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Hi everyone. My father was dx with prostate cancer about a year ago. He had surgery and not to long after they found that the cancer had spread. They havent decided on a tx for that yet and are just giving him hormone shots to prevent further spreading. He has been pretty depressed ever since and doesn't have much hope inside. He never regained control of his bladder so that has gotten him upset as well. Especially because he is only 47. The docs talked to him today about a surgery in which they put a "AMS sphincter 800" inside of him. Basically it acts as a sphincter that would normally control urination and he would have to use a pump when he went to the bathroom. I read about all of the implications, contraindications, precautions, malfunctions. I would like to know if anyone has actually used one of these so I could find out from a person who isn't trying to sell it on us how these really work. So please reply if any of you have any knowledge on these things. He doesn't want to do this and then have even more problems. The stats on the website are real weak and don't reveal a whole lot of important information. Like I said, he is very frustrated. My fiancee died of cancer after battling for about 2 years. My dad sees all of the things he went through(even though it was a completely different situation) and figures that people die anyway and he is in a lot worse health than my fiancee was. (He was only 23) So needless to say, his spirits are down and I would just like to give him some info from a real person-not a doc. Thanks. Sorry for rambling