Sep 24, 2013 - 9:19 am
I'm new here so I'm not at all sure I've placed this in the correct forum, so please forgive me. A life long friend is a throat cancer survivor now for about 6 months. She still has the feeding tube which the doctors wanted to pull 3 months ago, but because she is not eating, relying solely on 3 Ensures daily through her tube and sodas, not gaining weight, they've kept it in place. She has had the swallowing scans and just about everything anatomocailly ruled out that might keep her from eating. Still, she will not eat, she will not even try. Everything we suggest she try, she always has some reason for not being able to eat it. Two days ago she had her third hospitalization due solely to the fact that she is not eating. Her three sons and her primary caretaker have thrown up their hands in frustration and disgust and basically given up, saying she's just trying to get attention and she is lazy, which unfortunately was part of her basic personality before cancer. Meanwhile, she is starving herself. Hospitalizing her, seeing her doctors, telling her she needs to eat and sending her home is not working anymore, but no one seems willing to try, and the doctor's aren't suggesting psychological exam, which I believe she needs. Unfortunately, I am not in a position to request this as I cannot make medical decisions for her and my suggestions to her family have gone ignored. I guess what I need to know most is, is refusing to eat a common issue? Or, is there something else going on with her that is causing her to refuse to eat and just not seem to care whether she does or not, and what can I do to help her.