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Coping with anniversaries and reminders.

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amandapaigelee
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Joined: Mar 2013

My father passed away 2 years ago, March 1, 2011. I'm now 20 years old, trying to get through college, but it seems I cant even get through the days anymore. My grades have slipped, my motivation has evaporated. Everything I ever knew died with my father, shortly after my 18th birthday. It just never leaves me alone. Anniversary of his death, his birthday, his diagnosis date, Fathers day, on and on and on. I'm just looking to talk to people that understand. Most my friends, being 18-24, really havent ever gone through a serious loss..

jen2012
Posts: 570
Joined: Aug 2012

Hi Amanda,

I'm surprised I even saw your post. I never visit this specific part of the discussion board.  Maybe your name just jumped out at me as I was scrolling - my daughter's name is Amanda.

I'm very sorry about your dad.  My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 colorectal cancer in August 2012.   I see from your profile that your dad had the same.  It's a horrible, heartbreaking disease.  You sound like you were very close with your dad.  I'm sure your dad would never want you to be this sad. I know it's hard to control and it's just so unfair but you have to try to get on with things.   Coming here was a good idea - though it doesn't seem like this part of the board gets much visitation.  I would suggest posting in  the emotional support area or even the colon/rectal board - many people still post there that have lost a loved one and could understand and  help you with your grief.    How is your mom dealing with things?

Please keep posting and look at the other boards too that are more active so you will get more response. 

Hugs!

 

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grandmafay
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Joined: Aug 2009

I'm sorry you lost your dad to colon cancer. I