Thank You All !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

bsrules
bsrules Member Posts: 296
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Hello Everyone!!! I am doing somewhat better today. I have read everyone's post and you all have helped me through a very rough time. I am ashamed of myself for being in such a state. Youn all pulled me back which was all I could of asked for!!!! Thank You All from the bottome of my heart!!!! I tried to call the social worker whom I was working with while Bob was on hospice. She hasn't called me back yet I WILL try again tomorrow. I also bit the bullet and dove in as my neighbor who is dieing from cancer also came hime from the hospital yesterday. I hadn't seen her for a while a I just couldn't deal with the hole situation. I did go over to see her after work and after we talked for a while. It did feel good to put a smile on her face. I want to help her but I am afraid of sayin gsomething to depress her even more. I guess all I can do is tell her the truth and just listen and answer her questions as to what I did for Bob at that particular stage. I felt bad for keeping my distance as she has a family. I told her that if she ever wanted to talk I will be there.

I just want to let you know how helpful you all were to me!!!!! I can't Thank You enough!!!!!!! I can't say that I am out of the woods but I am doing better then I was.

Love, Prayers and best wishes to ALL of you!!!!

Love Always!!!

Sue

Comments

  • alihamilton
    alihamilton Member Posts: 347 Member
    #2
    Hi Sue, I am glad you posted as I am sure I can safely say, we were all worried about you. Do call the social worker again. It must be very hard talking to someone who is suffering from cancer when you have so recently lost Bob. I think your presence will help her though and you should not worry too much about saying the wrong thing. I am sure she is just glad to have you there. But, in helping others, do not neglect yourself. Keep in tune with your feelings and make sure you listen to your heart. You are still grieving and recognize that. So you must help yourself first...thereafter, you can help others.

    Keep posting

    Love, Ali
  • scouty
    scouty Member Posts: 1,965 Member
    #3
    Sue,

    What you did with your posts was so brave. You knew you needed to vent and you also paid us a huge compliment by feeling comfortable enough to do it with us. I am so happy for you. That was Bob talking to you honey. You know that just as I do.

    I was out of town over the weekend and got a little worried about you, but now I don't think I need to anymore.

    You are so strong and so smart. I admire you immensely.

    Hugs girlfriend and hang tough just like you are doing. Yes, some days will be hard but I know you will do awesome things in the days to come.

    Love, Lisa P.
  • slammer
    slammer Member Posts: 120
    #4
    Hi there, this is slammer aka Amy. I am a stsge 4 colon cancer victim at this time, I am 44 yrs old have 3 daughters 20,19 & six yrs old , yes I said six, and by god by goodness, iI get down yes I get wondering "what is next that they will fall on my plate", But I have these beautiful kids & cousins & sisters & friends true my fobs old jobs, they keep me running, busy T-ball games & Mom let get you a pedicure, so I did it,,, was wonderful, pretty toes now I mean you have alot do do for now, WE all have alot to do:
    But nails & T-ball are the best for me:
    * yes wish me luck on the ct scan going this wweek
  • Kanort
    Kanort Member Posts: 1,272 Member
    #5
    Dear Sue,

    My heart goes out to you and I am so sorry that you are struggling so. I hope that the social worker has called you back by now and that things are looking a little brighter by now.

    May each day get a little easier for you.

    Take care,

    Kay
  • neeliec
    neeliec Member Posts: 106
    #6
    Sue,
    i;ve been away for a while, but I am glad that you are able to vent and feel supportdo keep trying to get in touch. I'm with Scouty, you are strong and smart. God in his Providence will also sustain you. blessings, neelieC
  • grandma047
    grandma047 Member Posts: 381
    #7
    Sue, I am soooo happy that you're feeling a little better. Don't worry that you might sa something wrong to your friend. You will do fine. You were a caregiver for so long, so you know how a cancer patient sometimes needs to talk, and sometimes doesn't. You know too, that you just have to be there for them. This is a start of something that I feel gives you a lot of purpose. You have a lot of purpose in your life anyways, but I feel that helping this friend is just the start for you. I know you have helped me a lot already. And...I'm sure there are a lot of others here that you have helped. I love you so much and never want anything to happen to you. You are a part of my life now. Maybe, I'm selfish, but I need you and heck, I think you even need me and others here. We have to be there for each other. Sorry, so long, but I just am so happy that you're doing better.
    Love and prayers, Judy(grandma047)
  • rejoyous
    rejoyous Member Posts: 259
    #8
    Dear Sue,

    Watching how bravely you've faced everything gives us all courage. I can't believe you got yourself to visit with your neighbor already, so close to when you were feeling so fragile. You are quite amazing and it's an honor to be in your life.
  • Shandle
    Shandle Member Posts: 204
    #9
    Hey Sue, Hope your doing ok today, and you have talked with medical staff that can help give you strength and guidance through this difficult time your having. Please... No need to feel ashamed of yourself. Your pain is very real! It takes time to get past it. Come here to us and we can try our best to comfort you. You gave us all a scare, but we're here for you!!! Hugggs ~ Wanda

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