Jan 14, 2014 - 10:19 pm
Hi! My husband was diagnosed last year with stage 4 colon cancer. We are young (early 30's) and it is a rare aggressive form of colon cancer. We have 3 young kids. I am writing because I have always been the more practical one in the marriage, while he is more optimistic, assuming everything wil just work out and tends to go with the flow. We are 6 months into treatment, initial chemo/radiation, surgery, now in cycle 4 out of 12 for chemo. I am frustrated b/c he keeps saying he's going to beat this, and I really hope he does, but I also feel like we need to talk about some of the reality of what happens if he doesn't. What happens if this is an ongoing fight for years? He wants to act like we'll be done in May and never have to think about cancer again, and I just don't think that's realistic. If he doesn't survive, I am the one left to pick up the pieces. He gets upset at me, accusing me of being negative. Am I crazy for wanting to talk about the practical stuff too?