I've been fighting cancer since my diagnosis in May 2011. I had a bilateral mastectomy and hope it's all gone. I'm in the final phases of the reconstruction, between the 2 lumpectomies and 4 other reconstruction surgeries, I cannot keep up with my old crowd. When trying to explain why I can't meet them in town 'for a drink', they still don't understand I am sore and tired, just from these surgeries. (most recent was 11/14/12) Should I just forget about them? They are 'too busy to listen' to a voice mail, and rarely pick up my calls.
I spoke to someone from my cancer support group. She went on and on how it is such a shame that society imposes the need to have breasts.... I told her that it was my decision, that I needed something to help cover up all that they took away with the mastectomies. (I was only an A cup to begin with) I'm surprised a fellow pink sister would be so dry, when I was mentioning that I was still in pain doing all these surgeries.
At least it is almost over, I just need to get the final layers of the tattoos (Please send any advice if you have), but all of this insane hospital visits are over. For some reason, it seems that many people see reconstruction as elective, while I see it as part of my cancer treatment.
Yes, I respect everyone can choose their best treatment. For me, at age 41, Dr was taking the left, so I gave up the right one. No regrets. Still shaken up, and I think with most people around me that its best I shut up. Shallow as it may be, maybe that is what I need to do to get on with things.