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Newly Diagnosed & Everything at Once

sherij
Posts: 4
Joined: Nov 2000

Hi Group! Unfortunately, I am now a member, having been diagnosed with breast cancer in early October. It has taken this long to get second opinions and get genetic testing done. I am negative for the BRAC-1 and BRAC-2 mutations, thank g-d! Still have lumpectomy and node dissection coming up on the 7th. To top this off, I am getting divorced (my choice), my husband will be moving out soon, our house is on the market and I will have to move some time in Dec. or Jan.! Why is life like this?? So much happens at the same time. Right now my biggest concern is how to tell my children. I have 2 boys, 9 and 13. Fortunately my prognosis looks good, but I know this will upset them, to say the least. The breast care center here gave me the name of a good psychologist, but she is pretty much booked up,and also quite pricey. Anyone who has any experiences or ideas with this...I would love to hear from you.Thanks!
Sheri

murphy
Posts: 45
Joined: Sep 2000

Hi Sheri, Welcome to the group. I just read your post and I want to say "Hang in There" there is light at the end of the tunnel. You really do have allot to deal with right now, as if cancer isn't enough, I think all the other distractions help us to deal with the shock of cancer. My life too was turned topsy turvy when I was diagnosed, and I do think it helped me to cope. Be honest and open with your boys, I also have to boys and it was very hard to tell them but I found they needed to know exactly what to expect and I always let them know they could ask me anything that was on their minds. Maybe you could find a Faith based group to help you and visit this site often, this group will not let you down. I wish you all the best with what ever treatments are ahead of you and in your personal life also, I will keep you in my prayers. Murphy

sherij
Posts: 4
Joined: Nov 2000

Thanks so much Murphy. I appreciate your words of kindness and encouragement. It seems like something good has got to happen soon...I am keeping the faith that it will! Mom is coming into town next week, and I know her presence will be a great comfort to me and my boys.

Sheri

murphy
Posts: 45
Joined: Sep 2000

Sheri, Good for you, I know it is not always easy to stay positive but that is your best defense, you know the saying "In every cloud, there is a silver lining" I really believe that, sometimes we must be patient and sometimes we must look hard but something good always comes out of something bad. One step at a time, one day at a time. You will find allot of encouragement here on this site. All the best. Murphy

nancys
Posts: 336
Joined: Aug 2000

Hello Sherri, When I first found out about my cnacer, I happened onto this site. This group of positive, supportive women has kept my sanity and my outlook on level ground. I got on this site every night and when I look back to read some of the things I wrote, I am a little embarrassed because some of my posts are silly. I have made good friends here with people that seem more like members of my own family. We all understand what you feel. We feel just the same things you feel. You will get through this, with support from your extended family and with prayer. GOD is the best listener you will ever talk to. Talk to him often and ask for inner peace and acceptance, HE WILL GIVE IT TO YOU. Stay in touch with us. Glad mom is there, mom always makes us feel a little better. Your friend, Nancy

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