Jan 12, 2013 - 4:44 pm
My Dad is 65 years old. He was having some stomach pain and couldnt go to the bathroom for a few days. He finally went to the ER Wednesday of this past week. He was given a scan and told there was an obstruction. By that afternoon when i arrived, the Dr told him he had cancer. I spoke to the Doctors and was told they believe it it to be stage 4 with spreading to the lungs and liver. This is all so new and sudden and I am trying to be strong for both him and my mother. But truth be told I am so lost as to what to do. STAGE 4!? we just went through this a few months ago with his sister who was 81 and diagnosed similiarly with Stage 4 breast cancer. She passed early december, i believe she didnt get treated with chemo. Apparently this runs in the family. But with limited medical history on that side and my honest lack of information I am so lost. If any of you can give insight as to what questions to ask, next steps and coping, please i beg you to reply.
As of now, they did another scan of the upper body and an XRAY KUB(?). He also had 2 enemas in preparation of a colonoscopy which he had yesterday. During, they did a biopsy and placed a stent to open the colon. The attending Dr told me they saw spots around the lungs and 2 masses one upper and the other lower and smaller near the rectum.
Additionally, My dad had TB some 40+ years ago. He was treated. He used to smoke but quit cold turkey about 15 years ago. And drank often but recently (last 10 years) has cut back significantly. About 15 yrs ago he was brought in to exam his lungs which showed polyps but after that he was fine.
I have absolutely no medical knowledge but can I be wishfully thinking that what they see on his lungs is from the TB years ago and what they see on his liver is from the drinking?
We are waiting to hear from the Oncologist he is supposed to speak to us within the next 2 days. Biopsy is said to come in next week.
I got a journal to document information. A speciailist not sure which bc i was not present i believe the GI doctor told Dad if it is cancer then he will be placed on Chemo. Who's decision is that? What are our options. How long will he have?
I have been praying.
Dad is still in the hospital, this is day 4. He is slowly being transitioned to a puree diet from liquid but still having some pain (significantly reduced from intial pain that brought him here).
God Bless you all!