Jul 31, 2014 - 9:37 am
My mom has barely eaten what would even be considered a small meal in the past 5 days (consisting mostly of a little baby food, creme caramel, and a little broth). This is due to continued pain, soreness and swelling in her mouth and throat. She is so weak that she can barely get out of bed and she mostly sleeps all day. I'm not sure she's drinking nearly enough, although when I'm able to be with her on th weekends or evenings she makes a big show of downing lots of Gatorade. My dad, her primary caretaker, is hesitant to push her to do anything she doesn't want to/refuses to do. Every time I talk to her on the phone she sounds like a wreck, and when I called her oncologist on Tuesday in despair, she recommended that my mom come in for rehydration and an assessment of her condition, and mentioned that maybe her mouth/throat problems are the result of toxicity from the chemo. My mom made excuses that she was feeling better and didn't need the hospital on Tuesday, and then yesterday she was apparently a wreck again and was considering going to the hospital today. But this morning she's saying again that she's better and doesn't need to go to the hospital after all. Even though I'm 29 years old my parents both still mostly regard me as a child who needs to be "protected" and or can't be taken too seriously when I give advice. My mom is used to being very assertive, even to the point of being domineering at times, and even now she's not about to take orders from anyone, except sometimes her doctors.
I have begged, I have pleaded, I have used emotional blackmail, I've sent my husband to help my mom, I've taken charge of the cat's medical care to give my parents one less thing to worry about (on top of everything else my mom's beloved cat apparently has bladder stone issues). NOTHING is working. I know my parents are "adults" who ultimately are resonsible for themselves, but when they're not doing the responsible thing, what else can I do to get them to go to the hospital or call the doctor or eat/drink more or...ANYTHING?