Jun 28, 2013 - 5:36 pm
They did another PET scan and the results were "more bad than good", a few of the lymph nodes and cleared but new ones are now lit up and they discovered tumors in his bones. His Dr, who had been very "pro treatment" is definately talking different. He has talked about pallative care, and keeping dad comfortable. Dad has stage 4 EC which had already met in his brain and large tumor was removed for it in Feb.. Dad is still in complete denial so he wants to fight this and continue treatments. It is so hard because he doesnt remember what the Dr's tell him and his thinking is not always clear. Even though he has been told many times what his diagnosis is, and the expectation of treatment, he continues to claim he doesnt know these things. While the family will honor dad's wishes it is hard to watch him lose such valuable time fighting the side effects of chemo when we know the outcome is not good. His Dr said at the last visit, that Chemo isnt going to work, but when dad wanted to continue treatment, the Dr said "we will continue to treat you as long as you want" Dad has gotten weaker and weaker as each week of treatment passes. On a positive note. we are still able to get him to eat lots of ice cream so his weight is holding steady and he has no pain. He just doesnt have the energy to do much other than maybe a 5 minutes walk a day. Any suggestions how we as a family should try and find the balance between quality of life, and respecting dad's wishes, I feel like im stuck between a rock and hard place.