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I just found out that I have chronic depression. I feel so week. Because my mother is so strong is she is battling stage IV colon cancer. That is huge and I end up getting sick going out on fmla at work. Is anyone else battling depression and being a caregiver. How are you coping? I'm currently under the care of psych doc and he has prescribed me some medication. It's called celexa. I have no idea how long it's going to take to work though. I've been on it for a couple of days. I also can't sleep. I'm not sure if I'm stressing out. Please help. I love my mother and I want to be there for her. Cry

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Take a second and just breathe.  It's ok.  This is not an easy thing for any caregiver.  We spend so much of our time trying to be strong and supportive and care for our loved ones that we forget about ourselves.  I'm pretty sure that all of us at some point either have dealt or are currently dealing with depression.  We feel like we have to carry all of the burden that we don't even realize it when depression sets in.  I'm glad to hear that you are seeing a doc and are meds.  It will take a little bit for the meds to start showing any impact on you--as will talking to the doc.  Don't give up ok.  Be honest and open with your dr and if your meds are causing other issues talk to your dr so something else can be tried.  I'm seeing a psych dr myself, and currently I'm not on meds as the therapy seems to be helping me keep a handle on my depression.  Please remember, you are not weak.  You are not a failure--if you were, you would not have sought help.  The fact that you sought help and continue to look for it shows just how strong you are.  I don't know what the future holds for you and your mom.  I don't know what trials you each will face, but I do know that you are strong and determined and you will help her and be there for her like no one else can.  Keep hope and faith alive and know that we are here when you want to talk/vent.

erica01's picture
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Thank you for the support and encouragement. I'm just really stressing out and need to chill out and breathe. It's not easy being a caregiver. But I would do anything in the world to help out my mom as much as I can.

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It usually takes a couple of weeks for antidepressants to work. Hang in there!

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As caregivers, we do get stressed and depressed.  I have been my husband's caregiver coming up on 4 years and it has been a ride.  I am not depressed just stressed out a lot of times.  I have tried medication for depression but didn't like it.  I do take Xanax 0.25mg.  My doctor gave me this along with Zoloft which I didn't like and stopped taking.  You might wanted to ask about getting some Xanax, it helps me sleep at night.

You need to take time for yourself because it is important to take care of yourself too. 


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