My mom is 63yo and she was diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer about 8 months ago (brain, bones, and liver mets).
She is a fighter and is doing everything she needs to do in order to feel better. She has chemo treatment every month, completed several radiotherapy sessions for the brain mets. I am her primary care giver and my concern is that I don't think she understands the severity of her condition. I have indirectly asked her if she has any fears and how she feels. All she says is that 'whatever needs to happen, will happen'. And she 'needs to do what must be done'.
We have a great relationship but she is very closed off and has never talked to me about dying or any fears related to that. The doctors have not been clear about the fact that this is a terminal disease and that there is no cure. The rest of my family, including my siblings were always against telling her and possibly taking any hope away from her. I personally believe she should know everything that is happening to her. I don't knw if she knows. I don't know if she wans to know. I don't know if I should say something....
Lately she has been feeling a lot of pain and discomfort. She sleeps a LOT and spends mos of her time in bed... I wonder if this is a sign of final weeks/days? This is so difficult, unpredictable, and painful.
Please let me know if you have any advice. Thank you in advance for your kind soul and heart.
A concerned daughter