joined: Aug 2009
November 3, 2009 - 8:19pm

Patty,

I am so sorry for what you are going through. You have given Jack a true gift...to have a loving person with him to the end. We should all be fortunate enough to have someone like you when our time comes. God bless you.

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heatherstar70
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Joined: Sep 2009
November 4, 2009 - 2:59am

surrounded by your glory
what will my heart feel
will i dance for you jesus
or in aww of you be still
will i stand in your presence
or to my knees will i fall
will i sing hallelujah
will i be able to speak at all
i can only imagine

i can only imagine when that day comes
and i find myself
standing in the sun
i can only imagine
what all i would do
is forever forever worship you