Sep 12, 2013 - 7:25 pm
My Mother passed away from Dementia in Feburary of this year. She was released from the hospital back to the nursing home. I had made the decision to put her on "comfort care", (basicly keep her comfortable and sedated until she passed) 1st day back in the home, she was like a new person, very energetic, lucid etc. I questioned my decision for comfort care, Omg, it was horrible. This lasted several hours then slowly returned to her declined condition. The nurses assured me it was a normal occurance in someone who is near death. She passed away 4 days later. I researched it and now understand that it is normal.
In May of this year my Dad passed away from Lung Cancer. He was at home with Hospice care. Very near the end he was most comfortable sitting on his couch. He was on quite a bit of Morphine and other drugs so he sat on his couch talking, watching T.V. and slept on his couch (he hadn't eaten anything or had nothing more than a few sips of water for several days). I was sitting next to him when he suddenly bolted up and tried to start running. I tried to help/stop him but he was strong as an ox and was pushing me away. All the while yelling things that I could not understand. He seemed very frightened to me. Finally he stopped at the counter hanging on and slipping down but trying to hold himself up. On his way down for the last time, he lost control of his bowels and his bladder while mumbling apologies and stuff I could not understand. My Sister and I finaly managed to get him cleaned up and in his wheelchair, all of the fight was out of him. From that point he was put in bed and Hospice set him up with a Morphing pump and he was kept comfortable and sedated until he passed away 3 days later.
My question is this...I understand what happened with my Mom's happy spell but I cannot find out what happened with my Dad's frightened spell. It haunts me beacuse I do not understand what happened. Can anyone please help me with this?