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rebecca01
Posts: 5
Joined: Apr 2002

I am a 2 yr survivor and the anger and depression is ruining my life and my marriage. No one prepares you for afterwards, or at least not me. I need help to get back on my feet and get my husband to love me again. help....

ludasue
Posts: 98
Joined: Apr 2002

Hi Rebecca. You couldn't have said it any better. 'No one prepares you for afterwards'. I have more anxiety than anger or depression; always waiting for the other shoe to drop. My email is ludasuesnout@yahoo.com if you want to talk. Best wishes, angie

rebecca01
Posts: 5
Joined: Apr 2002

Thank you for responding, at least I know that I am not alone. I am in a breast cancer support group now and I do wish I had gotten into it sooner, but my life keeps taking these deep dips. I will get in touch with you!! Thnx so much

jmears
Posts: 270
Joined: Jul 2001

I was so depressed I didn't know how it effected my husband ... we got into some petty fights before I realized I needed help. I'm on Zoloft which has really made a difference. What causes the problems between you and your husband? If it's your depression and anger see your doctor or a mental health provider ... if it seems like an attraction issue I suggest you both talk it over and seek counseling. I wish you the best of luck. My heart goes out to you. Jamie

rebecca01
Posts: 5
Joined: Apr 2002

I am on effexor 150 mg, was on 60 mg of PRozac. My husband says that I am angry and take it out on him. I have joined a breast cancer support group and am trying to find some type of group for him the "caretaker". They need support also. I see a counselor. Our main problem is that we have lost our communication.

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bullfrog13
Posts: 216
Joined: Apr 2002

rebecca, hi hon, I feel your pain. I look at it this way. If I am lucky enough to survive two years I will be where you are I'm sure. As for right now Im just angry. Angry that I am sick and have chemo for the next 4 months. I'd love to talk to you if you want-email me at bullfroggie13@hotmail.com or if you have icq my #is 13842303-I also have yahoo IM and MSN IM and will load AOL if you have that.. good luck ...

nasa2537
Posts: 317
Joined: Apr 2002

Support groups are a must....glad you found one. Get to know the women, and discuss all this with them....that's what they are there for. Don't ever be afraid to discuss anything at all with them, as they have all "been there." Also, something that helped me was a book my oncologist gave me, which can be purchased at any book store. It's called, "Living Beyond Breast Cancer....A Survivor's Guide For When Treatment Ends and the Rest of Your Life Begins." It is authored by Marissa C. Weiss, MD, and Ellen Weiss. It is so full of information....everything from the anger and intimacy, to insurance and recurrence. Fear, sadness, support groups for the survivor, family members caregivers....it's all in there, and I highly recommend it. I don't know if you can get a free copy or not, but mine was compliments of AstraZeneca Pharmaceuticals. You might check for a website and request one, or check through your oncologist...they see the drug reps all the time, and may be able to get one for you. Best wishes to you!

cathyann
Posts: 26
Joined: Jun 2001

Hi Rebecca I am Cathy, one yr survivor- have had some of the same feelings. pls email me @cslaski1@cs.com, would love to chat

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