CSN Login
Members Online: 6

I have finally made a decision...

mommaellen's picture
Posts: 195
Joined: Nov 2012

I have decided not to have the surgery to even the size of my breast (due to the reconstruction one is bigger than the other) or the nipple reconstruction surgery. I am almost 51 and have decided that I have had enough surgeries.  I have lived like this since my reconstruction surgery in january and have been happy.  The worst thing is that I have not and will not be able to wear a regular bra anymore due to the size differences in my breast.  I have found that sports bras are very comfortable and I have asked (my daughter and my Honey) for some pretty ones for my birthday next month. 


Hugs to all,


Posts: 379
Joined: Nov 2012

Hi Mommaellen,

I too decided not to have anymore surgeries after my initial reconstruction. I,like you, said enough is enough and I did not want any more surgeries.  Truly I am just happy to be alive.  Every one is different, and if it bothers you in the future you can always change your mind.  It's been 4 and a half years for me and I still don't want any more surgeries.

I hope you get some pretty new bras for your birthday.


Posts: 134
Joined: Oct 2011

Hi...I also have very different sized beasts due to my lumpectomy.  I often wish i'd had the unaffected breast made to match because my affected breast is " Perkier".  lol.  Also sports bras are awesome, they help pull everthing in so I look more even.  Congrats on making your decision and best of luck.

DianeBC's picture
Posts: 3888
Joined: Jun 2009

Congrats on your decision and good luck!

elm3544's picture
Posts: 749
Joined: Jul 2009

I also have very mismatched sides due to lumpectomy. I found that the Victoria's Secret Very Sexy bra holds its shape and has enough padding to make it appear even. I also recently purchased a package of Luxxy brand sports bras that have removable padding inserts from a website called www.nomorerack.com they are very comfortable.

Megan M's picture
Megan M
Posts: 3001
Joined: Dec 2009

I hope you get those pretty bras for your birthday Ellen!   I know you must feel so relieved to have made this choice.  We have to do what is best for us.

Good luck to you,


Posts: 6068
Joined: Oct 2010

I totally get it! NOT wanting any more surgeries. My surgeon just referred me to PS to talk about fat removal and injection to even me up! I am not even considering it at this point. I am 54 as of Saturday and don't feel the need to make any changes.

We all must do what is best for us-so what ever your decision is-it is your choice.



Lynne P
Posts: 165
Joined: May 2013

I can totally understand that you don't want any more surgeries.  You've made the best decision for you and that's all that matters! 


taylor manny
Posts: 114
Joined: May 2013

Just wanted to wish you good luck!

SIROD's picture
Posts: 2204
Joined: Jun 2010


Have you gone to see a certified mastectomy fitter?  They might just have something to help fill in the area that is missing.   I would first try them and they have wonderful mastectomy sports bras too.

After having so many surgeries and finishing chemo back in 1995, the last thing I wanted was more surgeries.  I had a minor surgery that turn into a staph infection, so I had 3 surgeries due to that problem before I was diagnosed with breast cancer.  Then I had a lumpectomy, mastectomy and a port-a-cath surgery.  That added up to 6 surgeries in 4 months.  

I wanted my life back and never did have reconstruction.  I never regretted it either.  

Try calling a certified mastectomy fitter and see if she might have want you want.

Best to you,



Ritzy's picture
Posts: 4384
Joined: Aug 2009

I know this was a big decision for you and I am glad you made it.  We have to do what is best for us.

Good luck to you Ellen,

Sue :)

kmenurse's picture
Posts: 223
Joined: Apr 2013

I wear the sports bras and they are very comfortable... Better then the ones I used before my Double Mastectomy.

jnl's picture
Posts: 3873
Joined: May 2009

Congrats on making your decision Ellen!  Good luck next month on your appointment and happy birthday early!


Posts: 994
Joined: Sep 2009

My doctor told me of a store in my area that sold wedges to put in my perkie side to even it up with the larger one.  Works great so I can wear a regular bra.


Candi Cane
Posts: 161
Joined: May 2013

Wishing you good luck and also sending birthday wishes a bit early to you!


Nana Sue
Posts: 55
Joined: Jul 2013

It's understandable that you don't want any more surgery's.  Good luck!

camul's picture
Posts: 2295
Joined: Dec 2010

I had 4 surgeries and they are not the same size, so rather than do another recon surgery, I went to Dillards and was fitted to the larger side with a contoured cup that evens me out when I need a bra, and this is not often.  Usually, it's sports bra's or lined tank tops.  I love the lined ones from Target.

June Bugs
Posts: 169
Joined: May 2013

Good luck and also sending very early birthday wishes!  May all your wishes come true!

Hugs, June

1surfermom's picture
Posts: 306
Joined: Mar 2009

 I so know what you mean.I actually had a surgery date set with a plastic surgeon to even me out and perform a lift on the non affected side. I am also 51 and thought why am I exposing myself to more surgery and decided to cancel.  I no longer wear clinging tops where my imbalance is highlighted. Just like Carol I like the lined tops at Target.I am not going to rule out plastic surgery for me in the futrue, I just felt that with  all that  I have been through the timing was not right. Besides our age I think we also have something else in common is your name Ellen? Thats my name too. Love surf 

Subscribe with RSS
About Cancer Society

The content on this site is for informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Do not use this information to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease without consulting with a qualified healthcare provider. Please consult your healthcare provider with any questions or concerns you may have regarding your condition. Use of this online service is subject to the disclaimer and the terms and conditions.

Copyright 2000-2015 © Cancer Survivors Network