May 23, 2013 - 4:39 am
I am from Australia and my dad 4 weeks ago was diagnosed with cancer. It is in his neck and 3 weeks ago they removed a large growth. In 3 weeks time he starts Radio/Chemo. Aparently there is a good chance it will make him quite sick.
I am his Primary care giver, there is also my sister who just started to speak to my dad again after many years.
I have booked a trip to Europe 9 months ago with my girlfriend, but the time I leave he will be halfway through his treatment. I am of course leaning towards canceling the holiday but both my dad and my sister still want me to go. If i dont go it will upset my dad very much and he will blame himself no matter what I say. My sister says she will do whatever she needs to take care of him.
Still it just feels so wrong. As much as I want to go it seems like I should be with him. But he is not in a good way emotionally. He is quite a sad person he has had a hard life. And if I do cancel and he blames himself I worry that would be worse than going.
I hope this does not come across as selfish I really just want to do the right thing. If anyone can offer any advice that would be great.