May 01, 2013 - 10:02 pm
Hi everyone, my father had the robotic prostatectomy April 23 and was sent home the following evening, and he is just not doing well at all. He is complaining of persistent weakness, catheter is constantly leaking, says hes too weak to move around much, and this is very disheartening because the more a person lays around, the higher their risk of developing a blood clot is. I have asked him if he wants to go back to the hospital, but he refuses because he says they probably wont do much for him, and is resigned to the idea that everything will either stay the same or get worse no matter what. He has been extremely difficult to help at times, frequently griping me and my sister out when we try to change his catheter bags, bed clothing, pajamas, etc, nothing we do seems to be good enough for him, and I just do not know what else to do. At this point in time, I am becoming afraid that having the operation was a huge mistake, and has set him up for catastrophic complications, such as a blood clot. I have told him several times he needs to at least try moving some to help reduce the risk of blood clots, but to no avail. What can I do? Really regretting the decision to proceed with the operation now. 8 days after the operation, he should have seen a lot more improvement than he has.