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Warning: this is a hard subject to talk about....death and dying

KathiM's picture
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With so many recent 'goodbyes' in my life,  I sought out a way to make some sense in letting a loved one go on...


I just watched a webinar on Death and Dying....and how to help transition during the process....I believe in much of it...


The last message there is quite clear.....Live your life in joy......transitioning in death with the same joy  (I am remembering the observation of Steven Jobs' last words "WOW!  WOW!".....


a free video recording is posted now athttps://attendee.gotowebinar.com/reco.../2372746452751355138


Hugs, Kathi

Helen321's picture
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Joined: May 2012

You're post is much better than the one that I was going to post which was going to be "Everyone please stop dying, thanks".  I am so glad I found this forum and yet I hate this forum.  So many wonderful people who aren't making it.  It's hard to realize that all of the support in the world that you can give, doesn't mean that others are going to make it.  I wanted to believe that if we all just keep talking, we'll heal our bodies.  Hard concept.

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Nana b
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Joined: May 2009

I'm not afraid of death, it's those I leave behind that will suffer deeper and longest.     That thought alone makes me very sad. I talk openly about maybe having a year or two left, although, I do hope for more. I guses what I'm saying is that I am not shying away from the topic, instead I am embracing that my time may be near and preparing my family now. This has made the situation a bit easier for my husband, daughters, siblings and friends. Of course it's not a daily topic. 


Thanks for sharing the video. 

Trubrit's picture
Posts: 1860
Joined: Jan 2013

because I have so very much yet to do. And because of the Cancer, I have finally found myself, and let go of all the hurt that has lingered from my childhood, its like, I can't go now, I'm finally free and love being loved. 

I do talk about dying though, in a way hoping that if the time does come sooner than later, the pain will be a bit lessened, especially for my children. 

Sonia32's picture
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Joined: Mar 2009

I use to shy away from it...was so scared of this topic..then mum got diagnosed with cancer and subsequently passed. I got cancer, but survived.

It doesn't scare me, knowing my mum is out there with my other relatives.

But the whole process of how someone does etc we should be more aware of, like we know how we are born, this is important as well.


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Joined: Jan 2010

Due to my sister's faith, as I sat holding her hand I was able to encourage her to reach out to those family and friends who waited to welcome her to the other side.  While it was hours, she did not struggle to stay with us, and I can only hope that it was because she saw beauty and comfort waiting for her.

Regardless of age, each person who is loved leaves this world too soon. 

Those of us left behind, regardless of our beliefs, can only be greatful that their trials on earth are no more.

Marie who loves kitties

Phil64's picture
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Joined: Apr 2012

Death is a necessary part of life? Darn it. 

And you can live a lifetime without love? Darn it. 

I pray you all will be showered in love before death comes calling.

Love and light to you tonight.


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