Mar 05, 2013 - 7:33 am
MY dad was all set to have esophagual surgery but his surgeon ordered a PET before his surgery which was suppose to be on Feb 28th the PET came back showing he had mets to liver and lungs.. So his surgeon said he will not do it My dad already had done dose dense chemo and radiation prior to his upcoming surgery. Now his onco whom he saw today said he would put him on a different chemo that was much harsher. EOX. My dad is in pretty good health and eating ok now except has to have his throat stretched every week. My concerns are that I have read that surgrey is the only thing for a cure or remission. So will the other chemo's make a differencce for him? He is 78 but acts and looks much younger. He gained back all teh weight he had lost and eating pretty well. So with this in mind Does he have a fighting chance even without the surgery now? He is stage 4 Any stories out there with stage 4 with no surgery but had chemo and rads and how are they doing? I just recently lost my beloved sister so dad is still grieiving over her. so I was kind of relieved he didn't have surgery becasue I know you need to go in there with a good frame of mind and have some fight in you,l and at this point he doesn't so maybe it's a good thing, I don't think he would of left the hospital. I know no one likes to give statistics but with whats going on with my dad should I be very worred? Could he still have another couple of years or or we talking sooner or longer hopefull? His Dr. won't give out a time frame and I understand but you all have gone through it and read stories im sure, so hopeing you can give me some thing to go on here. Especially since losing my sister (my best firend in the whole world) and my dear husband has a tumor on his brain and he will be having that removed in mid April. This is all so much to take in, so I need to know what im faceing. Please help!!!