Aug 10, 2013 - 8:41 pm
My husband was diagnosed last October with head and neck cancer. Mid. November he started his 7 week radiation and 3 chemo treatments. April 1st he had a pet and cat scan to see if the stage 4 cancer, tumors had been successfully removed, and they were, but to find a new tumor growing in T12 of his spine. The Dr. at that time said its terminal. We have less than a year....
End of June he had cyber knife done on the tumor. After the 5 day treatment he had another scan. This time they found 3 more tumors in the spine and dozens of “spots” in the lungs that looked to be cancer, but too small to biopsy. At this time we are given 6-9 months survival time, with more chemo treatments of carboplatin/5FU/cetuximab on a 3week cycle.
My questions are,
If we only have 6-9 months left, is chemo worth it? (we are entering our 3 weeks into chemo now with all the grizzly side effects)
When does the countdown to the 6-9 months start?
How will I know if our time is getting shorter?
I want to ask his team these questions, but I don’t know how without turning into a bumbling idiot that they can’t understand from the sobbing noise. Also, I am not sure if the Dr.s will be straight with me. They always seem to avoid anything close to this conversation. Dont get me wrong, we have a great team...just very....textbook.