Oct 24, 2012 - 6:36 pm
I have a friend who is a "survivor" from a few years ago. The odds given her were 5-7% at the time.
this year tests showed a return; radiotherapy didn't help, and she's started Chemo this week. She's a massively tough cookie (far more than I would be), but I think having to go through this all again is destroying her. The very low survival odds doctors are giving her is unsurprisingly not helping her, and obviously chemo is just horrible, even on day 2.
Obviously I want do the absolute maximum to support her. What I'm struggling with is how to balance the "go girl, you can do this!" messages with being realistic about her odds. She's too bright to believe any bullsh1t, so it has to be sensible advice. And I'm very new to this - I didn't know her the first time around.
Can anyone help? Has anyone received 'good' advice from loved ones in this situation?
Thanks for listening. Sorry if it's in the wrong place.