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peterz54
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My wife Patricia died this week after a very rough year, having been diagnosed with Stage IV last November. Sad to say, but the best part of this journey, from a humane medical perspective, was the round-the-clock care & pain managment provided by Hospice those last 5 days.

Before signing off from this forum I want to express my gratitude for the support many of you have extended in various ways, and to also wish all of you the best as you continue your journeys.

peter

abackhou
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Peter,

I am so shocked and sorry for the loss of Patricia. It must be comforting to you knowing that you both had that special time together all these years. It must be nice to know that she was comforted by Hospice and I wish you all the very best to you and your family at this moment.

Andrew

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tanstaafl
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Peter, I am sorry for your loss. You worked hard to provide the best support possible, that meant a lot to your wife. I am glad hospice provided real comfort. Thank you for your contributions here.

steved
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Peter, I just wished to thank you for your contributions to this family. It has affected many though out the world and for that I wish to express my gratitude. I am so sorry for kyour loss and my thoughts are very much with you in your grief. After a hard year fighting this illness together I hope you both find peace in the fact that the fighting can now stop. I am pleased to hear that last few days were marked by humanity and care- something you have always shown in your own posts.

I hope you find a way to grieve to your loss and move forward in your own life.

Steve

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joemetz
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Peter

so sorry for your loss. And, so sorry that you've had such a terrible year.

my condolences and heart felt prayers go out to you and your family during this difficult time.

hugs

Joe

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Maxiecat
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Peter, I am so sorry to hear about your wife Patricia. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Alex

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Lovekitties
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I am so sorry to hear this news.

May you find some comfort in knowing that she is no longer in pain.

Prayers for you and all those who loved Patricia.

Hugs,

Marie who loves kitties

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pete43lost_at_sea
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smile if you can i am sure you have lots of memories.

hugs,
pete

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SharonVegas
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I'm very sorry Peter. You are in my thoughts and prayers. May peace be with you and your family.
SharonVegas

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pepebcn
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Will pray for her and you , have a big hug!

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toyfox
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So sorry for your loss.
Thoughts and prayer for you and your family.
Linda

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Annabelle41415
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Sending my condolences to you and your family. I'm sorry for your loss and commend you for being such a wonderful caregiver - a job that is harder than any other one there is. Your love showed through all your posts. May comfort surround you at this time. Know that you will be missed on this board and don't ever hesitate to come back and give us updates on you. May you find peace in times ahead.

Kim

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mom_2_3
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Peter,

My condolences to you and your family. I know that the time with your wife on this earth was all too brief. Your love and support for her was apparent to us via your posts and writing.

I hope that the coming days are filled with memories of the love and happiness that you shared.

Hugs,
Amy

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fatbob2010
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Peter, So sorry to hear of your loss. Perhaps there is some peace in knowing that Patricia is no longer in pain. Please do not be afraid to grieve your loss since that is a natural and important part of her passing. Prayers of comfort and healing...

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Sundanceh
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Thank you for your contributions to the site. I read much of what you posted and know that it was a hard struggle on you both.

I am very sorry for the loss of your spouse...

It's hard to read all of these stories, but we know they are a reality.

This is an extremely difficult time on the board right now...

Time will not heal all wounds - but Time does have a way of softening the pain that allows us to move forward to the next dawn.

I hope that one day you will be able to heal.

-Craig

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tommycat
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Very very sorry to hear about your lovely wife---what a time your family has had! Again, my sincerest condolences.
If there was ANYTHING good that came out of all this, is that we had a chance to meet you. I really enjoyed reading your sensible posts and the way you responded to posts and questions.
Very sorry for your pain and loss.
hugs from California~
Tommycat

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PhillieG
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I'm so sorry to hear this. It's nice to know that hospice took very good care of Patricia the last few days, that's the point of hospice.
You were an incredible supportive advocate for Patricia, we should all be so lucky to have someone like you in our corner.

My condolences...
-phil

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YoVita
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I am so sorry for your loss. I appreciated your many research-based posts. Good to hear that hospice helped you both the last few days. Peace.

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Momof2plusteentwins
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So sorry for your loss. May Patricia now rest in peace.
Sandy

janie1
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Such heartbreaking news. Much peace and love to you and your family. Thank you for sharing your research. You were a very caring husband. It is good to hear that Hospice was there for support and giving comfort to Patricia. I am always so amazed at the people who are involved with hospice.....very special people.
Will be thinking of you.

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steveandnat
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I'm so sad to hear about Patricia. The one thing that does put me at peace is knowing she is no longer in pain. I willpray for both you and Patricia. Jeff

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LivinginNH
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Oh dear, I'm so very sorry... :-(

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annalexandria
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My heart goes out to you and to your family, Peter. Thank you for being such a good caregiver to her. It means so much to those of us who face this terrible challenge to know that we are cared for and loved. I'll miss seeing your avatar...that happy dog face, so much like my old Snowy, helped improve my mood whenever I saw it. Perhaps if you feel up to it, you could check in sometimes, let us know how you're doing. We'll all be thinking of you. Hugs and healing coming your way from Seattle~Ann Alexandria

Cathleen Mary
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Peter,

I am so sorry to hear of Pateicia's death. May you find comfort in knowing what a wonderful caregiver you have been. Please know that you always have a place on this board if you so desire. Your experience enriches all of us and your wisdom would be much appreciated.
Prayers that peace may someday help fill the empty space. May Patricia comfort you from heaven.

Cathleen Mary

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Goldie1
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we are very sorry to hear about your wife passing away. You are in our thoughts. Take care.

Ellen & Pat

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herdizziness
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I am so sorry to hear of her death. May you find comfort in the days to come. Thank you for having shared with us throughout your time on here. We shall miss you. You were Patricia's strength and we are all so proud of you for not only being there every step of the way for her, but also for caring and trying so hard to help her survive. Thank you for sharing your heart with us.
Winter Marie

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geotina
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I am sorry for your loss of Patricia. You both gave it your all. May you find some amount of comfort in the lonely days ahead knowing you did all you could leaving no stone unturned. The CSN board is here for you if you find the need to come back and talk, vent, anything.

Again, sincere condolences on your loss.

Tina

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Doc_Hawk
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I'm so sorry about Patricia. Try to take some comfort knowing she's out of pain.

Ray/Doc

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dmj101
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my condolences..
I am so sorry Peter.. I know your love endured and I am sure she was happy you were there for her.
May you find peace as this most solemn time.
Thank you for all you have contributed here.. and till we meet again.. under better circumstances..
Donna

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thingy45
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Treasure your memories, keep her legacy alife. The love you both shared will always be with you.
So sorry you have to loose the woman you loved so much. It has been a rough year for you, but remember she left you many good memories and those are a treasure.
Go with God, may he grand you peace and acceptance.
Hugs, Marjan

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jjaj133
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I am just heartbroken to read this. I will be praying for you and wish you peace.
Judy

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maglets
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Peter how very kind of you to keep us in the circle

my heart goes out to you...I cannot begin to imagine your pain

I too wish you peace and I offer thanks for your gentle care of Patricia

best best love

maggie

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Varmint5
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I am so sorry for your loss of Patricia, Peter. You both tried so hard. As you move forward and if/when you feel up to it, www.widownet.org is a very good support group for people who have lost a spouse or significant other. I used it when I lost my husband, Bill, and it was a life saver for me. I wish you strength in the days and weeks ahead.

Sandy

here4lfe
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And understanding.

Best

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tina dasilva
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I'm so sorry God Bless

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tina dasilva
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I'm so sorry God Bless

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tina dasilva
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I'm so sorry God Bless

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tina dasilva
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I'm so sorry God Bless

Luckygirl2
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to you and your family during this difficult time.

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tootsie1
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I'm really sorry. Praying for peace for you and your family.

*hugs*
Gail

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Kathleen808
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Peter,
My condolences on the loss of your precious wife Patricia. My prayers go out to you.

Aloha,
Kathleen

spainmum
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Peter,

I am really sorry for your loss, this has broken my heart because like you said on a reply to me the history of this disease on your wife is similar to that of my mother.

Big Hugs to you and your family.

Celeste

MrsJP
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So very sorry for your loss.

Thinking of you all.

jp

lauragb
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Just another person wishing you peace and healing in this difficult time.

relaxoutdoors08
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Joined: May 2011

Peter,
I am so sorry for your loss. It is difficult to find the right words to convey my sorrow in hearing of her loss. Anytime we lose someone here it is so sad. Your message of her journey and the reassurance that her final days were comfortable for her give many of us reassurance. I know when you lose someone it comes as a relief at first to know your loved one is no longer suffering. Prayers for you and your family as you mourn for her.
NB

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Aud
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I am so sorry for the loss of your wife Patricia. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
In the Light,
Audrey

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k44454445
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i am so sorry. take comfort that alot of us are praying for you & your family.
hugs
judy

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Eltina21
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I would like to take this time to send prayers to you and your family. Have a blessed day.

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tachilders
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Deepest condolences for your loss....

smokeyjoe
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So very sorry for your loss. Your posts have been very much appreciated.

flyguide
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I am so sorry for your loss..may you find comfort in your memories and know you will be together again someday..flyguide

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