Jun 17, 2013 - 10:51 am
I found out only a few days before my birthday my boyfriend was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia at age 22. I'm looking for any and all advice I can get. He will be starting chemo today, and though he has such a positive outlook on this I can't help but feel sad and robbed of our relationship (we've been together for 2 years, as well as it being a long-distance situation). I miss him all the time and now he will be completely pre-occupied with treatments, etc.
I have been researching everything about leukemia because I cannot be there for him. I know I want to support him and stay with him throughout this whole process. My issue is that i've always had him as such an amazing support system. I'm in college right now and I feel that now I cannot go to him for help and that somehow I won't succeed because of that. How can I support when I have feel I have none? I'm so thankful that he has such a fantastic family who will support him and be there while I cannot.
I hate that I pity myself so much and our situation. I'm only 19 years old so I'm looking for advice on how to deal with emotions, how to stay positive, and how to act around him. I'm planning to visit him after my semester ends (about a month and a half) and I hope that I have enough strength not to cry or break down.
I know I am in for a very rough and long journey ahead of me, but he only deserves the best support. I've never known anyone with leukemia or any serious illnesses. I'm hoping for words of encouragment and ways to really handle my own emotions, set them aside and support someone who is so positive and wanting to get better. I want to be positive and stay that way without looking at the negative side.
In addition, I will be sending him a package in a few days. What type of items will be actually useful for him while he's there. Just hoping to raise his spirits while he begins chemo. Also, what should I expect with chemo exactly? I know it can be very intense but this is my first time dealing with something like this.