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janderson1964
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I haven't started a new post in a while but there are 2 individuals on here who have really been on my mind. Not that everyone on here isn't on my mind and in my prayers but these two people have really inspired me. It is hard to inspire me these days after fighting for 7 years.

Before I was diagnosed I thought all cancer survivors were heros.I have had several friends and family members tell me that I am inspiration to them which I am sure that most of you have heard that one time or another.

Now there are two people on here that have done things that are absolutely asounding to me and I have to say that they are hero's of mine evan after the 4 surgeries, 3 DVT's, and 34 rounds of chemo that I have endured.

Steved has still got my head spinning with the decision he made to go through with such a life changing in radical surgery. I don't know if I could do that.

Jeff (SteveandNat) has me amazed as well when he decided to do 8 weeks straight of 5FU. It makes me shutter when I think about having that bag hooked to me for 8 weeks. I can barely handle 3 days.

You guys are awesome and thank you.

P.S. I hope it is ok to name names on here.

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Annabelle41415
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Inspirations on every front.

Kim

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annalexandria
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We all struggle, but some do seem to go above and beyond the call of duty, so to speak. A lot of courage on this board, and Steve and Jeff are exemplars for all of us.

Luckygirl2
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Speechless and in awe

Heart76
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I'm new and just beginning to fill in on some of the backgrounds of folks here. As a caregiver to a fella who will NEVER be on the Internet (LOL), you're all heroes to me for making me think of things that need to be thought of - ask questions I wouldn't have thought of - and just generally inspire me to inspire my guy.

That being said, the two above-named people get extra stars!!

jen2012
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Agreed...but I'd add you to that list Janderson along with Craig Ron Phil Maglets John and others that I'm sure I'm forgetting. The fact that you share your stories of hope and success mean more than you know. The first few days after diagnosis I copied and pasted many of your posts into emails to my husband to show him there is hope even when the docs don't make it look so good. My times of greatest anxiety I come here to read more posts to calm me down. In addition to those folks I am amazed by so many of the others here like Pete and Tara and Anna and Doc and.........who keep plugging away after being knocked down. It's amazing that you are all so willing to share after being through so much.

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janderson1964
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TO me sharing my experience is like AA (alcaholics anonymous ) or any 12 step program. My first wife was an alcoholic so i am very familiar with AA. part of the healing process is to use your experience to help others. Using my cancer experience to help others helps me as well. It gives me a sense of purpose for getting cancer.

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Your comments are very powerful. All of us are hero's because we have to make hard decisions with our fight with this crazy cancer. Sometimes I wonder what keeps us going...the answer always comes back to wanting more life. My family means so much and they help me battle this so we can celebrate birthdays holidays and so many little events. We appreciate life so much more now. Thanks again you too are my hero. Jeff

steved
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Thank you for the kind words which come at a time when I need a bit of boost to get through. I am so pleased my story helps others and accept I have faced some massive challenges but have to say I remain uncomfortable with words like hero and bravery. I would give anything not to have been faced with the choices I have and simply see myself as making decisions that are right for me and my family. Would it have been less brave to not have surgery and face a terminal illness with dignity and pride. Some of the more remarkable decisions I have witnessed on this board have been about declining or stopping treatments when people have known that is the right decision for them.

I have always struggled with people saying this kind of stuff which I am sure you have all experienced-the person saying 'you are so brave' when you don't feel it and in fact feel terrified and desperate to run away from it all. We all simply face this illness as the person we have always been, each just trying to stay alive to eeke out a bit more pleasure and enjoyment from life.

I hope no one interprets this as rude or ungrateful- simply my take from my hospital bed tonight. In truth if my story helps others I am proud of that but it doesn't make me a hero.

Steve

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janderson1964
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Very well said Steve. Each and every word.

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that helps put things into perspective for me...
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
And I would add "brave woman" as well!
We all conquer fear each step of the way on this cancer journey and I salute you all! Ann Alexandria

danker
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In some respects we are all heros! No one but us knows what we went through to get where we are today. Hopefully we are giving back to the future cancer dxed ones. Giving them hope and encouragement. Good Luck to us all!!!

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dmj101
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everyone here is a HERO...
we all offer what we can..
some good some bad but all with good intentions..
I thank you all everyday for being present...

Thank you ....

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EVERYONE here is a HERO. I am glad I found all of you on this site. I wish you didn't have to be here, I wish I didn't have to be here. But the support here is amazing and inspiring.

Sandy

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makes me cry, makes me laugh, and inspires me. When I feel sorry for myself, you folks pick me up -- especially you Steve. This is really the only place I can go to be among people that truly understand this journey. You're all heros to me. Dan

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You are all so right. No one can fully understand what we have been through and continue to go through every day of our lives weather in treatment or not. Even my loving wife who has been with me every step of the way and has suffered greatly as well doesnt fully understand. I came to the conclusion that even if i am cured one day in the physical sense that cancer will still be with me mentaly and emotionaly. We are all HEROS. This is something we will always have to deal with.

But the gift is this experience should teach us all to live in the moment and truly appreciate life and our loved ones.

danker
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Mame said it all with " Life is a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving to death." LOL

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Sundanceh
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that just might depend on which buffet table you find yourself grazing at...

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Maxiecat
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You are all my heros...I am so thankful that I found this group...it has really been a lifeline in the midst of some very dark days.

Alex

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janderson1964
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It has been a lifeline for me as well. You are all my hero and the only people that truly understand.

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k44454445
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outstanding posts & i agree with each one.
judy

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I couldn't agree with you more John. I admire those and many others on this site.
I also think that many of us are "Reluctant Heroes". When someone is backed
into a corner with few options and something to live FOR, the choices are
much easier to make (in my opinion). You either fight or roll over and give up.

We all have our own motivations for doing what we do. Kids, spouse, pets...
I also really admire those who accept their situation and try to help others through
giving support or by setting examples. People can and do beat this just like those
who accept things and live with it.
Of course we all have Pity Parties on occasion but is living like that all the time really living?
-phil

A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure
in spite of overwhelming obstacles.
~Christopher Reeve

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janderson1964
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Great quote by Christopher Reeve.

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PhillieG
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There's another great quote about life: It's not being about getting a Good Hand dealt in life, it's about playing a poor hand well...

Do I know how to kill a thread or what!
:-)

smokeyjoe
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What a great thread :)

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janderson1964
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Sorry Phil. You couldnt kill the thread. I have to add you Craig and Maggie to my list of cancer heros. Long term stage 4 survivors are very important to others for hope and inspiration.

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Well...*sigh* although my Mom didn't survive cancer, but I believe, and I fully feel she was and IS a hero as well. I think everybody is a hero...those that are still struggling, those who overcame it, and those who lost the battle...they didn't choose to die...they fought hard too. And I cannot imagine the pain those people have went through...they are also superhero's....they're all...
- Sophie

jen2012
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You are right Sophie - your mom was a hero too. I'm very sorry she didn't survive and I'm sure she did everything in her power to try. I've read some of your other recent posts - you sound like a bright and loving girl who has been through too much in life already. Your mom must be looking down on you and so proud.

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I have several people here who give me inspiration, strength and hope. Winter Marie and Miss Kitty (Marie who loves kitties) for the wisdom and upbeat attitudes they have. There is so much love in their posts that I think of them as the heart of this board. Steved for the incredible amount of strength and courage he has. I honestly do not believe that I could survive the ordeals that he has had he is still so positive. And Pete (lost at sea) who tries almost anything to fight this battle and share what he has learned with the rest of us. He is currently almost halfway across the world from his home to wage his battle against cancer and that inspires me to go a bit farther than I have in my own war.

God Bless all of you (even those who don't believe)and thank you for what you all bring to this board.

Ray/Doc

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Lovekitties
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Thank you for your kind words.

To me a cancer hero is one who opens their eyes each day and faces the challenges brought by the cancer diagnosis, either their own or that of their loved one. And those challenges take many forms. Not one aspect of life is left untouched.

To continue to put one foot in front of the other, physically and/or mentally, takes great courage.

Each and every person impacted by cancer is called upon to dig deep into their physical, emotional and financial resources...far deeper than any of us ever expected we could.

To do so, even in the face of an uncertain future regardless of how hard one fights, is courage beyond measure. And that is a hero in my book.

Love, hugs and hope to all.

Marie who loves kitties
(aka Miss Kitty)

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herdizziness
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Thank you for your kind words, I am humbled.
And for mentioning Marie who loves kitties, she is most deserving of such an award of "hero" if one exists. Do you know that when I mentioned I lived in California without warm gloves and hats that out of the kindness of her heart and expense she sent me TWO different pairs of gloves? One for every day and a thicker pair for opening the refrigerator? And a hat to keep my noggin warm as well as the rest of me?
Our hero's are a plenty on this CSN network and Marie is one of the many and tops in my mind.
To our hero's, the Mag's, Katherine's, Marie's, Craig's, Buzzard's and far to many to list.
We love you each and every one!
Winter Mariel

cinreag
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I am new to this site and going through reading these threads, I am amazed how this awful thing called cancer has brought out the goodness, love and compassion in so many people. I finally after 2 1/2 years feel like I am among people who really understand what a battle it is to try to defeat not only the desease but, in my case at least, the fear of the desease. Thank you all for posting your experiences. You will never know how they have helped me the last few days.
Love the quote from Christopher Reeve. And the one about playing a bad hand well. Good luck to all of us!!!
~Cindy

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