Nov 12, 2013 - 4:34 pm
I am new here and was wondering if anyone has had similar experiences or had advice for me. While away from "home" at graduate school I was diagnosed with Burkitt's lymphoma. At the time i was in a 2 year serious relationship with a girl I loved very much. I received one month inpatient treatment at the local hospital before going to live with my parents (3000 miles away) to complete the next 7 rounds of chemo. My girlfriend was very supportive for the first several months of the treatment and she was a large part of my support base and the one thing/person who could make me happy. Some time during my treatment she met someone else and they carried on an affair without my knowledge. When I returned to graduate school she confessed to the affair and said she wasn’t sure which of us she wants to be with. I gave her time to figure this out and it seemed like she had (after he showed up at the house she was and woke up the whole street and only left when she called the cops). However, I found out later that they kept hanging out even after that.
Now she is making demands of me to "win her back". She wants me to make large investments (car), possibly move from my apartment and plan things for us to do all the time. I have only been in remission for 3 months and making long term plans is nerve racking I currently have an eye problem that is most likely a result of the cancer and will have my first CT scan done to check to see if the cancer is back tomorrow. On the other hand the only times that I am truly happy are when I am with her and I am equally scared of losing that.